I always loved tights (pantyhose) and started wearing when I was much younger (early teens). I loved the look and feel and without a girlfriend, I would wear them.
When I got a girlfriend, I was delighted when she wore. We occasionally wore together.
This was all it was until I was in my late 20's, by then married (still am) and I realised I wanted to wear the same sexy gear my wife did. We did dress together occasionally, but she worried I always wanted more. I started dressing in secret and realised, I wanted to see her with someone else. A dom / bull. I would have loved for us both to serve a dom, both of us dressed the same. I suspect had she seen me in a sexual act with another male, our relationship would have died. Now in my 50's I continue to be a closet sissy.