my gf has no idea of my fetish and i have no idea where to go with it

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  1. cooladrio

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    we are both 23 years old, i have a cuckold fantasy mainly her cheating, i want to tell her so we can just start out by roleplaying together but don't know how to introduce it? or if i even should as I'm embarrassed?
     
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    why not start talked about general fantasies and see how she reacts to them. Better still have you asked her if she has any fantasies of her own. Be open minded about it :)
     
  3. slinger137

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    approach it slowly. watch porn together and flick some cuckold porn into it. maybe leave on your computer a literotica cuckold story open or a hotwife story. she might ask you then. say you just came across that and read it a bit but a friend called. then read it together and if she reacts negative stand for yourself and say you think its kinda hot...

    also ask for what she likes dreams or fantasizes that turns her on...
     
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    s_wimp Dirty stories and a curious gf
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    I like that idea, I'm going to find some videos for us to watch.
     
  5. SandyWho

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    I always preface advice by "Be careful what you wish for!" Not knowing how close your relationship is, I would caution that this may cause her to think that you were not serious about her. Think about it from her view, if one of my boyfriends had said, " I think your great and love you but I want you to go fuck other guys" my first reaction would be he wants us to break up or he wants to be my pimp. In either case, I would slap him and go find a guy who want to be with me alone.

    Approach things slowly. There is time and opportunity to explore where you want to take things.
     
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    Good advice as always, Sandy. Its the old "Women are from Venus; Men are from Mars" thing. We just think differently. Husbands are not very good usually at "reading" their wives, but that is what they need to do. Observe her and read what her general attitudes are about sex and various sexual situations. Introduce these concepts slowly and judge her reactions. Back off when you need to. And remember......... this is not for everyone. Personally, I live a very free sex life, but it all began after my husband and I separated.
     
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    It is truly best when everyone (husband and wife) can have truly open honest judgment free communication. For a man approaching this topic with his wife or girl-friend, you truly do need to have a strong connection and as Sandy mentioned, "Be careful what you wish for!"
     
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    yup - the dynamics can be really strange
     
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    Did you ever talk to her
     
  10. Ben Steel

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    I'm not sure why no one is mentioned having a direct and honest conversation with your girlfriend. Think about her objections ahead of time and have some answers prepared:

    1. She may think you're using this as an excuse to fuck other women
    2. She may think you don't love or respect her
    3. She may be worried that you will secretly hate her after she does it.
    4. She may not understand WHY you want this
    5. Depending on her own beliefs she may feel "dirty" about this.

    Perform a litmus test first.

    Tell her you read an article on something recently that you found fascinating and you want to get her opinion on it. See what she says and how she reacts to the idea.

    If she needs reading material, I have plenty on my site

    - Ben Steel
    https://www.thecuckoldscave.com
     

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