Yes, it is, but some of us guys understand that we have to play the hand we've been dealt. As you can see from my avatar, I'm 5" at best, probably closer to 4 1/2". BUT, my goal remains to please my partner, WHATEVER that takes. If it means oral I'm there, if it means helping her masturbate to completion I'm there as well. I am secure in my sexuality and know my limitations.