Wifes True Feelings..... But Need Advice

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  1. Bbccuckold1

    Bbccuckold1 because i love my husband that much
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    me and my husband are new to the wife sharing thing. My husband isn't quite the full cuckold...still the dominant male but loves to watch me have sex with well endowed black men. Here lately I am starting to feel the same way I began feeling in our relationship. I'm starting to feel neglected. Seeing how much my husband loves this lifestyle, when I'm not I to it as much he tends to go out asking others if he can watch them or starts going to other women. I'm a VERY jealous wife. I don't share my husband at all. But because I do love him so much I decided to try to make his fantasies true life visions. Regardless of my comfort zone. I still feel in ways that even though this is done together (I never do anything behind his back or without him) I'm cheating and u faithful to him. I would just love to go back to the "normal" life and him love me to not want to share me at all, but I've created a monster. But I feel neglected alot more since this has been happening in our life. We use to have a great sex life. Now since all of this our sex life is almost down to nothing. (unless hes arranged for a guy to come over). He swears he loves me and that his love is even more special and deeper than what he could ever have for any other woman because I've chosen to do his fantasies. Because I've shown a love for him that noone else has by doing this. But his fantasies have become obsession and I don't know how to feel anymore. I crave my husbands feel,touch,love,sex,and more importantly time and attention. But I feel he can only provide that when I'm with another man. how can we both fix this so that we can both feel satisfied in this relationship. Because I feel like the balance is way off and that I'm the one giving him everything while I in turn get nothin but anguish and heartbreak.


    can anyone relate or at least help me understand and fix this
     
  2. babagee

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    I am sorry for your situation and it looks like Pandora's box has been opened
    You have shown great willingness to fullfil hubby desires and fantasies but now you feel that this is all too much
    Honest communication is the way forward and good luck in resolving your issue s
     
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  3. slinger137

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    To say it that way - that's a painful experience and your husband needs a firm talk. you are not ok with him seeing other women and you fucking other men with little pleasure as you love him and that is important to you. understandable. try to talk to him and be serious. it will not be easy to return and you have risk of losing him as he is deeply into this it seems.
    seek professional help if he also wants to stabilize your rel ship. loyalty but being faithful might be an issue here by what you say.
    if he can see nothing wrong maybe set a sign moving out temporary or ban him to the sofa and then hotel. interrupt his mudhole fun when you suffer.
    sory but he is not paying attention. should not be like this.


    greetings
     
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  4. Bbccuckold1

    Bbccuckold1 because i love my husband that much
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    thank you I can only hope that this is like other times in our lives, Be only a minor speedbump in our lives. But I do feel there will be a brighter time for us to still have the time of our lives again. Because with all of this my husband has created a way for me to be open more sexually and him be open and accepting of my openess. We have come a long way to give up and not create our most wildest dreams......our real life fantasies come true.
     
  5. Ben Steel

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    I empathize with you. My wife was in the EXACT same position you are. I'm more on the dominant side of the cuckold spectrum, like your husband. I shared my fantasy with my wife. She accepted it and me, but doesn't understand it and is VERY, although I have no intention of sleeping with other women. She has been trying really hard to do this just to please me, but it is very much against her nature and, she too wishes it could just be the two of us without this fantasy.

    It's a tough place to be in. The middle ground that we found for a long time was simply to play with this in fantasy. My wife will pretend like she did things and tell me about it when we make love, but she never actually did them. It really helped scratch my itch without violating her boundaries.

    It took 5 years for her to be ok with the idea. I have a lot of experience with this and run a Cuckold Website. I would be happy to talk more if you needed to.

    - Ben
    https://www.thecuckoldscave.com
     

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