My Woman Is On Board. But What Now?

[Babeneedsit]

She is totally open to the idea and it turns her on enough to let me get her 3 different big dildos to find the one that hits the sweet spot.. But now she wont do anymore then talk a little about it while we have sex.. How can I get her to push passed the barrier of anxiety?

Is therr any insight anyone has, or a great resource on the subject? She wants to do it, but is worried of doing it.. I know I can make her like the idea on her own somehow..

 

[Custer Laststand]

She is totally open to the idea and it turns her on enough to let me get her 3 different big dildos to find the one that hits the sweet spot.. But now she wont do anymore then talk a little about it while we have sex.. How can I get her to push passed the barrier of anxiety? Is therr any insight anyone has, or a great resource on the subject? She wants to do it, but is worried of doing it.. I know I can make her like the idea on her own somehow.

You might introduce your wife to these two articles (most easily done, perhaps, by sending her the links by e-mail).

The Science of Cuckoldry, by sex therapist and relationships counselor Susan Gower:
The Science of Cuckoldry

The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena, by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D.:
The Cuckold Phenomena

Then, after you've spent some time talking with her about these articles, proceed with a strategy along the lines of the strategy outlined here (which is a 7-part article):

Turning a wife into a Hotwife, by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D.:
» A Wife Into A Hotwife Hot Wife Blog - hotwife and cuckold husband fetish discussion

 

[Babeneedsit]

Hmm, I need a more inceptive method.. Ive pushed a little too much. I read through that stuff though and it may help.. But I may have to do something for the article to pop up in a different way I suppose. I've seen a different cuckmentor site or something of the sort post about a guide to the specific issue.. But i don't want to pay for that.. I could use some insight..

 

[Keesnl]

I'm a Bull and most of the times i fuck other guys wives but know how a friend and his wife played it before joining them.

Before joining them and fucking his wife i knew them for some years as a couple and him as a former armybuddy. When we were still in active duty this wasn't ever going to happen or would have been spoken about. Saw her naked more then once when changing after surfing, she also saw me naked, and as soon as i would get hard from her i would turn away so she never saw real reaction on her being naked.
When i was done with the army he stayed in active duty and we kept in touch. So this way his wife once was talking with a girlfriend and ( they were really open in conversation also because of the amount of wine they drank ) my then girlfriend told we tried a few pills when going away for a long weekend and she felt all bruised after all the fucking. They had to laugh and my friends wife wanted to know everything when my former girlfriend told her we kind of experimented with some things. My friend thanked me the week after and said she never did anal but after what my girlfriend told her she was open for it to be lubed up and let him play with her.

Sometime later on holiday, we planned to go with the four of us but me and my then girlfriend split up and they had no problem joining them alone, relaxing after some drinks they worked on some sexual issues.Then heard my friend was a premature cummer and had no problems doing it a few times but when it got to exciting he cums almost instantly. So he tells me ( later saw it ) she had the biggest collection of toys to help but it didn't felt like the real thing and helped just a little, also tried medication and followed some training not to cum so fast. After that he told he lasted longer but not to the amount she would like, she then told she was kind of jealous on my ex girlfriend when telling she felt all bruised after fucking hard.
After that we talked about some lighter subjects and she told she bought a new bikini and sundress. My friend said why don't show and we watched her in her new dress and bikini. After that she kept the bikini on because of the heat that evening. We had some more drinks and we sat on a large sofa looking at a lake and all the lights around it. She was then laying her head in my lap and her legs over his, touching him with her but. We lay there like that for a while and several times i thought i felt her head brushing against my dick and when i got harder i knew for sure she was doing that on purpose. When i looked at my friend i saw he had been playing with her and had a finger ( or some ) inside her and said to her this could be your chance. She then looked up at me and pulled down my short, so a little later she was sucking me and he was playing with her. After about 15 minutes she then turned around and asked to put my dick inside her.

Later he told me for some reasons he wanted me to join them. First was he felt like she deserved more then he could give her sexually but both didn't want just fucking around for safety and privacy reasons. Second was they both had some fantasies about doing a threesome. And also he noticed that when she's really heating up she gets kind of kinky and is almost free from inhibitions, but at that point he has cum more then twice and just playing with toys isn't the same as real for her.

So just like your wife she was on board with the idea at first, but took him about a year of teasing and knowing when to talk or shut up about the subject. At first it was just talking about another guy who could fuck her longer and harder while she, loves doing long blowjobs and oral play, could play with him. Mostly these were spoken fantasies during sex and the second dick were mostly dildo's, but he told me she got more and more into the idea. After her hearing doing anal, from my then girlfriend, they started playing with anal dildo's and sometimes two dildo's while she gave a blowjob. Sometimes then it's just a small thing that can turn ( or not ? ) all around and for them it was when he bought two dildo's who could shoot fake cum/liquid. So while the were playing he, and the two dildo's, shot cum and he told the idea of cum in all holes was for her at that time extremely exciting. After that it was mostly her bringing a extra dick up in the talk during sex, then after a while she brought it up in situations outside the bedroom. At that point it was more about looking who was to join them then if they would do that. He told she brought up the conversation about my then girlfriend up a lot about being fucked hard and felt almost bruised, but never dared to suggest. After a while when she kept bringing it up he then said that asking me would be for several reasons the best choice. So he played it like she was making all the dissensions, and made it her choice.
To be honest i don't think most women are that dumb and know exactly when they are being played ( they kind of invented this game in my idea ) but making it look that they are being played also gives them the safety not having to be the one who decided or initiated it.

 

[Custer Laststand]

....... After a while, when she [my friend's wife] kept bringing it up [the possibility of her fucking another man], he then said that asking me would be, for several reasons, the best choice. So, he played it like she was making all the decisions, and made it her choice.

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[Keesnl]

Please continue...

Mostly ( like he told me ) it was during sex, she was while having sex the most open for the idea of having a second or other dick. So started with a dildo and made this their fantasy second dick. After a while when really excited ( she likes dirty talk ) she didn't ask for inserting the dildo but inserting a big dick. So after talking about me joining she more then once said my dick felt awesome inside her.
While fucking one time he came to early and she said to him, also because she was so close to cumming, i wish he was here to really fuck me. While playing with the dildo's he a few times afterwards asked her if it felt good and real. She then told him more and more, even without him asking, she loved the feeling but a real hard dick inside her felt way better.
At one point she started saying i feel so hot i wished he was here so i could fuck with both of you.

Before going on holiday she a few times asked if he really wouldn't mind if she got fucked by me and how far she could go for getting me on board. Even showed him a few moves with short skirts with no panties and asked if that would work, even did some stripping and masturbation in front of him and asked if that would work.
They then agreed to play it more subtle and make the move like she did, having her head in my lap and if she would feel reaction she would push her ass towards him as a sign to start. When react on her and see him play with her and her touching my dick would be inviting enough.

Real funny i found out after that night she had all kind of fantasies already planned, like threesome in public. We were in the dunes and just a couple way further could maybe see something and we started playing and ended up doing a doggiestyle threesome while that couple watched from a distance. Later we did this on the parking lot of a supermarket just out of sight behind the car, then standing up doggiestyle.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Is therr any insight anyone has, or a great resource on the subject? She wants to do it, but is worried....

Here's (another) resource. A book on this subject is:

Ley, David J., 2009, Insatiable Wives: Women who stray and the men who love them (Roman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc., 291 pp. [hardcover])

Maybe you could order a copy for your wife as a Christmas (or New Years) present. I mean, hey... you could read it together.

It will help if there's an available, or seemingly-available, man your wife (perhaps secretly) would like to fuck — someone, for instance, she fantasizes about while fucking you. It could be one of your friends, or one of her work colleagues. If you can tease this out of her, you can construct a game in which this man (unbeknownst to him) plays the role of your wife's pretend lover. For instance, whenever you're alone together, she could tease you about how much better in bed he is than you are. This could have the effect of moving your wife toward subtly-initiating an actual affair with this man.

If a man your wife views as a potential candidate is not lurking in her fantasies, that will make it more challenging. In this case, you might consider proposing a game consisting of the two of you having an imaginary "hotwife / cuckold husband" marriage, in which... whenever you are alone together... she teases you about the hot lover she took the night before, how much bigger his cock is than yours, how much more satisfying in bed she found him, etc. A game of this nature, in which she pretends to be a hotwife on a daily basis, while you pretend to be her self-acknowledged cuckold, could move her closer to acceptance of actually becoming a hotwife.

Please let us know how it's going and whether you need additional suggestions. It sounds like your wife is a promising candidate.

 

[Babeneedsit]

She's been mentioning more about slimming down these last few times we've had sex so she can be super hot to get my cock off better.. But, im pretty sure she to do that so she feels like other guys want her.. We were playing with her big black dildo yesterday and it made her cum in 2-3 minutes.. And she sucked me off while she kept it in her.. After she unloaded me she was excited about how she shot the big black dildo out of her pussy while it happened. Then she got up and said she's seen a porn where a chick did it with a big black cock and it was hot. Shes definitely down.. I'm not sure if we have the extreme cuck dynamic going. Shes gonna be more of a hotwife vixen that wants 2 or 3 holes filled.

 

[Custer Laststand]

She's been mentioning more about slimming down these last few times we've had sex so she can be super hot to get my cock off better. But, im pretty sure she wants to do that so she'll feel like other guys want her.

You have it right, most likely. Becoming, or wanting to become, a hotwife is strong motivation for a married woman to pay attention to her diet, thereby keeping her weight down, and possibly joining a gym to improve her physical condition and appearance. A cuckold husband writing on another site (which no longer exists, unfortunately) put it this way: "When my wife goes out on a date, I get a break from salads and go out for a steak dinner. And, I don't have to worry about entertaining her. Other men do that." So, I suggest you encourage your wife to join a gym and take other measures to improve her health, weight and appearance.

We were playing with her big black dildo yesterday and it made her cum in 2-3 minutes. And, she sucked me off while she kept it in her. After she unloaded me she was excited about how she shot the big black dildo out of her pussy while it happened.

Very good. I hope your wife has given her big black dildo a name, so both of you can refer to it as if it's a real lover.

Then, she got up and said she's seen a porn where a chick did it with a big black cock and it was hot. Shes definitely down.

Very good. If your wife thinks visually... that is, if she can look at a man she finds attractive and (for instance) visualize him in the nude, with an erection, and fucking him... that's positive. Or, if she can visually remember a porn movie she saw somewhere (online?), and use those thoughts to turn herself on while she's fucking you... that should aid her with seducing a potential lover, when she gets to that point.

I'm not sure if we have the extreme cuck dynamic going.

Hey, whatever works for the two of you...

She's gonna be more of a hotwife vixen that wants 2 or 3 holes filled.

As the saying goes: "Predictions are difficult, especially of the future."

If you live in or near a fairly large urban area, you might look into when a hotel there will be hosting its next conference. (Large hotels often make their money hosting conferences... in between, they're largely empty.) If you take your wife to the hotel bar while a conference is in progress, you could sit elsewhere and keep an eye on what's happening, while your wife sits at the bar, or at a table next to or near, a man she finds attractive. If he offers to buy her a drink, she could accept. Then, after some conversation, if he asks whether she would "like to see his room" (or something equivalent), she could accept but excuse herself while she goes to the women's restroom to freshen up. Then, from the women's restroom, she could call you (for safety purposes) and tell you the man's name and which hotel room she and her lover-of-the-evening will be in. Then, you could continue waiting in the hotel bar while your wife formally makes you her cuckold. Afterwards, you could leave the hotel separately, then meet outside and take her home.

 

[Babeneedsit]

We will see how it goes soon..she talks like I need to make the first move on things though.. She also has a kink for forcefully being made to take it. So ive been at a debate on what is appropriate and what isnt for a while.. Because I feel like she should make the first effort. We will see after the holidays

 

[Babeneedsit]

I dont know if thats something that would be done but her fantasy is in that departmant.

I'm still working on a way to get this lil pussy stretched.

 

[ThreePumpHub]

I got my wife finally going when I took her to a nudist resort.

She was initially very agreeable to the activity, but stalled out when it came to action. We watched porn together and she brought it up during sex, but that’s where it seemed to stay.

Took her away on vacation where there was a nudist resort. Didn’t tell her about this destination until morning of. Told her to only wear a dress without any undergarments. She giggled and agreed. Finally told her where we were headed when about 15 minutes away from resort. She was silent for about 15 seconds before replying that it sounds like a fun activity to be able to say we’ve done.

Once there, she got very turned on when she saw all the naked and well hung men. Plus, everyone was coming up to us and chatting. Several guys lingered as she became very flirty. That night she was taken by three men, which none of them were me.

So, best advice I have for you is as mentioned by others in previous posts, is to get her away from her day-to-day life, such as a holiday someplace new or exciting where she can feel sexy without worrying about judgement or being caught by someone she knows. Once away, things should happen naturally, so don’t push it or even bring it up. She’ll go with it once she feels comfortable.