Please make her pregnant (not a joke, this *%$&@ real)

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Dear troubled, sorry if you said already but is your wifes lover black or white? COuld that help you determine who is the father at delivery or will there be any testing.....or does it matter.
 
Hello cleaner,

Well, actually he is white, like me.
My wife however is black.
 
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Troubled - so which are you truly hoping for genetically speaking. Do you prefer that you are the biological sperm donor or that of the other man? I am sure we all understand that you will be the father, the dad of record no matter whom the dominate sperm come from.
 
Good luck, Trubled,, for your amazing new adventure
 
Soon you will have to start preparing for the new baby, getting some 0-size clothes, maternity bras, cot, pram, etc.

Include Carl as much as possible, as his sperm did the deed to help you and your wife have a baby. In some ways, Carl is the "best man", and if you treat him with respect, he may be able to breed you a whole family of 3-5 children.

Carl deserves to have the key to your door, and be able to visit and sleep with your wife as often as he feels the urges over the next few years.
 
Saraha said:
Soon you will have to start preparing for the new baby, getting some 0-size clothes, maternity bras, cot, pram, etc.

Include Carl as much as possible, as his sperm did the deed to help you and your wife have a baby. In some ways, Carl is the "best man", and if you treat him with respect, he may be able to breed you a whole family of 3-5 children.

Carl deserves to have the key to your door, and be able to visit and sleep with your wife as often as he feels the urges over the next few years.

Trouble - Sarah is on the mark with this one.
 
I guess I should give an update.

The pregnancy is going well, although she has had some issues with morning sickness.
Personally I think she is also having more mood swings than normal, but she doesnt agree with that herself.

Secondly our family has already found out about the baby.
My mother realized my wife is pregnant really fast, even before it was visible imho.
I suspect she can tell because my wife has this pregnancy 'glow' on her face, but I am not sure.
To be honest I wasnt actually ready to tell anyone yet, but o well.


Then on to the the other news: my wife and her 'boyfriend' are now meeting regularly, sometimes even once a week.

I was not very happy about this when I found out.
My wife and me intially decided to be very quiet after finding out she was pregnant, as she did not want to risk the pregancy.
So we did not have sex for several weeks after she got pregnant. She even stayed home from work to rest.

But then I began to notice she was texting a lot, and she even started hiding the messages from me.
I actually became quite angry. After talking about it, she kinda told me that I had started this, so I needed to finish it...
After that she began texting very openly. She is a real tease, and knows how to play me and my fantasies.

Then one day out of the blue she send me a message at work, to inform me she had just 'met' with her 'boyfriend'.
At that time my wife and me were still abstaining from sex, in order not to risk the pregnancy.
She told me she had gotten very horny, and she needed to be fucked, so she simply asked him to come over.

And I am not sure if it is because of the pregnancy or because of her 'boyfriend', but her sexdrive has been in overdrive since then. Since then my wife and me do have sex now and then, but he is certainly getting the better the deal here!

On top of this my wife has started planning the baby room. I think it is a bit soon, but she insist she wants it to be done now. Well, it turns out her 'boyfriend' is a real handy man, which I am absolutely not. I normally spend my days working with computers and stuff.

So he generously offered to help her making the new baby room... and this means he has been around a lot of lately.
You can guess what else has been going on when he is around.


Meanwhile I am getting less sex. It has me worried.

So anyway, about a year ago I bought myself a cheap chinese 'chastity belt' sextoy, hoping to increase our sexlife.
Back then she thought it was funny, but quickly decided I should wear this anytime he is around.
To be real, it is a very cheap toy, not even remotely secure. Nothing serious, just for having some fun.

Before the pregnancy she would lock me only when he was in the house, as part of playing "the game".
But the pregnancy is making her much hornier, and it seems she is really beginning to enjoy the fantasy now.
So now she is starting to suggest she may want me locked up even more. I am really unsure about it.

She has told me she loves me, and that she wants to raise this baby with me.
And she is adamant that he is just a sperm donor and basically just a fuckbuddy to her.
She says she doesnt love him, and I dont have to be afraid, because she will always love me.

Still as he is getting more sex, I seem to be getting less and less. To be honest I am a little worried.
Personally I believe she has a serious crush on him, and she is taking full advantage of the situation as it is.
However I have decided to trust her and just wait and see where this goes for now.

Should I get angry instead?

I know it sounds kinda crazy. Certainly seems crazy writing it down, as I do now.
The whole thing has evolved slowly, step by step. I would never have expected to find myself in this situation at all.
Of course I epxected changes due to the pregnancy, but things have really taken an odd turn.

Well it is what it is, I guess.

And one thing is absolutely true: she is certainly in the driver seat right now.
 
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It's hard to predict how a wife may react to certain lifestyle changes that involve extramarital sex. Naturally, the same holds true for the man.
Your story 'reads' as if it is unfolding differently than you may have imagined. Not necessarily bad, just different.
I hate that there are circumstances that are causing you to become angry and I hope you are able to resolve them.
Otherwise, pregnancy aside, she sounds like a cuckold's dream!
 
troubled_cuck said:
I guess I should give an update.

Thanks. Your situation is interesting.

troubled_cuck said:
The pregnancy is going well, although [my wife] has had some issues with morning sickness.

Good. (That happens.)

troubled_cuck said:
In other news: my wife and her 'boyfriend' are now meeting regularly, sometimes even once a week.

It would be appropriate now to refer to him, and think of him, as your wife's lover. Since they began their affair and your wife became pregnant — something she wanted more than anything else in the world — and since he is the one who inseminated her, they have bonded emotionally. It was unrealistic for you to think of him as just a one-night-stand sperm donor (if you did), whom she would forget about after successfully becoming pregnant.

troubled_cuck said:
I was not very happy about this when I found out.

But, you should have expected it. You continue to be your wife's husband, but you are enroute to becoming her child's daddy (not biological father).

troubled_cuck said:
My wife and I did not have sex for several weeks after she got pregnant. She even stayed home from work to rest.

This represents a misunderstanding of biology. Apparently many women, after becoming pregnant, become unusually horny and give (and expect) lots of sex from their husbands. A (somewhat hypothetical, I gather) reason for this is so their husbands will be satiated and thus better able to withstand the long dry spells after they give birth, during which all the mother's attention and energy are focussed on their new child.

Thus, by denying sex for 3 weeks to your newly-pregnant and thus newly-more-horny wife, you drove her... in essence... more strongly into the arms of her lover.

troubled_cuck said:
But then I began to notice she was texting a lot, and she even started hiding the messages from me. I actually became quite angry.

That was an inappropriate response.

troubled_cuck said:
After talking about it, she told me that I had started this, so I needed to finish it.

That wasn't a challenge to fight, or a challenge to do something vis-a-vis her lover that could result in spending the rest of your life in prison. It was a statement that she now has a lover who is the biological father of her child, so you need to learn to live with that.

troubled_cuck said:
After that she began texting very openly. She is a real tease, and knows how to play me and my fantasies.

It's strongly positive that your wife is now telling you openly about her activities with her lover. Almost, many cuckolds on this forum are strongly envious of you.

If your wife knows how to tease you and play on your fantasies, and has begun doing so, that too is strongly positive. I suggest sitting back, relaxing, and allowing yourself to be turned on by her teasing. Enjoy the ride.

troubled_cuck said:
Then one day out of the blue she send me a message at work, to inform me she had just 'met' with her 'boyfriend'. At that time my wife and me were still abstaining from sex, in order not to risk the pregnancy. She told me she had gotten very horny, and she needed to be fucked, so she simply asked him to come over.

Your wife is being unusually honest with you. Many cuckolds are envious of your position.

troubled_cuck said:
And I am not sure if it is because of the pregnancy or because of her 'boyfriend', but her sexdrive has been in overdrive since then. Since then my wife and me do have sex now and then, but he is certainly getting the better the deal here!

See above.

troubled_cuck said:
On top of this my wife has started planning the baby room. I think it is a bit soon, but she insist she wants it to be done now. Well, it turns out her 'boyfriend' is a real handy man, which I am absolutely not. I normally spend my days working with computers and stuff.

So much the better. Your wife's lover is saving you the agony of having to become an incompetent carpenter, and is keeping her sexually satisfied as well.

troubled_cuck said:
About a year ago, I bought myself a cheap chinese 'chastity belt' sextoy, hoping to increase our sexlife. Back then she thought it was funny, but quickly decided I should wear this anytime [her lover] is around.

Your wife quickly saw the advantages to her...

troubled_cuck said:
To be real, it is a very cheap toy, not even remotely secure. Nothing serious, just for having some fun. Before the pregnancy she would lock me only when [her lover] was in the house, as part of playing "the game." But, the pregnancy is making her much hornier and it seems she is really beginning to enjoy the fantasy now.

You mean, the reality of keeping you in a chastity device and being your sole key-holder...

troubled_cuck said:
So now she is starting to suggest she may want me locked up even more. I am really unsure about it.

I suggest abandoning your cheap-toy Chinese knock-off chastity device, and purchasing a real one. Reviews, illustrations, and recommendations of a variety of them can be found (for instance) here:

Wife led husband in chastity device (reviews & photos of different devices):
http://secretchastityhusband.blogsp...-devices-queens-keep.html?zx=71d5497f1d0576c5

troubled_cuck said:
She has told me she loves me, and she wants to raise this baby with me.

Your wife is giving you all she can. You are a fortunate cuckold.

troubled_cuck said:
Still, as he is getting more sex, I seem to be getting less and less. To be honest, I am a little worried. Personally I believe she has a serious crush on him, and she is taking full advantage.

When one's wife takes a lover, what you're experiencing is pretty much the way it is — if he impregnates her, even more so.

troubled_cuck;642184 However said:
That's the right decision. You need to accept your wife's statement that she loves you and wants you to help her raise her child.

troubled_cuck said:
Should I get angry instead?

No. That would be the worst thing you could do. It would drive your wife into secret trysts with her lover, which would destroy trust between the two of you, and could easily lead to divorce... followed by your wife marrying her lover.

troubled_cuck said:
I know it sounds kinda crazy. Certainly seems crazy writing it down. The whole thing has evolved slowly, step by step. I would never have expected to find myself in this situation at all.

You wanted your wife to make you her cuckold. Now, her cuckold is what you are. "Not expecting" your current situation resulted from a failure of insight into the biological aspects of male/female relationships.

troubled_cuck said:
One thing is absolutely true: she is certainly in the driver seat right now.

When a married woman takes a lover with (or, oftentimes, without) the acquiescence and encouragement of her husband — be it for reasons of wanting to become pregnant, but her husband can't manage that, or because she wants increased sexual satisfaction — such that her husband becomes her self-acknowledged cuckold, the woman moves into the drivers seat in their relationship. That's pretty much the way it is.

If the woman's cuckold can't handle that, the usual outcome is divorce. That would cost you your wife (who loves you), your child-to-be, and could be very expensive as well. I hope that isn't what you want.
 
A randy, pregnant woman needs a man to help her through the pregnancy and with the rearing of the baby to adulthood.

Some husbands take a back seat, and feel unloved and unwanted when the baby takes centre stage. Sex helps to keep the relationship super-glued, but without it some men will drift away looking for someone (else) to chat to (or fuck).
 
Troubled Cuck,

Re. your previous post:

troubled_cuck said:
I guess I should give an update. ... etc ...

You should not interpret my reply (above) as criticism of your feelings and/or the feelings that you, and your wife and her lover who impregnated her, are experiencing.

Rather, it was an attempt to point out that your responses — from the point of view of a husband in a judeo-christian culture — are not consistent with the reality of the feelings that your wife and her lover are experiencing, from a human / biological point of view, especially given that her lover impregnated her with your encouragement.

My reply was also an attempt to forestall the kind of outcome that appeared, the same day I wrote my comments, in my local newspaper — which, unfortunately, is all too common. Here's what happened (as described in the article).

1) The wife of a local man is blind. She had a male caretaker. The woman, her husband, and the caretaker were all in their fifties.

2) The caretaker took the woman to his home (for reasons I don't recall being specified), while her husband was working. She was there overnight. He then returned her to her home.

3) The next day, the woman called her caretaker and said he should come to her home. He did so.

4) There, the caretaker found her husband waiting for him at the end of their driveway.

5) When the caretaker got out of his vehicle, the husband began punching him.

6) The caretaker, fearing for his safety, drew a concealed handgun he was carrying and shot and killed the husband. (I live in one of the many U.S. states where the legislature has unwisely [this would be an understatement] passed a law legalizing the carrying of a concealed gun by anyone who wishes to do so, without a license and without having to demonstrate any competence at al in the use of firearms, concealed or otherwise.)

7) The caretaker (/shooter) was sentenced, on the day I replied to your post, to 20 years in prison without parole, for first-degree murder.

The legislature of the state I live has also enacted, even more unwisely (if that's possible), a so-called "shoot first" law which legalizes someone shooting someone else, if the shooter interprets the shootee as "personally threatening" him or her. The article said nothing about the convicted caretaker/lover attempting to invoke this law (his sentence resulted from a plea bargain). If he did attempt to invoke the "shoot first" law, the court apparently disregarded it.

Ergo, the result of the husband failing to understand his (blind) wife's need for adequate sexual satisfaction, and the fact that she apparently fucked her caregiver did not mean she did not love him, was: (1) he's dead; and (2) his wife's caregiver is spending the next 20 years of his life in prison; and (3) his blind wife no longer has a caregiver nor a husband.

I hope you are not on your way toward a similar outcome.

I also hope you will continue to fill us in as your situation evolves.

Thanks in advance—

Custer
 
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Well guys, it is high time I should write another update. A lot has happened since my last post here.

First, the pregnancy is going well, the doctors tell us everything is progressing as it should. After trying so many times, this is really a huge relieve. Initially my wife was certain the baby is mine, but by now she says she doesn't really care that much. She is happy we are finally starting a family.

However things have not been so well in our marriage the last few weeks. A week or so after my last post my anger and jealousy finally got the better of me, and it turned into a big argument. My wife and me never really argue, but this time it became a real fight. Things got out of hand so much that looking back it could easily have ended our marriage.

The trouble started after I got home and found out Carl had paid my wife another visit that afternoon. As you may guess, he did not come over just to help decorating the new baby room. This time I finally let my wife know I wasn't very happy, and that I felt she was giving Carl way to much attention. My jealousy finally got out of control. I kinda went into fight mode and told her in my view he was seriously intruding in our marriage and if this didn't stop I might flat out confront him about it.

She became emotional, and the whole thing turned into a big confrontation. I haven't seen her angry like this ever before.
My wife accused me of being the one who had been wanting her to get pregnant by Carl. She told me I should to suck it up an finish what I had started. I told her I did not want to go on like this, and that I was feeling I had become into the third wheel on the wagon. I pretty much told her I did not want to be married like this.

Well, she got very upset after I said that. First she went quiet, she packed some clothes, then without saying a word she just walked out the door. At this point I honestly figured my marriage was over. I remember thinking she most likely would run off to Carl's place. If so, I was mentally planning our divorce.

Fortunately she didn't. The thing is my wife was born in Africa, and she made a wiser choice by going back to her old African traditions. One of them is that whenever a couple has a serious fight, the wife should bring the dispute over to her mother-in-law, in an attempt to fix the situation. Apparently I am expected to do the same, except of course her mother lives in Africa, thousands of miles away.

So anyway, about 09:00 that evening I got a disturbing call from my very own mother.
By then my sister and her husband had also arrived there, which meant my entire family was there talking to my wife about the fight we she and I had had. My mother practically summoned me to come over, leaving me no choice except to go over there and deal with it.

At that point my heart sunk in my chest, thinking my wife had just outed the whole situation with Carl to my entire family. But to my great relief she had not. All they know is we had a big fight, and I had threatened to walk out on her.
However this actually put me in a difficult spot, since I could not properly explain why I was so angry with her, without mentioning Carl. This meant that in the end my entire family was supporting her instead of me, leaving me as the evil culprit of the entire situation.

But we did manage to talk. A lot of things came out that night. I was finally able to tell my wife how neglected I had felt.
As it turns out however my wife also told me she had been feeling seriously neglected by me as well.
She complained I was not supporting her enough, and was not helping her enough with the household, especially now that she is pregnant. Most importantly she says I haven't been giving her enough attention. She has been feeling that way ever since we got married.

In the end we did a lot of talking that night, and we have been talking ever since. It was well after 02:00 AM that my wife and me were more or less sent on our way home. While driving home together, I realized we still needed to talk about Carl, so halfway home I quietly steered the car to an empty interstate rest area/parking. There we talked for over hour about the whole setup and finally we managed to tell each other how we both really felt.

We ended up having a make-up sex there right in the parking lot, and for the first time since her pregnancy I felt we finally were connecting again. It was the first time my wife and me ever had sex in a car. It was mind-blowing, and more so knowing there was a real chance someone might notice us. I have heard plenty of people talking about having great make-up sex after a big fight, but this was honestly the first time I got to experience this for myself.

Another thing that has happened since is that she has started seeing Carl a lot less. Partly because the babyroom is mostly done, except for some paint. But I also noticed that recently she seems less smitten with Carl, I am not sure, but I think something may have happened between the two of them. She says she still intends to see him regularly, but she recently hasn't been talking and texting with him as much as she did before.

My wife and me however have been much closer since. Sexually it is like we are completely rediscovering each other.
Like I said I our marriage has changed a lot since that evening, we are moving in a direction that I never thought might happen. In particular she has now truly started taking control in our marriage. Just as an example, she finally has me wearing a chastity cage, and it is almost 24/7.

I have always known my wife should be in charge in our relationship. Only recently however has she began to embrace this role without feeling much guilt about it. It goes against her African upbringing, when she was taught the husband should be the head of the household. Truth is she likes being in control, and I do not mind when she is.Now she is asking less questions, and seems comfortable ordering me around, when she feels she needs to. It feels right, I wish she had this a long time ago.

OK guys, this post is already getting way out of hand again, so I will try to explain more in a later post.
I hope this text hasn't been to long, I do tend to write way to much, my apologies for that.

Your feedback is greatly appreciated, as always!
 
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Thanks for that, Troubled Cuck. From time to time I've wondered how things were going between you and your wife. Your update is really interesting.

I'll comment further somewhat later.

Meanwhile, happy holidays to both of you!

—Custer
 
Custer Laststand said:
Troubled Cuck,

Re. your previous post:

You should not interpret my reply (above) as criticism of your feelings and/or the feelings that you, and your wife and her lover who impregnated her, are experiencing.

Rather, it was an attempt to point out that your responses — from the point of view of a husband in a judeo-christian culture — are not consistent with the reality of the feelings that your wife and her lover are experiencing, from a human / biological point of view, especially given that her lover impregnated her with your encouragement.

My reply was also an attempt to forestall the kind of outcome that appeared, the same day I wrote my comments, in my local newspaper — which, unfortunately, is all too common. Here's what happened (as described in the article).

1) The wife of a local man is blind. She had a male caretaker. The woman, her husband, and the caretaker were all in their fifties.

2) The caretaker took the woman to his home (for reasons I don't recall being specified), while her husband was working. She was there overnight. He then returned her to her home.

3) The next day, the woman called her caretaker and said he should come to her home. He did so.

4) There, the caretaker found her husband waiting for him at the end of their driveway.

5) When the caretaker got out of his vehicle, the husband began punching him.

6) The caretaker, fearing for his safety, drew a concealed handgun he was carrying and shot and killed the husband. (I live in one of the many U.S. states where the legislature has unwisely [this would be an understatement] passed a law legalizing the carrying of a concealed gun by anyone who wishes to do so, without a license and without having to demonstrate any competence at al in the use of firearms, concealed or otherwise.)

7) The caretaker (/shooter) was sentenced, on the day I replied to your post, to 20 years in prison without parole, for first-degree murder.

The legislature of the state I live has also enacted, even more unwisely (if that's possible), a so-called "shoot first" law which legalizes someone shooting someone else, if the shooter interprets the shootee as "personally threatening" him or her. The article said nothing about the convicted caretaker/lover attempting to invoke this law (his sentence resulted from a plea bargain). If he did attempt to invoke the "shoot first" law, the court apparently disregarded it.

Ergo, the result of the husband failing to understand his (blind) wife's need for adequate sexual satisfaction, and the fact that she apparently fucked her caregiver did not mean she did not love him, was: (1) he's dead; and (2) his wife's caregiver is spending the next 20 years of his life in prison; and (3) his blind wife no longer has a caregiver nor a husband.

I hope you are not on your way toward a similar outcome.

I also hope you will continue to fill us in as your situation evolves.

Thanks in advance—

Custer

"An eye for an eye", "a punch for a punch". "Death for some Punches" is an in-balance, an excessive defence.

If the Contract has a penalty clause of "a pound of fat being taken from around the heart" if you default, then the rest of the body cannot be harmed. There is a famous Trial about that back in the world of Shakespeare.

If someone punches you, you shouldn't shoot them dead automatically - rather you should back off 5 paces, drop something on the ground as a marker, and warn them that if they deliberately cross that mark, they run the risk of being arrested, or alternatively shot in self defence.
 
"Love your neighbor", but get permission first.

That mantra is a friendly warning, coz not every guy wants to share his trophy wife with other sex-starved men.

If your neighbour says you can, then it is not adultery.
 
troubled_cuck said:
[My wife’s] pregnancy is going well, the doctors tell us everything is progressing as it should.

Good. Continuing pre-natal care is important.

troubled_cuck said:
After trying so many times, this is really a huge relief. Initially, my wife was certain the baby is mine. Now, she says she doesn't really care that much. She is happy we are finally starting a family.

Sounds like your wife has brought herself around to acceptance of the (probable) truth…

troubled_cuck said:
However, things have not been so well in our marriage the last few weeks. A week or so after my last post, my anger and jealousy finally got the better of me and it turned into a big argument. My wife and I never really argue, but this time it became a real fight. Things got out of hand so much that, looking back, it could easily have ended our marriage.

The need to successfully keep your tendencies toward anger and jealousy under control was, of course, what my post (above) was all about, in which I recounted the recent conviction, here in my home town, of a man who had shot and killed a husband while the husband was assaulting him because of anger and jealousy.

Clarification: contrary to what Saraha seems to think, I most definitely was not “advocating” that in any way, shape or form. Rather, I recounted that incident as a cautionary tale.

troubled_cuck said:
The trouble started after I got home, and found out Carl [my wife’s lover] had paid her another visit that afternoon. As you may guess, he did not come over just to help decorate the new baby room. This time, I finally let my wife know I wasn't very happy and I felt she was giving Carl way too much attention. My jealousy finally got out of control. I went into fight mode, and told her in my view, he was seriously intruding in our marriage, and if this didn't stop, I might flat out confront him about it.

Confronting your wife’s lover Carl in a state of anger would definitely be dangerous for both of you.

troubled_cuck said:
She became emotional, and the whole thing turned into a big confrontation. I hadn't seen her angry like this ever before. My wife accused me of being the one who had been wanting her to get pregnant by Carl. She told me I should suck it up, and finish what I had started.

She had a good point…

troubled_cuck said:
I told her I did not want to go on like this, and that I was feeling I had become a third wheel on our wagon. I pretty much told her I did not want to be married like this.

Arguably, “third wheel on our marital scooter” would have been a better analogy. But, your meaning is not in doubt…

troubled_cuck said:
She got very upset after I said that. First she went quiet, then she packed some clothes, then… without saying a word… she walked out the door. I honestly thought my marriage was over. I remember thinking she most likely would run off to Carl's place. If so, I was mentally planning our divorce.

Your blow-out and your wife’s response does, in fact, sound like a potential marriage-ender….

troubled_cuck said:
Fortunately, she didn't. My wife was born in Africa, and she made a wiser choice based on her African traditions. One of them is, whenever a couple has a serious fight, the wife should attempt to fix the situation by bringing the dispute to her mother-in-law. Apparently, I am expected to do the same — except, of course, her mother lives in Africa, thousands of miles away.

I interpret this as implying it’s more important to your wife to carry her pregnancy to completion successfully, and raise her child in a family that includes you as husband and father (in effect, if not as biological father), thereby maximizing her child’s (and her) chances of surviving and doing well, than to “punish” you by seeking solace in her lover Carl — which your wife, like you, probably recognized as an action with high divorce potential.

troubled_cuck said:
So, about 09:00 that evening I got a disturbing call from my very own mother.
By then, my sister and her husband had also arrived there, which meant my entire family was there talking to my wife about the fight she and I had. My mother practically summoned me to come over, leaving me no choice but to go there and deal with it.

Your mother sounds like an mpressive woman. Her summons has a more compelling sound about it than (say) a summons to serve on jury duty…

troubled_cuck said:
My heart sank in my chest I assumed my wife had just outed our whole situation with Carl to my entire family. But, to my great relief, she had not. All they know is, we had a big fight and I had threatened to walk out on her.

Your wife’s pregnancy rendered that in itself an emergency situation, regardless of the details of why it happened. I mean, hey — married couples fight about all sorts of things. Your family members… guided by your mother, I gather… seemed to recognize that if they enquired about the “why” of your fight, the need to resolve it could easily be lost as they chose sides and began fighting among themselves about who was “right.”

But, it’s easy to see it must have been a profound relief to realize your family seemed to know nothing about why you and your wife had fought, and that the reason(s) did not even seem to concern them.

troubled_cuck said:
This, however, put me in a difficult spot, since I could not properly explain why I was so angry with my wife without mentioning Carl. This meant that in the end, my entire family supported her instead of me, leaving me as the evil culprit of the entire situation.
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This appears to be an undesirable outcome only if you fail to recognize the underlying imperative, which is your wife’s pregnancy and the exigency that it would be a disaster for all of them if you abandoned her and her child-to-be.

troubled_cuck said:
But we did manage to talk. A lot of things came out that night. I was finally able to tell my wife how neglected I had felt. As it turns out, however, my wife also told me she had been feeling seriously neglected by me as well. She complained I was not supporting her enough, and was not helping her enough with the household, especially now that she is pregnant. Most importantly, she says I haven't been giving her enough attention. She has been feeling that way ever since we got married.

This is the classic complaint of married women everywhere. During the romance phase of their relationships, their husbands-to-be pull out all the stops and treat them like princesses. After their marriages, their husbands drift off into the classic judeo-christian view that it is the proper role and job of their wives to “honor and obey” them and do all the housework, including most of the work in raising their children, while they earn money to support their families — and, after getting home each day, put their feet up and read their newspapers. This despite, in the vast majority of marital households now, both the husband and wife work outside the home.

troubled_cuck said:
In the end we did a lot of talking that night, and we have been talking ever since. It was well after 02:00 AM that my wife and me were more or less sent on our way home.

Excellent. Your wife was very wise in opting for this method of handling your fight, and your mother (I gather) was very wise in guiding your enforced, so to speak, meeting with your family members. A whole lot of families, and indeed married couples individually, find it impossible to talk with each other about important problems of an interpersonal nature.

troubled_cuck said:
While driving home together, I realized we still needed to talk about Carl, so halfway home I quietly steered the car to an empty interstate rest and parking area. There, we talked for over an hour about everything, and finally managed to tell each other how we both really felt. We ended up having make-up sex there right in the parking lot, and for the first time since her pregnancy I felt we finally were connecting again.

Sounds like a genuine expression of love…

troubled_cuck said:
It was the first time my wife and I ever had sex in a car. It was mind-blowing — more so, knowing there was a real chance someone might see us. I have heard plenty of people talking about having great make-up sex after a big fight, but this was honestly the first time I experienced of itr myself.

Risk of discovery can render sex extremely erotic; the higher the risk, the more intense it seems…

troubled_cuck said:
Another thing that has happened since is, my wife has started seeing her lover Carl a lot less. Partly it’s because the baby room is mostly done, except for some paint. But, I also noticed that recently she seems less smitten with Carl. I am not sure, but I think something may have happened between the two of them.

It’s tempting to speculate that Carl — having impregnated your wife, and having had continuing sex with her afterwards, and having donated his labor as a skilled carpenter to prepare a baby room — had feelings of “ownership” of your wife. If she… given your reconciliation… told him she wanted to see him less, they may have fought over that.

troubled_cuck said:
She says she still intends to see him regularly, but she recently hasn't been talking and texting with him as much as she did before.

You have not yet defined “regularly,” but if your wife (or any married woman) were to see her lover, say, about once per week, that would certainly be reasonable.

I suggest negotiating an agreement that, for the sake of avoiding major fights and preserving your marriage, your wife not see her lover all night followed by all the following day, nor for two or more nights and days consecutively. I also suggest you agree that, while your wife is with her lover, you will babysit and care for her infant and, later, her child (or children).

troubled_cuck said:
My wife and I have been much closer since then. Sexually, it is like we are completely rediscovering each other. As I said, our marriage has changed a lot since that evening. We are moving in a direction that I never thought might happen. In particular, my wife has truly started taking control in our marriage. For example, she finally has me wearing a chastity cage almost 24/7.

This may be more natural than you think. Your description of your mother taking control when your wife went to her and told her about your fight implies your mother is a strong woman with a dominant personality. Your descriptions of your wife, especially in this post, suggest she is a strong woman with a dominant personality. Ergo, while romancing your wife, you may have been subconsciously looking for a woman with your mother’s personality characteristics (regardless of racial differences).

If your wife takes lovers with your agreement… i.e., if she and you have a cuckold husband / hotwife form of marriage… and, even if you don’t, if your wife wishes to be in charge of her relationship with you, and if she also wishes to keep your tendency to sometimes become angry under control, then keeping you in a chastity cage, with her your sole key holder, should arguably be considered a best practice.

But, I hope your wife is not still requiring you to wear the cheap made-in-China toy chastity device you mentioned a while back. Those knock-offs are notorious for being uncomfortable, sometimes painful, and easy to escape from. Aficionados in this forum seem to recommend stainless steel devices as best and most reliable. If your wife has not yet found a good one for you, she’ll see there are many available if she googles “mail chastity devices.” Their use seems to be becoming increasingly widespread. Perhaps she could require you to save up for one that’s suitably high quality, and purchase it yourself.

troubled_cuck said:
I have always known my wife should be in charge in our relationship.

This seems to be the way marriages evolve in which the wife takes lovers and her husband accepts that… i.e., among couples who have cuckold husband / hotwife marriages. Arguably it’s a good form of marriage in many cases, even if the wife does not take lovers. In your case, you’re assisted by your apparently-natural tendency to view that as appropriate.

Lady Misato’s site provides a guide to wife-led marriages. See

Real Women Don’t Do Housework, here:
http://rwddh.com/index.html

(or, you can google it). It’s somewhat lengthy but psychologically-oriented and intriguing. One should read the sections in order, listed at left under the picture. I suggest also introducing your wife to this site. It’s well-suited to marriages in which the wife wishes to be in charge of the relationship and keeps her husband in a chastity device, as in your case.

troubled_cuck said:
Only recently has my wife began to embrace this role [being in charge of our relationship] without feeling much guilt about it. It goes against her African upbringing, when she was taught the husband should be the head of the household.

The cultural mileau a woman grows up in has a powerful influence in shaping how she views the “proper” roles of women and men in marriage. The same, of course, can be said of men.

troubled_cuck said:
The truth is, she likes being in control, and I do not mind when she is. Now she is asking fewer questions, and seems comfortable ordering me around when she feels she needs to.

Your wife is assuming her proper role in your marriage…

troubled_cuck said:
It feels right. I wish she had this a long time ago.

And, it sounds like you are coming around and accepting your proper role, as well.

troubled_cuck said:
I hope this text hasn't been too long. I tend to write way too much. My apologies for that.

Not at all. Your post was the right length to describe your situation, which is fascinating. No apology is needed.

troubled_cuck said:
I will try to explain more in a later post. Your feedback is greatly appreciated, as always!

I’ll look forward to updates as your wife’s pregnancy and your marriage evolve. Happy holidays!
 
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hard fucker said:
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While this is not for every couple, I would agree with you that there are some couples on this forum were such an arrangement would be the best for there marriage long term.
 
Troubled_cuck,

Regarding your transition toward a wife-led marriage, per:

troubled_cuck said:
.... [My wife] has now truly started taking control in our marriage. Just as an example, she finally has me wearing a chastity cage almost 24/7.

This sounds like a positive step forward. As I mentioned in my reply (above), I hope your hot, sexy and beautiful (I'm sure) black wife has you in a good quality cock cage, and has assumed her rightful role as your sole key holder. Would you be willing to let us (the forum) know what kind of cock cage she keeps you in? And, have you been able to adapt OK to wearing it almost 24/7...?

And, re.:

troubled_cuck said:
I have always known my wife should be in charge in our relationship. Only recently however has she began to embrace this role without feeling much guilt about it. .... Truth is, she likes being in control, and I do not mind when she is. Now, she is asking fewer questions and seems comfortable ordering me around when she feels she needs to. It feels right; I wish she had [begun doing] this a long time ago.

This too sounds like positive progress. Congratulations for your acceptance of it being your wife's natural role in your marriage to be, in essence, your boss-wife.

Alone these lines, you might consider agreeing with your wife that when you go places together, she will always drive and you will always ride in the passenger seat. That is, unless she tells you to drive, such as when her pregnancy begins making it uncomfortable for her to do so.

You might also consider agreeing with your wife that, whenever she takes you out to eat at a restaurant, you will look at the menu then whisper in her ear what you would like, then she will order it for you, then order for herself. Your wife should, of course, reserve the right to order an alternative for you, if she feels what you want to eat is not very healthy. Then, afterwards, your wife should pay using your joint credit card, or her own credit card (if she has one).

Re.:

troubled_cuck said:
.... I will try to explain more in a later post.

How is your sexy wife doing with her lover who impregnated her? Is she now fucking him on a schedule she finds reasonably satisfying, while not seeing him so frequently it gets in the way of her relationship with you — at least, not excessively...?

—Custer
 
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SquirmingSub said:
While this is not for every couple, I would agree with you that there are some couples on this forum were such an arrangement would be the best for there marriage long term.

Thanks for the comment, Squirmingsub.

My wife has definitely swithed to bareback only with Carl. A year ago I did not think it possible.

She is still scared of disease and such, but with Carl she is long past that point.
She loved the feeling of him cumming inside of her. Its 'her best moment' when she feels his dick squirting inside of her.

If she takes a new lover, which is likely to happen at some point, she will probbaly only use condoms initially.
 
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