Consequences

[hotgfprobs]

Me and my partner after months of talking and fantasy went on the www a year or so ago and posted a profile on a sex forum, interested in a NSA guy to fuck her while i watched and maybe join in myself.

It was real fun picking a guy, she is a sexy girl, works in marketing where her looks help, she and we got lots of interest, messages and offers.

We finally met a guy, seemed ideal, good chemistry for them, i thought great guy, real important he had been with couples before, we figured no problems with lines being crossed, us all cool on what worked for all.

Turned out we 2 got really into it, he had fucked her a few times and then started to get more demanding and dominant, looking back we should have stuck to our guns but she, and me if honest, were getting hooked on the experience -really hot, sex i could not give her, we had all got to trust each other so started trying out stuff we had not planned. Amazing to me but he was saying getting bored with fucking her ??? after few months and well guess part of us wanted to keep it exciting for all 3 so we went along with it all.

Looking back it was all hot but has left us with some problems

Couple pics her below

 

[Nazareth]

Can you be more specific about the problems that have arisen?
Hot story, and she looks great!

 

[2wheel]

She's a looker. Specifics please.

 

[zippless]

Let me first say your wife is really hot

Me and my partner after months of talking and fantasy went on the www a year or so ago and posted a profile on a sex forum, interested in a NSA guy to fuck her while i watched and maybe join in myself.

Hopefully you had talked about limits and boundaries and agreed that if any boundaries were crossed things would stop immediately.

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It was real fun picking a guy, she is a sexy girl, works in marketing where her looks help, she and we got lots of interest, messages and offers.
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As the excitement builds. Of course you got lots of interest did I mention she is really hot.

We finally met a guy, seemed ideal, good chemistry for them, i thought great guy, real important he had been with couples before, we figured no problems with lines being crossed, us all cool on what worked for all.

Never assume anything. Make sure he understands no means no.

Turned out we 2 got really into it, he had fucked her a few times and then started to get more demanding and dominant, looking back we should have stuck to our guns

Yes you should have.

but she, and me if honest, were getting hooked on the experience -really hot, sex i could not give her, we had all got to trust each other so started trying out stuff we had not planned. Amazing to me but he was saying getting bored with fucking her ??? after few months and well guess part of us wanted to keep it exciting for all 3 so we went along with it all.

Here's where you should have realized he was manipulating taking ultimate control. Here's where you need to describe what happened. What boundaries were crossed?

Looking back it was all hot but has left us with some problems.

What sort of problems? Perhaps we can help. Hopefully you are still together. You need to talk about your problems openly or it could ruin your relationship.

 

[SquirmingSub]

As with others here, can you be more specific as to what sort if problems/issues that you as couple began to experience?

 

[hotgfprobs]

Ok so as said not all bad, not trying paint totally dark picture, it had been a long term fantasy for us both and the lead up, flirting with guys online, meeting up and making it happen at time there were a lot of hot times and exciting for us and something special for us.

Issues and problems started when we were seeing the guy, some little and some big. Some we still live with and yes are still together, strong loving relationship. One issue/problem is that experience changed the sexual dynamic, i was her "stud" and now she has had sex i cant give, given guys dominant approach, how he treated her, how pushed boundaries and fact we both became submissive to the guy and situation i see i have become less stud and more sensitive and loving partner. Hard to explain.

Thanks for comments- yes she gorgeous, another pic below

 

[zippless]

Ok so as said not all bad, not trying paint totally dark picture, it had been a long term fantasy for us both and the lead up, flirting with guys online, meeting up and making it happen at time there were a lot of hot times and exciting for us and something special for us.

Issues and problems started when we were seeing the guy, some little and some big. Some we still live with and yes are still together, strong loving relationship. One issue/problem is that experience changed the sexual dynamic, i was her "stud" and now she has had sex i cant give, given guys dominant approach, how he treated her, how pushed boundaries and fact we both became submissive to the guy and situation i see i have become less stud and more sensitive and loving partner. Hard to explain.

Thanks for comments- yes she gorgeous, another pic below

OK thanks for the clarification and I totally get it. I think most couples experience a similar fate at least I did.
Stepping back while some other guy fucks your wife changes the power dynamic forever. Especially if he has an edge over you and makes your wife scream like she has never screamed before.
That's the dichotomy. You want to see her in total sexual rapture and the voyeur in you likes to watch but you still want to be her number one stud.
Truth be told being a stud is not only about sexual prowess but emotional as well. How many men could give their wife the sexual freedom that you have? That takes a kind skill and guts not too many men have. Most couples in a cuckold relationship soon begin to realize this. Their bond becomes deeper sexually and emotionally than most others dare to experience. In her eyes you will be her hero soon if not already.

 

[2wheel]

I get the new dynamic you describe. Even if you didn't partake with another guy things change.

What may make the experience extraordinary isn't the other guy but your presence. Consider your presence the catalyst to her extreme pleasure.

 

[SquirmingSub]

Thank you for the clarification. I would not specially say that you have issues and or problems after your both included the guy into your relationship. As you said, it has been a long term fantasy for you both and sometimes the dynamic in reality is not always the same as the fantasy. It is good that you both have found something special and have had exciting hot times for you both.

Many couples which enter the lifestyle do seem to go through a transitional period and in time find what works for them as a couple. Those couples which do the best within the variations of the lifestyle do seem to have strong loving relationship with a foundation built on open honest judgment free communication. As you have found; you and your wife as a couple have evolved and grown within the lifestyle with the addition of the right man for you as a couple. As you have seen, this can change the sexual dynamic in ways in which you and your wife may not have initially expected when you first chose this path. Some husbands seem to believe that they must retain being the “stud” to be happy within the marriage although this does not have to be the case as you have found. It does take a special husband to encourage and support a wife being true to herself and experiencing a sexual freedom while also having a loving sensitive caring husband at home. As mentioned by @zippless , the bond between a couple which experience the lifestyle in such a ways allows for the development of a bond which is deeper sexually and emotionally than most others dare to experience.

It is good that your wife has found a man in which can provider her something sexually that you cannot provide her. A man which knows how to treat your wife in a way that excites all three of you, a man which can expand the boundaries in a healthy manner and a man which can be dominate to you both as a couple in a way that mutual works for you all. Your wife has the best of both worlds, she has a sensitive loving husband/partner and a sexually fulfilling lover.

 

[hotgfprobs]

I hear what you are all saying. Dynamic and roles and relationship bound to change. Yes do want best for her and yes was alot of fun for her to have 2 lovers, he the A type guy who would get her screaming and just take her, me more the sensual lover type. Hot for me to. She did get into him and the sex, one of the kicks he had was lingerie, to me she is a beauty naked !! but he really got off fucking her when she dressed for him. A control and dominance thing i think that emerged over time with other stuff, her dressing for him to fuck her. As said lots of what he pushed for was fun eg the dressing up, but little steps became bigger and that's what caused some problems then and now- the bigger boundaries he moved and pushed for.

Couple pics below- she often sent him some sexy pics and i took some photos of her for her and him also.

 

[MFMdotSEX]

Wow! She is amazing!

I think it's great that you've found a right guy, which your wife enjoys. You've opened something new for her, because you love her.
Maybe you don't have something that this guy has, but you do have other qualities and that's why she loves YOU.

Just love your wife, not try to be another guy. She loves you, not him. Wish you love!

 

[Custer Laststand]

.... Yes, we are still together and still have a strong loving relationship.

Good.

One problem is, that experience changed [our] sexual dynamic. I was her "stud." Now, she has had sex I can't give her — given her bull's dominant approach, how he treated her, how he pushed her and our boundaries, and the fact that we both became submissive to the guy. The situation I see is, I have become less stud and more sensitive and loving partner.

From the point of view of your relationship with your woman, it sounds like the result of her taking a bull who was demonstrably better in bed than you, as well as more dominant, has been positive.

Was that your woman's only bull since the beginning of her relationship with you? If she were to date and seduce additional bulls, perhaps there would be additional positive affects on your relationship.

 

[KarenMWSlut4Blacks]

Why are you surprised that he wanted to move on?

She is your wife not his - he was just fucking her for you.

I've only ever met guys for good sex and if they are looking for romance they need to move on because I have a husband and although we haven't has sex for over 18 years it does not mean were not in love or want to spend quality time together. I think that if I'd had romantic relationships with all the guys I'd sex with we'd have grown apart and probably divorced long ago.

So the secret to our long , 28 years and counting, and happy marriage is that we've been able to enjoy an alternative sex-life, I fuck black guys and Rob thinks about it and masturbates, without letting it intrude into our family life.

For me the reason for a wife to cuckold her husband, is to have a vastly improved sex-life not for her to be looking for or finding a new partner or husband. Lets be blunt - if I was a guy I would be referred to as a stud and any man would be proud to be known as one - it is just my misfortune that women who do the exactly same thing are called sluts - we're expected to be ashamed of it but I'm over being shy about my sex life and it doesn't both me to know that some jealous people think I'm a slut - in truth - I am a slut and proud of it.

 

[gatorrdw]

I voted yes, due to a long shared wife marriage. You will have some things happen when you are dealing with some of the men you share your wife with. There has to be a very strong bond between you and your partner, wife, girlfriend. The two of you should set some boundaries and both try hard to keep them. This lifestyle is for both of you to enjoy as your wife gets to have the pleasures of being a truly sexual woman.

KarenMW, is correct when women enjoy their sexuality other people call them sluts. My wife wrote in her diary/journal in capital letters one night that and I quote " YES, I'M A SLUT, BUT I'M GTR'S SLUT AND HE LOVES ME THAT WAY AND I LOVE HIM FOR IT." Work on it and enjoy it. GTR

 

[koji]

Why are you surprised that he wanted to move on?

She is your wife not his - he was just fucking her for you.

I've only ever met guys for good sex and if they are looking for romance they need to move on because I have a husband and although we haven't has sex for over 18 years it does not mean were not in love or want to spend quality time together. I think that if I'd had romantic relationships with all the guys I'd sex with we'd have grown apart and probably divorced long ago.

So the secret to our long , 28 years and counting, and happy marriage is that we've been able to enjoy an alternative sex-life, I fuck black guys and Rob thinks about it and masturbates, without letting it intrude into our family life.

For me the reason for a wife to cuckold her husband, is to have a vastly improved sex-life not for her to be looking for or finding a new partner or husband. Lets be blunt - if I was a guy I would be referred to as a stud and any man would be proud to be known as one - it is just my misfortune that women who do the exactly same thing are called sluts - we're expected to be ashamed of it but I'm over being shy about my sex life and it doesn't both me to know that some jealous people think I'm a slut - in truth - I am a slut and proud of it.

i dare not say I am more experienced in such matters than all of you here but I feel that swinging or fucking others (be it if you are a man or woman) should be just for fun in these instances. And I agree with karen too, no doubt such behaviour of women fucking other men would usually lead to the woman being associated as a slut. But one should not be too quick to judge about others' behaviours and lifestyles. I would consider the word 'slut' in this case to be a woman who knows how to seek sexual enjoyment for herself and is not afraid to express her sexual behaviour and lifestyle. That should be the mature way of thinking as with how we think of the word 'stud'

Glad to hear you're proud of it karen and keep it up!