Glimmer Of Hope?

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Hello forum members,

I posted this in Khristy's forum, but also was curious if members had any thoughts on this.

This my first post to this site and first post anywhere on this subject. My desire to be cucked by my wife is so intense that it is almost overwhelming, and has been for the 12 years we've been married. However, I have never brought it up with my wife because I always assumed there would be no chance. My wife is very active in church and very conservative in general. I was her first and she has never even hinted at attractions for other men, even when I asked persistently.

This changed this weekend. She told my she wanted to have sex. She said that she had become attracted to a man she sees frequently through her work. She said she thought it was because we hadn't had sex very often lately and she had become vulnerable to being attracted to other men.

What gives me some hope though was her response when I asked about this man. It was almost wanton. He is handsome and strong, and very confident, she said. I said, really? And the way she said yes made my pulse race and my whole body flush. I was delirious.

Nothing more has been said about him yet. I don't want to push it. Ultimately, I expect that she will always consider her marriage vows too sacred to break. But I can't help but wonder now. Could she really do it now, with this man? And how can I help her?
 
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wannabe40 said:
Hello forum members
Hello! Welcome to the forum.
wannabe40 said:
My wife is very active in church and very conservative in general. I was her first and she has never even hinted at attractions for other men, even when I asked persistently.
Until this past weekend, I guess you mean (and as you say). Overall, I don't think there's any evidence that people who are religious have sex.... including cuckolding of their husbands by married women.... any less frequently than people who are not religious.
wannabe40 said:
This changed this weekend. She told my she wanted to have sex. She said that she had become attracted to a man she sees frequently through her work. She said she thought it was because we hadn't had sex very often lately and she had become vulnerable to being attracted to other men.
It's definitely promising that your wife has openly told you this. You can build on her admission.
wannabe40 said:
What gives me some hope though was her response when I asked about this man. It was almost wanton. He is handsome and strong, and very confident, she said. I said, really? And the way she said yes made my pulse race and my whole body flush. I was delirious.
Excellent, from both your wife's and your points of view....
wannabe40 said:
Nothing more has been said about him yet. I don't want to push it. Ultimately, I expect that she will always consider her marriage vows too sacred to break. But I can't help but wonder now. Could she really do it now, with this man? And how can I help her?
I suggest starting with a pretend cuckolding game. You might purchase a realistic-looking dildo for your wife that's bigger than your cock (but not huge.... later you can gradually work up to larger sizes). Then, encourage your wife to give it the name of the man at work she's attracted to (and, of course, use his name for it yourself). And, encourage her to use it to satisfy herself.... assisting her if necessary.... in between times when she fucks you, while encouraging her to always call out his name when she's getting hot and approaching orgasm. (This may have to be in a breathy, whispering sort of way if you have children in your home.)

In addition, encourage your wife to pretend she is your cuckoldress, and tease you whenever the two of you are in bed together.... then later, whenever the two of you are alone together, not just in bed.... about how satisfying her lover is, and about how she saw a hot man that day and thinks she'll seduce him.... etc. This may have the effect of gradually causing her to realize you actually do want her to take a lover, while gradually causing her to realize the whole idea is acceptable.
 
Wannabe40,

Re. your question:
wannabe40 said:
..... I can't help but wonder now. Could she really do it now, with this man? And how can I help her?
As an alternative to my suggestion (above), you might consider proceeding along the lines of the 8-part article that begins here.

Turning a wife into a Hotwife
» A Wife Into A Hotwife Hot Wife Blog - hotwife and cuckold husband fetish discussion

It includes the following sections:
Part I — How can I turn my wife into a hot wife?
Part II — Getting things started
Part III — Other approaches
Part IV — First time with another man
Part V — Navigating some dangerous waters
Part VI — Emotional involvement
Part VII — How a husband copes
Part VIII — Conclusion

This was originally published online as one article by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D. [a pseudonym]. Her writings on this subject are thoughtful, well-written and non-pornographic.

—Custer
 
I personally wouldn't 'push' it too hard right now as well, but I would keep it relevant when possible.
I'd suggest keeping a very casual attitude about it, and ask her about it when you two are sharing some intimate moments together. Not even necessarily during sex or in bed; perhaps during a nice dinner out, or when lying/cuddling on the couch watching movies or TV.
"Hey, what's been going on with that other guy?", "have you seen him lately?", or maybe "are you still thinking about that guy?" and similar could be your 'lead-in' (icebreaker) question.
If she responds positively, consider taking the tact of being "submissive", perhaps apologizing for your "lack of interest" in sex with her, you don't know why, maybe it's stress from job or life, but you understand she has needs and desires, and if she chooses to explore a relationship with him, and is attracted to him enough that she wants to sleep with him, that you have no objections. I don't know if that would appeal to you, but it's an idea.

There have been some good suggestions so far, and I hope it gives you fuel for thought. For as much as she has told you already, you should be able to make a plan relatively easily.
Best wishes and good luck!