Wifes True Feelings..... But Need Advice

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me and my husband are new to the wife sharing thing. My husband isn't quite the full cuckold...still the dominant male but loves to watch me have sex with well endowed black men. Here lately I am starting to feel the same way I began feeling in our relationship. I'm starting to feel neglected. Seeing how much my husband loves this lifestyle, when I'm not I to it as much he tends to go out asking others if he can watch them or starts going to other women. I'm a VERY jealous wife. I don't share my husband at all. But because I do love him so much I decided to try to make his fantasies true life visions. Regardless of my comfort zone. I still feel in ways that even though this is done together (I never do anything behind his back or without him) I'm cheating and u faithful to him. I would just love to go back to the "normal" life and him love me to not want to share me at all, but I've created a monster. But I feel neglected alot more since this has been happening in our life. We use to have a great sex life. Now since all of this our sex life is almost down to nothing. (unless hes arranged for a guy to come over). He swears he loves me and that his love is even more special and deeper than what he could ever have for any other woman because I've chosen to do his fantasies. Because I've shown a love for him that noone else has by doing this. But his fantasies have become obsession and I don't know how to feel anymore. I crave my husbands feel,touch,love,sex,and more importantly time and attention. But I feel he can only provide that when I'm with another man. how can we both fix this so that we can both feel satisfied in this relationship. Because I feel like the balance is way off and that I'm the one giving him everything while I in turn get nothin but anguish and heartbreak.


can anyone relate or at least help me understand and fix this
 
I am sorry for your situation and it looks like Pandora's box has been opened
You have shown great willingness to fullfil hubby desires and fantasies but now you feel that this is all too much
Honest communication is the way forward and good luck in resolving your issue s
 
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To say it that way - that's a painful experience and your husband needs a firm talk. you are not ok with him seeing other women and you fucking other men with little pleasure as you love him and that is important to you. understandable. try to talk to him and be serious. it will not be easy to return and you have risk of losing him as he is deeply into this it seems.
seek professional help if he also wants to stabilize your rel ship. loyalty but being faithful might be an issue here by what you say.
if he can see nothing wrong maybe set a sign moving out temporary or ban him to the sofa and then hotel. interrupt his mudhole fun when you suffer.
sory but he is not paying attention. should not be like this.


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babagee said:
I am sorry for your situation and it looks like Pandora's box has been opened
You have shown great willingness to fullfil hubby desires and fantasies but now you feel that this is all too much
Honest communication is the way forward and good luck in resolving your issue s

thank you I can only hope that this is like other times in our lives, Be only a minor speedbump in our lives. But I do feel there will be a brighter time for us to still have the time of our lives again. Because with all of this my husband has created a way for me to be open more sexually and him be open and accepting of my openess. We have come a long way to give up and not create our most wildest dreams......our real life fantasies come true.
 
I empathize with you. My wife was in the EXACT same position you are. I'm more on the dominant side of the cuckold spectrum, like your husband. I shared my fantasy with my wife. She accepted it and me, but doesn't understand it and is VERY, although I have no intention of sleeping with other women. She has been trying really hard to do this just to please me, but it is very much against her nature and, she too wishes it could just be the two of us without this fantasy.

It's a tough place to be in. The middle ground that we found for a long time was simply to play with this in fantasy. My wife will pretend like she did things and tell me about it when we make love, but she never actually did them. It really helped scratch my itch without violating her boundaries.

It took 5 years for her to be ok with the idea. I have a lot of experience with this and run a Cuckold Website. I would be happy to talk more if you needed to.

- Ben
https://www.thecuckoldscave.com
 
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well....same is the case with me...but that is really a that much serious matter as the people are advicing you ova here...notabig deal....not a big problem...all you have to do is to adjust ur sex life from an extreme position to normal on and all this happen very slowly....we can chat more on this inbox
 
Hope for the best for you and your marriage... Don't give up. Communicate. Where there's a mutual will to work things out for both people, there is always a way.
 
I think this is about communication and clear ground rules. I'm thinking you like sex with black men, but not as much as you dislike a loveless marriage. Let him know this in exactly that way. I think there are a lot of couples where the wife sleeps with other men, but the husband is faithful. Would this be acceptable to him and to you?

Good luck!
 
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If husband is the dominant one, wife probably looks up to him in their relationship. In cuckold situations, husband still stays as the dominant one or is there still some kind of role reversal? If not, it's probably quite easy to start feeling empty and lonely, since basically wife is just a slut in that situation. Which is perfectly fine and great, but if you are put to that kind of position, that would need to be compensated with a lot of warm feelings, love and kindness so one doesn't start to feel neglected or worthless.

Probably similar situation when the husband is the submissive, if he wouldn't get much of any attention or respect, he would very quickly start losing his self confidence.

This is complicated psychological economy where everyone needs to remember do their part, otherwise the economy will collapse.
 
Bbccuckold1 said:
But [my husband's] fantasies have become obsession and I don't know how to feel anymore. I crave my husband's feel, touch, love, sex, and more importantly time and attention. But I feel he can only provide that when I'm with another man. How can we both fix this so that we can both feel satisfied in this relationship. Because I feel like the balance is way off and that I'm the one giving him everything while I in turn get nothin but anguish and heartbreak. Can anyone relate or at least help me understand and fix this?
Your husband is probably beating his weenie frequently, without your knowledge (i.e., behind your back), while imagining the times he has watched you fuck a black man with a big cock. If so, this could be using up his sex drive such that he doesn't have anything left for you.

I suggest not accusing your husband of that, or trying to catch him in the act. Rather, just assume that's what he's doing. Tell him something like, "I know you're beating your weenie behind my back, baby-doll, so you don't have anything left for me. That's going to change. Very soon, I'm going to require you to wear a male chastity device, for which I will be your sole key holder. I will be the owner of your weenie. And, I will ONLY let you out when I feel like fucking you — not just because you want to jack off. For you, sweetie-doll, those days will soon be over."

To make good on your threat, see (e.g.):
Mature Metal | Caging the Beast
IN THE BEGINNING - Steelwerks Extreme
Chastity Device Chastity Tubes
Male chastity cage - HolyTrainer : Size and specifications, pictures & videos

There are more than a few cuckolds on this forum who are kept in chastity devices by their hotwives. Among them, there seems to be some consensus that metal devices are superior to those made of plastic. Also, at least a couple of cuckolds have said "HolyTrainer" chastity devices are secure and comfortable to wear (and, they don't require a padlock that can knock around and make noise while they're walking).

A forum for men who are actually kept in chastity devices by their wives can be found here:

Any of you cuckolds in male chastity devices?
Any of you cuckolds in male Chastity devices?

It includes a fairly long and detailed commentary about the positive advantages to both him and his wife of her keeping him in a chastity device (for which she is his sole key holder) — and his wife doesn't even cuckold him by fucking other men.

If your cuckold's response is to say something like, "That's ridiculous — no way am I going to wear a chastity device!", I suggest turning up the heat by, in effect, going on strike. Tell him you aren't going to do any more of what he wants most.... fucking black men with big cocks while he watches.... until he agrees to wear a chastity device for you, furthermore agreeing that only you will make the decisions as to when he will be unlocked (i.e., when you want to fuck him, but certainly not just because he wants to masturbate).

Once you have your cuckold in his chastity device, management advice can be found in books with titles like "A Keyholder's Guide to Male Chastity."

Good luck with getting your cuckold under control!
 
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