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Thanks for the update Sherules. Glad to hear that the plans for your second child worked out OK and that you and Amber have such a stable family relationship. I am sure that once the children have grown up a bit more, Amber will be longing to get back with M. Pity you don't have the little cottage still as she could have used that for her base this time. Perhaps you should look at renting a small place close by that she could use for quick sessions with M.
Hey all, nothing much to report, Amber went with M to a party and spent the night a few weeks ago, but nothing really since then. They still talk, she is still obviously VERY affectionate to him. She has told him that he is free to date. I know that was hard for her, but she knows that right now she can't really be the girlfriend he deserves. It is an odd position to one, want your wife to be more serious with her boyfriend although I totally support her reasons for not being that way, and love it, and two, knowing that I am going to need to console her if he does choose to date someone else. Even though, part of the issue is that she is married to me (thank god) and is focusing on her family life at this time.
It has been great having her around so much more and I don't want to pressure her into anything, but part of me fears has she "moved past" this phase. I so hope not. What she has/had with M was so special.
It has been great having her around so much more and I don't want to pressure her into anything, but part of me fears has she "moved past" this phase. I so hope not. What she has/had with M was so special.
Hey guys, realized it has been a while.
Things are good with us, Amber and I are doing great in our marriage.
As people know there are, I guess, cycles in any marriage. Amber has decided to focus more on being mom with a nearly four and nearly one year old running around.
The primary catalyst for that was one morning when she had been seeing M a LOT, our oldest told her that daddy does her hair better. Amber was CRUSHED and felt that she was missing out on some things by being both a wonderful wife and girlfriend.
Amber and M still love each other, and do see each other occasionally. In fact he took her to a formal event three weeks ago, and then about a month before that I had a work trip so her mom came down to stay with the kids and Amber had a date and overnight with M.
One question I do have for those of you with more experience. Kids? Our oldest knows Mommy has a friend since she has now seen Amber dressed up sexy for M a couple of times. She obviously doesn't know what "friend" means. How do you balance wife, mom and girlfriend? Do the kids know from the start, which risks them talking, or do you keep it secret? We don't really know.
Also, to add to MORE going on, our lovely fun townhouse is TIGHT with two kids, and us, and me working mostly from home. The housing market in So Cal is bonkers, we'll do OK on our place but finding another one is daunting. We did find one in a different part of town, super cute area, house is top of our market and needs a TON of work so we'll see. We'd be sad to leave our neighborhood, but freestanding houses near us are out of range. Turns out, even as things are slowing down, this house is also WAY closer to M lol.
Anyhow, that is it for us for now
Things are good with us, Amber and I are doing great in our marriage.
As people know there are, I guess, cycles in any marriage. Amber has decided to focus more on being mom with a nearly four and nearly one year old running around.
The primary catalyst for that was one morning when she had been seeing M a LOT, our oldest told her that daddy does her hair better. Amber was CRUSHED and felt that she was missing out on some things by being both a wonderful wife and girlfriend.
Amber and M still love each other, and do see each other occasionally. In fact he took her to a formal event three weeks ago, and then about a month before that I had a work trip so her mom came down to stay with the kids and Amber had a date and overnight with M.
One question I do have for those of you with more experience. Kids? Our oldest knows Mommy has a friend since she has now seen Amber dressed up sexy for M a couple of times. She obviously doesn't know what "friend" means. How do you balance wife, mom and girlfriend? Do the kids know from the start, which risks them talking, or do you keep it secret? We don't really know.
Also, to add to MORE going on, our lovely fun townhouse is TIGHT with two kids, and us, and me working mostly from home. The housing market in So Cal is bonkers, we'll do OK on our place but finding another one is daunting. We did find one in a different part of town, super cute area, house is top of our market and needs a TON of work so we'll see. We'd be sad to leave our neighborhood, but freestanding houses near us are out of range. Turns out, even as things are slowing down, this house is also WAY closer to M lol.
Anyhow, that is it for us for now
I finally logged back in, funny how two little kids, a busy wife and work conspire to eat all your time. Amber and Dr M are still definitely in contact. They have had a little bit of an up and down year, but are very much still in love. And, in this time between Thanksgiving and Christmas, it is benefit season. Amber has been to two benefits with Dr M, one was formal, in the last two weeks and they have two in one night a week from tonight.
They have seen eachother anywhere from a long dirty weekend over the summer to not for nearly two months this fall. She still adores him. Still loves making love AND fucking him. He still loves dating a hot little married trophy wife.
We had two funny events over the past year that some of you may relate to. After I last updated, Amber had talked seriously with Dr. M about her accepting that he may want to start dating. He admitted that he found some other women attractive and asked her if she would be jealous if he was intimate with other women. She played it cool with him and said that she totally understood and that all she asked was that if he thought he was at that point that he please talk to her.
With me, later, she was really torn. She loves him, they have been a couple for nearly nine years (crazy!) and he has been the best lover she has had (and as she naughtily pointed out, the only man she has been faithful to by a long shot). It is a funny and wonderful place in a cuckold marriage to reassure your wife that her boyfriend does in fact love her, and that she is in fact doing the right thing by giving him freedom to date and that in fact it is entirely normal for her to be upset by the possibility that he might actually do so.
The second part was also interesting. Apparently Dr M's divorce is still contentious (NINE years later, his ex is still kind of a pain in the ass, apparently) and he still checks in with a relationship counselor. He admitted to Amber that he had "casually" mentioned her a while back but had skipped over that she was married. Earlier in the year he had told his counselor that the woman he'd been seeing for a long time is married and her husband "seems to know." The counselor really got on him for this, pressuring him about "what he was doing to her husband" etc etc. He told Amber about it and she reassured him (of course) but the counselor apparently pressured him more that he "needed to come clean" so, interestingly enough, Dr M and I had to go meet for a drink to "talk things out." It was interesting. The main question he had, and I think this came from the counselor was "do we talk about this?" I told him, yes, EVERYTHING. I mean, I have watched him fuck my wife, they've dated for nearly nine years, and we are happily married. I guess the counselor was really hung up on it always being secretive and he was surprised that Amber told me all the details. My favorite part was when he sort of half smiled and said "I'm jealous of you for that. My ex and I never got anywhere close to that level of honesty. She barely even knew I liked women in heels." and I got to chuckle and tell him "Dude, I knew that about you within four minutes of meeting you that first night."
So, Dr M got to report back to his counselor that he had approached Amber's "infidelity" with integrity. Although it got me thinking that his counselor is pretty naive about alternative marriages.
Anyhow, things are good with us. Amber and Dr M are still a couple and I am still a happy cuckold
They have seen eachother anywhere from a long dirty weekend over the summer to not for nearly two months this fall. She still adores him. Still loves making love AND fucking him. He still loves dating a hot little married trophy wife.
We had two funny events over the past year that some of you may relate to. After I last updated, Amber had talked seriously with Dr. M about her accepting that he may want to start dating. He admitted that he found some other women attractive and asked her if she would be jealous if he was intimate with other women. She played it cool with him and said that she totally understood and that all she asked was that if he thought he was at that point that he please talk to her.
With me, later, she was really torn. She loves him, they have been a couple for nearly nine years (crazy!) and he has been the best lover she has had (and as she naughtily pointed out, the only man she has been faithful to by a long shot). It is a funny and wonderful place in a cuckold marriage to reassure your wife that her boyfriend does in fact love her, and that she is in fact doing the right thing by giving him freedom to date and that in fact it is entirely normal for her to be upset by the possibility that he might actually do so.
The second part was also interesting. Apparently Dr M's divorce is still contentious (NINE years later, his ex is still kind of a pain in the ass, apparently) and he still checks in with a relationship counselor. He admitted to Amber that he had "casually" mentioned her a while back but had skipped over that she was married. Earlier in the year he had told his counselor that the woman he'd been seeing for a long time is married and her husband "seems to know." The counselor really got on him for this, pressuring him about "what he was doing to her husband" etc etc. He told Amber about it and she reassured him (of course) but the counselor apparently pressured him more that he "needed to come clean" so, interestingly enough, Dr M and I had to go meet for a drink to "talk things out." It was interesting. The main question he had, and I think this came from the counselor was "do we talk about this?" I told him, yes, EVERYTHING. I mean, I have watched him fuck my wife, they've dated for nearly nine years, and we are happily married. I guess the counselor was really hung up on it always being secretive and he was surprised that Amber told me all the details. My favorite part was when he sort of half smiled and said "I'm jealous of you for that. My ex and I never got anywhere close to that level of honesty. She barely even knew I liked women in heels." and I got to chuckle and tell him "Dude, I knew that about you within four minutes of meeting you that first night."
So, Dr M got to report back to his counselor that he had approached Amber's "infidelity" with integrity. Although it got me thinking that his counselor is pretty naive about alternative marriages.
Anyhow, things are good with us. Amber and Dr M are still a couple and I am still a happy cuckold
Up early
Dr M picked Amber up at 4:00 yesterday to take her for sunset drinks and then to the benefit events. The first was "semi-formal" and the second was formal, so she went out in a very pretty gauzy little balck dress with strappy HIGH heels on. And since it was getting cold (for So Cal) a super soft black coat.
She looked every bit the hot little trophy wife.
Dr M picked Amber up at 4:00 yesterday to take her for sunset drinks and then to the benefit events. The first was "semi-formal" and the second was formal, so she went out in a very pretty gauzy little balck dress with strappy HIGH heels on. And since it was getting cold (for So Cal) a super soft black coat.
She looked every bit the hot little trophy wife.
Wow, i just checked back on a whim! I hadn't checked in for a long time because I didn't think anyone was reading lol. I'll have to log back in when i have more time and update everyone if people are even interested. Basically, Covid killed Amber financially, but she and Dr M were able to stay connected, so good and bad.
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