I am a white guy with a wee one and a wife that like the BBC. I've never met anyone from here nor do I post ads seeking to hook up (I did once when we first signed up and got spammed to death). I actually agree with the OP that this place is full of BS for the most part. It seems to me that many (if not most) of the men posting here do so for their own sake and not because they are seriously looking for a hookup for their wife. There are two basic scenarios as I see it.... the white man that desperately wants to be cuckolded/humiliated/etc and either has a wife that is not interested or no wife at all. Then you have the female driven cuckolding where the woman demands more than the husband can offer and drags her man into it. Most people find this the "hot scenario" and create their narrative accordingly, whether true or not. In my relationship, the wife is the driver of the fantasy and would be fucking BBC every chance she could if I were more willing. I came to love her "small talk" and started becoming excited about seeing her with another guy. (Mind you, she likes the BBC better than the cuckolding aspect itself) Before we ever finally went through with it, I am likely responsible for dragging the process out and being indecisive. Once we finally hooked up, it was a pretty cool experience, we both had a good time. We haven't done it again... I don't know why other than I keep deflecting when she brings it up. Call me a slightly reluctant cuck, exciting in theory but hesitant when it comes down to it. I'm also simply lazy
To my original point... my wife doesn't care for this site too much and mostly that is because she feels most of the posters are closeted/bi/single men getting off on the BBC fantasy. It doesn't turn her on. She would LOVE for me to suck off a guy or be fucked by a guy, etc, but I don't know if I could do it. Physically, I don't know if I could pull it off and not be ill or whatever, despite my open mind. Again, theory vs. reality. But THAT turns her on. It's not creepy to her since I am not asking for it or being weird about it, if that makes sense. I suppose if I was hungry for dick she would be repulsed, I dunno. Chicks, figure them out if you can.
When we are looking to actually hook up like we did last time, it will be through AFF or something similar, same as what worked last time. If someone is for real, they will do exactly like we did and cam right up front so everyone sees that everyone is genuine. If there is some vagueness, be it location withheld, a desire to chat endlessly, etc... I think that is a good indicator that someone is gaming.
Now that I have been sucked into the small dick/humiliation/cuckolding scene, I find the concept hot but in reality it seems mostly pathetic and creepy and I don't want to be that guy that wants it so much (even though I kinda do). So I can see how members here tire of many of the cuck postings, even though if I were a regular poster I would be one of those.
Maybe that all makes sense
Regards! (and no offense meant to anyone!)