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Others Can’t Have Her!

Discussion in 'Cuckold Talk' started by whitewife696969, Dec 27, 2016.

  1. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    During sex she always says she loves me and she is only for me…...no one else, even though she gets hit on daily by other men. I think she says it because in the past I’ve said that I want her to fuck others. She has role played fucking others when she is drunk. Is there a way to convince her that my desire is for her is to fuck others and that she would enjoy it the same or more than with me? And it wouldn’t mean that she loves me less.
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  2. Custer Laststand

    Custer Laststand SLUTWIVES VIP! Beloved Member :)

    After your wife has had a suitable amount of wine (or her preferred alcoholic drink), introduce her to:

    The Science of Cuckoldry,
    by sex therapist and relationships counselor Susan Gower:

    Then, you might also introduce your wife to:

    The cuckold phenomena,
    by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D.:

    to get her thinking along the lines you have in mind. After doing so, and talking with her about it to whatever extent she's willing to do so — don't expect her to agree initially; the idea should be to plant the idea in the back of her mind — begin the program described in the 8-part article that begins here:

    How to Transform Your Wife to a Hotwife

    Don't expect to succeed rapidly; you'll need to be patient, understanding, and always in tune with your wife's needs. It may take you a number of months, or even years, to succeed (if you do).

    Good luck!
  3. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    I read those references you supplied and they are good.
    I'll try to get her to read the first one, like you said, over a little wine.
    You are so right about being patient.
    Thank you so much.
  4. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    I forgot to mention that many years ago while having sex in bed I mentioned to her that I wanted try having another male in bed with us.

    I was very surprised when the first thing out of her mouth was, "Who?"

    I told her I didn't know and the subject was dropped because I felt like a pervert.
  5. Stlcuck50

    Stlcuck50 New around here... Beloved Member :)

    Try turning it into a bit of a game - Truth or Dare type, Then move to her going to right type of Bar all dolled up as 1st dare - you follow and sit elsewhere

    Gotta get her mind moving in right direction, Women need to reflect on the whole process.
  6. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Interesting idea.....worth trying.
  7. SquirmingSub

    SquirmingSub Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Open Honest Communication is best to have when speaking with your wife about everything. Yes you can play games to get the ball rolling although at some point you have to speak clearly, honestly, openly and serious vision.
  8. Custer Laststand

    Custer Laststand SLUTWIVES VIP! Beloved Member :)

    This is an important point. It suggests your wife may be more interested in making you her cuckold than you've thought.

    Even if you had a candidate in mind, so you could have responded to your wife's question "Who?", you probably would have been better off to turn her question around and ask something like, "Of the men you're acquainted with and see with some regularity, whom do you find most attractive...?"

    I suggest this because sexual attraction does not just involve physical appearance. It also involves interpersonal chemistry. The men your wife "feels chemistry" with might not be the men you think she would most-likely find attractive. Thus, if you had answered her "Who?" question with, say, "Mac Jones," she might have said, "No.... he doesn't appeal to me, particularly....", which would also have ended the conversation.

    Thus, having elicited an unexpected positive response from your wife, I suggest continuing that conversation with some questions about which men she finds attractive.... then, I suggest initiating a "pretend three-some" game by naming her favorite dildo (she has one, right...?) after that man. If your wife doesn't have a suitable dildo, I suggest a joint project to purchase one for her, so the two of you can assign it the role of pretend lover.
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  9. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Like you said, she answered the "Who' herself.
    One time when she was very drunk, I mentioned a MMF. She mentioned our landscaper, whom she said that she finds attractive (He finds her attractive, too, and has told her several times that she is beautiful). She said he was fucking him while I was at work. I don't know if this is true, but probably not.
    After that time, all she says since then, when sober or drunk, is that she only wants me.
    I picked out 2 dildos for her a while back, a black one I say is our black friend and an unassigned while one which she says is a joke because she says it's too small. As you said, I need to get a dildo that better matches our landscaper who is Hispanic. Any suggestions as to where they sell dildos that are Spanish?
  10. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    You're right.
  11. SquirmingSub

    SquirmingSub Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    @ whitewife696969

    As 'Custer Laststand' mentioned in post #8, the type of man/men that your wife may have an interest in and or may find sexual attraction or sexual chemistry with may truly not be the type of guy that you would expect. It would be good to have her (your wife) feedback and CL laid out several approaches for you which all do work.
  12. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    I’ll try those approaches ASAP!
  13. Custer Laststand

    Custer Laststand SLUTWIVES VIP! Beloved Member :)

    Interesting. Sounds like something you could build on during bedroom fantasy play....

    Great! Does this landscaper still work for you and your wife? If so, he sounds like a ready-at-hand candidate.

    If all this was way in the past, however, and your landscaper has long since moved on and you have no idea where he might be now, you'll probably have to write him off as an opportunity lost.

    When your wife tells you something like that, it's a bad idea to treat it as if she's putting you on — because that implies you don't take her seductive and erotic talents seriously. Better to respond as if she's told you the truth, while also letting her know you consider it normal for an attractive married woman like her to have a lover. And, let her know you're into that concept yourself. Say, look at her with a mischievous smile and ask her if he's well-equipped. Then, make it a daily game to ask her about various aspects of how it's going with her lover.... did he bring her to orgasm multiple times (etc.)?.... even if you suspect she isn't really fucking him. After a while, responses of this nature on your part might help bring her around to the idea that you consider it normal for her to have a lover.

    Hm.... maybe your wife really was fucking your landscaper, but she decided she had said too much and became determined to not make that mistake again.

    Sounds like your wife may be something of a size queen. That's positive, of course. The two of you should definitely make it a joint project to get her a considerably-larger dildo to replace the white one she scoffs at. Whether it's white or some other color is probably less important than it being realistic in appearance (it should resemble a real cock) and suitably large. A vibrating model would probably be a plus.

    I'll have to say, I don't know where Spanish-speaking dildos can be purchased.
  14. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Landscaper will be back in the spring and be around all summer into the fall. He would fuck her in a minute. He has helpers that would fuck her, too. She trusts him. I ordered 2 "Latin" dildos with 7.75" insertable length to fantasize about him this weekend.
    The black neighbor is readily available and would also fuck her.....he has black helpers, too.
    Do you think I should approach either of them about my wanting them to fuck my wife?
    I thought I posted this somewhere on this forum before. See what you think.....

    12-10-16 Last night, I complained to her that we didn’t have sex all weekend. She is trying on bathing suits, which turns me on, but it’s getting late in the night so it looks like it’s not happening. I have some whiskey to help me sleep, but I’m not drunk and she doesn’t know that. Then as we turn off the lights to go to bed, she starts blowing me and we start having sex. SHE IS NOT DRUNK, but as I put my fingers in her mouth, SHE SAYS it’s a black cock and SHE SAYS that she loves it when I fuck her with those black dildos. I ask her if she would like “that” implying her being with a black man and she says, “Oh, yes!” and she moans. Since she was NOT drunk and says that she wants black cock, do you think she really means it? Since she thinks that I’m drunk, I have an excuse by saying I was drunk when I suggested it. Is she getting closer to being with a black man?
  15. ObedientPet

    ObedientPet Her sexuality is my biggest turn on. Beloved Member :)

    Keep that fantasy going bro.. let her play with it in her mind a lot longer. I mean like over the course of several months, have patience.

    At the same time you need to find a way to let her know that you'd be ok with her if it ever did happen - with out it being about your fantasy. She needs to know that if she ever cheated, you would be cool and the marriage would be strong. For example, once she has played with this fantasy in bed a few more times - after a hot session when you are cuddling her, tell her you love and that she ever did give in to temptation, you would not be mad at her, because you want her to have great experiences in life. See how she response to this, if she seems content, next time you play with the fantasy - suggest looking at some hot stuff you've seen on some ones blog and show her some sexy interracial sex gifs and captions on Tumblr (stay away from actual porn - it puts a lot of chicks off).

    Keep toying with this fantasy over a period of time, role play with it in bed etc. When she has the nice black dildo in her.. lick her clit simultaneously and ask her "mmm, do you like your hubby licking your pussy while you're being fucked by this big black stud baby?", "We'll have to invite him over more often then".

    You want to get to a point where she will suggest the next steps, rather than you asking her to do it.
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  16. ObedientPet

    ObedientPet Her sexuality is my biggest turn on. Beloved Member :)

    Also, I'd suggest staying away from introducing words like 'Cuckold' or 'Hotwife' with her as that is often quite scary - to be confront with an established sexual fetish. Just focus on the nuts and bolts of her fantasy and yours: She loves the idea of a nice black cock - you think she will look SO hot being fucked by one and love the idea of her being a sexually liberated women.
  17. ObedientPet

    ObedientPet Her sexuality is my biggest turn on. Beloved Member :)

    I would also suggest combining this bedtime strategy with a more general behavioural encouragement, such as making her feel comfortable being around and close with other attractive males. Show her that you are comfortable with her getting attention and even express that verbally "Honey, it's important for you to feel sexy, it's amazing for a women's confidence when she feels attractive and gets attention from guys"
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  18. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    Great ideas and I especially like your cautions. She has told me that ALL the men that see her want to fuck her. She’s right.
  19. ObedientPet

    ObedientPet Her sexuality is my biggest turn on. Beloved Member :)

    Wow that's a very confident statement from her. Doesn't sound like she's too far away tbh.
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  20. whitewife696969

    whitewife696969 Not quite a lurker Beloved Member :)

    I hope not! Life's short.

    BTW: Years ago I left my wife briefly for a very sexy girlfriend to whom I suggested a MMF, any race. She didn't rule it out. But she said that she would have a hard time "concentrating." Ever hear of such a thing?????
    Also, she thought it was odd that I suggested it because she thought that most men want a MFF. Maybe she was right.
    She said that she would be more comfortable having a MFF involving her "drop dead gorgeous" best friend. Unfortunately, I left her and went back with my wife before anything happened.
    My wife is convinced that I had a MMF with her and her ex-husband.