want virgin gf to date others

[Daniel97]

I am Daniel and my gf name is Jennifer, jen for short. We both are 18. I have know jen since we were 9 year old. Her parents moved to the house near us and soon we become best friends. We went to same middle and high school and always have been together. We shared our first kiss when we were 15 and since then our relationship have grown but not physically. We still haven’t done anything sexual I know it might sound weird but I have never seen her naked only in bra and of Couse bikini, we have made out and touched each other but never done it naked.

Jen is 5'6 and must be about 100-110 lbs she is cute,slim and beautiful but little bit of a tomboy and geeky looking with short hair in high school but now she have started growing her hair since a friend of her friend asked if she was lesbian. Now she is trying to change her look and wardrobe. She is just an inch shorter than me since she does not wear heels its not a problem.

I am 5'7 and weight only 120lbs and have almost no muscle mass and totally undeveloped chest. I am bit of a geek and love playing games and when I am not with jen I would be playing games. I am super beta and can never initiate anything. Even when prom was coming close I was unable to ask her out but jen asked me if if have bought cloths for prom and which color do would I like her to wear but me being indecisive fool told her she was wear one she likes.

Now lets talk about our current situation. We have just started different college but in same city so we can meet each other every weekend. We are both off campus she lives with her high school friend who seems to dislike me because she thinks jen is out of my league and jen deserve someone better than me. I live with a new guy from my college his name is david and he is a nice guy.

Enough of introduction lets talk about my fantasy I have been reading sex stories and hentai manga for a long time and for last year I have been into cuckoldry and netorare( Japanese cuckoldry). I masturbate every day thinking about jen having sex with some other guy even having sex with my roommate. I just cant stop thinking about it and I am masturbating multiple times a day even more than when I first discovered masturbation.

So few days ago jen was busy visiting her our hometown so my roommate and I went to play pool with few of his high school friend. A guy from her college was also there. I asked his if he know jen he told yeah he knew her and she was hot. I felt very excited hearing this and told his she was my neighbour and in my school. He was happy to hear that and ask me if I can hook him up with her he would be very grateful. I told him I will try my best and pat me on back and was very happy. Afterwards I excused my self and masturbated in the dirty toilet of the bar.
The guys name is Aaron and he is handsome and about 6 feel tall and have maintained his body not too much bulky. He and his high school gf broke up after they went to different colleges. He seems like confident and nice guy and is definitely not arrogant jock.

I don’t want to lose jen but I just cant stop thinking about aaron and her. I don’t know how to proceed with this but I would love to see jen date aaron and lose her virginity to him.

Kindly give advice how can I get her to date aaron.

ps sorry for any mistakes i am using mobile to type it

 

[Saraha]

Jen is meeting a lot of people around her age - they will ask her to hang out with them, even if it is just for a coffee and something to eat together.

She will lose her virginity when she is emotionally ready for it - there isn't any need to hurry her down that path if she is trying to finish her education.

You can only see her at the weekend, so she will in time decide whether she wants to stick with you exclusively, or date several guys for fun while still at College.

Other guys will try and talk her pants off if they get the chance.

If Aaron gets them off her, you could lose her completely, as he patted you on the back when he thought you might be able to help him hook up with her.

Aaron does not know Jen is your girlfriend, so he does not need to feel guilty if he kisses her vagina and sows his sperm in her garden patch.

You could ask Jen if guys at her college are asking to date her - and whether she wants to have several boyfriends at one time.

But if you push her into the arms of other guys, she probably won't marry you.

Cuckoldry is really about getting married first, then encouraging your wife to have secret boyfriends with larger cocks and horniness than you.

 

[Daniel97]

Hi sahara thanks for reply, I know cuckold lifestyle is not for every one and can be very dangerous. But I have been thinking about for a long time now and I am addicted to the cuckold fantasy I cant think about anything else except seeing her with some other guy.

I feel if I want to progress with jen further I have to make my fantasy reality and risk my relationship with her or my fantasy will consume me and I will lose jen anyways if I do nothing.

as for aaron he seems like a nice guy and i would be able to get information from him and my roommate if something happens between them. i am not saying i only want to see her with aaron but if she hook up with aaron it will be easier to get his progress with her and as for others guys will also feel same no guilt as they wouldn't know that i m her bf.

 

[Daniel97]

I am returning from a date with her I did mentioned aaron in our date she does not seems to know him by name but she recognized his picture told me he is on lot of her classes. She asked me how I knew him and I told her he is friend with my roommate and he has a crush on her and he asked me to help him hook up with you. She laughed and asked what did I say to him. I told her that I did not want break poor guys heart so i did not mentioned I was dating you and told him I will try to talk to you about him. She gave me a annoyed look for second or two and then teased me if I was doing that right now. I laughed nervously and we changed the topic and continued our date.

I don’t know if I did the right thing or nor or if this small talk would even effect anything.

 

[jwff]

Cuckoldry is really about getting married first, then encouraging your wife to have secret boyfriends with larger cocks and horniness than you.

I disagree. A couple doesn't have to be married; so long as there is openness and clear communication between both partners, a cuckolding dynamic can be realized between people who are still just boyfriend-and-girlfriend.

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Daniel97, my best advice to you is to be open and honest about your desires with Jen. Take some time, sit down with her, and explain to her what you're fantasies are.

You don't have to be blunt about it (i.e "Please fuck Aaron!"), but you however choose to broach the issue, you should be reasonably clear, by the end of it, about where your interests lie.

Ask your girlfriend what she thinks. For any successful cuckold relationship, 'it takes two to tango'. If this is going to work, it's because it's something that you're both interested in. You have to respect your girlfriend's interests and opinions.

So, take your GF aside, tell her about your fantasies, and then ask her what she thinks.

It might be that she is totally against the idea; I think that it's unlikely for her not to at least hear you out, but if this is so, you should respect her position.

On the other hand, it might be that you explain your fantasies, and your GF is on board immediately - in which case, congratulations!

The most likely situation, however, is that your girlfriend will be on the fence about this - quite reasonably - especially if this is all new to her. Jumping in the deep end is out of the question. In this case, the best approach is probably to propose something small, gauge her reaction, and if it's positive, then come back, discuss, and perhaps push the envelope a little more.

For instance, you might suggest that she do a little 'innocent' flirting with Aaron, and if that turns out to be a positive experience for both of you, then you could move onto something a little more daring.

It can be daunting to be honest like this, especially if you don't know how the other person will react. However, if the two of you have a strong relationship, then she should at least hear you out. Just remember that the key is to communicate, be clear about your interests and fantasies, and respectful of each other's positions.

I wish you the best of luck. Thanks for sharing; I hope you'll keep us updated on how things go.

 

[Saraha]

I am returning from a date with her I did mentioned aaron in our date she does not seems to know him by name but she recognized his picture told me he is on lot of her classes. She asked me how I knew him and I told her he is friend with my roommate and he has a crush on her and he asked me to help him hook up with you. She laughed and asked what did I say to him. I told her that I did not want break poor guys heart so i did not mentioned I was dating you and told him I will try to talk to you about him. She gave me a annoyed look for second or two and then teased me if I was doing that right now. I laughed nervously and we changed the topic and continued our date.

I don’t know if I did the right thing or nor or if this small talk would even effect anything.

You have made a good start by showing her a photo of Aaron, and telling her that Aaron has a crush on her and wanted your help to hook up with her. She has noticed him in her classes, so the stage is now set for her to decide whether she wants to get to know him better. She will notice when he looks at her. She may tell her friends that Aaron has a crush on her, to see what advice they might give her.

 

[Daniel97]

Today I tried playing cupid for aaron. I told jen I needed my usb drive for some urgent work and she can give it to aaron then he can give it to me or my roommate. As my roommate and he usually hangout almost everyday.

Jen told me that she talked with aaron during lunch and told him she will give usb drive to him tomorrow but aaron suggested that they can go to her house to grab it after the classes are over, he have a car so there wont be any problem. He also asked if she wanted to have lunch together but she have already had lunch.

After college aaron pick her and her friends asked who was the handsome guy she told them he was just friend of a friend who wanted usb drive and she went with aaron. She told me aaron seems like a nice guy and tried to flirt with her. He asked if they can go to a nice food joint near her college she said some other time. In jen's room they talked a bit and then he left with drive.

I told her she should make few more friends and aaron is nice guy she asked me sarcastically if I was trying to hook her up with aaron and laughed and told her maybe I am. We talk was our day and some other small talks then we said I love you to each other.

Aaron called me and thanked me for setting it up and told me he was too eager and may have mess up. He told me he have been out of dating business for a long time his last girlfriend he was in 1.5 year relationship and he went on only 2 date with a girl since college has opened and it did not went well. I reassured him every thing was good.

This is all the update for today let me know what do you think. Was my plan any good and is there a chance of anything happening between them or was aaron too eager?

 

[SquirmingSub]

Very interesting, does your gf know of your desires?

 

[Daniel97]

Very interesting, does your gf know of your desires?

No she does not know i dont want to push her into my fantasy i want her to do it herself.
i know its like playing with fire and can destroy our relationship but i want her to do it by her own free will.

 

[jwff]

I told her she should make few more friends and aaron is nice guy she asked me sarcastically if I was trying to hook her up with aaron and laughed and told her maybe I am. We talk was our day and some other small talks then we said I love you to each other.

This kind of situation might be a good 'opener' to introducing some of your interests to your GF.

No she does not know i dont want to push her into my fantasy i want her to do it herself.
i know its like playing with fire and can destroy our relationship but i want her to do it by her own free will.

You're not undermining her free will by discussing your ideas with her - you're enabling it, because she can understand what you're trying to achieve, and choose for herself whether she wants to go down that road.

All I can say that it's better when you do it together; if your GF knows what it is that turns your crank, she might do it for you. If she doesn't, you might never see it, no matter how hard you push.

It's also a lot less likely to end up destroying your relationship. If Jen knows the rules of the game, your limits, and why it is that you're encouraging her with Aaron, then the two of you are much more likely to retain a connection.

 

[SquirmingSub]

Daniel – As you have written and others have replied with their respective viewpoints. As luck would have it, you have been able to indeed provide a situation which clearly may be a good introduction for your girlfriend assuming you BOTH share a similar interest. This is something that you both need to have a mutual interest in for it to be enjoyable as a couple. Something you need to understand before taking additional steps, for every relationship to work, you must have open transparent and honest communication as a couple, even more so when a couple is exploring the many variations of this lifestyle.

While I understand that you have not told her your fantasy as you are wanting her to do it herself, I really feel that this approach with someone so young and impressionable is not the best thing for a relationship. As another poster stated “You're not undermining her free will by discussing your ideas with her - you're enabling it, because she can understand what you're trying to achieve, and choose for herself whether she wants to go down that road. It's also a lot less likely to end up destroying your relationship. If Jen knows the rules of the game, your limits, and why it is that you're encouraging her with Aaron, then the two of you are much more likely to retain a connection.” What this post said is something that you should consider.

I truly can see the intrigue and excitement of wanting your “virgin” girlfriend to date others, to have her “first” sexual experience with another man. Are you ready for her to give her virginity up to another man, for her to have that level of physical and emotional intimate bonding experiences with another man? Knowing that once she goes down this path that she may never have intercourse with you? This is something that not all men would enjoy. If this is truly your fantasy, truly a fantasy that you would like to turn into a reality knowing this could alter your relationship and would be something that you cannot change after the fact you should consider discussing your ideas with her. You really should have this conversation in a non sexual environment, as others have said you can be open and honest about your desires without having to be so blunt about it (i.e "Please fuck Aaron!"), either way you approach it you should be reasonably clear, by the end of it, she should know where your interests lie. You should ask Jen what she truly thinks, know that she may need time to process what you just shared with her, so give her time to respond without judgment and be open to her feelings about it. If this is truly going to work out, it is going to do so because of your mutual interest in the lifestyle. You must be respectful of your girlfriend's interests, desires and opinions.

JWFF has made some good points in this last couple of post,

- It might be that she is totally against the idea; I think that it's unlikely for her not to at least hear you out, but if this is so, you should respect her position.

- On the other hand, it might be that you explain your fantasies, and your GF is on board immediately - in which case, congratulations!

- The most likely situation, however, is that your girlfriend will be on the fence about this - quite reasonably - especially if this is all new to her. Jumping in the deep end is out of the question. In this case, the best approach is probably to propose something small, gauge her reaction, and if it's positive, then come back, discuss, and perhaps push the envelope a little more.

- For instance, you might suggest that she do a little 'innocent' flirting with Aaron, and if that turns out to be a positive experience for both of you, then you could move onto something a little more daring.

I also see were you are getting advise on this forum and another that we are both members of, the other forum is much more female friendly if you would like to introduce her to it so that she may get a much better idea of what is going through your head and what your fantasies are, will help her see that their are many others out there doing the same thing.

 

[Daniel97]

an out of topic question does anyone have "Hyatt college" story or link?

 

[zippless]

an out of topic question does anyone have "Hyatt college" story or link?

Why not open a new thread instead of hijacking this one?

 

[Custer Laststand]

I don’t want to lose jen but I just cant stop thinking about aaron and her. I don’t know how to proceed with this but I would love to see jen date aaron and lose her virginity to him.

Why do you assume that if your desirable woman Jen fucks Aaron, she won't dump you and become Aaron's woman?

Given the definition: cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife

if Jen begins fucking Aaron, and/or other men, you will not be her cuckold. Rather, Jen will be a woman with multiple boyfriends that may or may not include you.

 

[Daniel97]

Why do you assume that if your desirable woman Jen fucks Aaron, she won't dump you and become Aaron's woman?

Given the definition: cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife

if Jen begins fucking Aaron, and/or other men, you will not be her cuckold. Rather, Jen will be a woman with multiple boyfriends that may or may not include you.

hi custer i dont assume if jen fuck aaron she wont leave me. I know the risk involved.
I might not be a cuckold by definition but i get turn on thinking about betraying/cheating on me.
i know it may all sound strange but thats what i want.

 

[SquirmingSub]

Daniel - What not simply open up to Jen, tell her your fantasy so that you BOTH may enjoy it together. By not opening talking to her, you may end up pushing her away.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Hi Custer — I dont assume if Jen fucks Aaron she won't leave me. I know the risk involved.

I might not be a cuckold by definition, but i get turned on thinking about Jen betraying or cheating on me.

I know this may all sound strange, but that's what i want.

There's nothing wrong with that. I suggest you ask your hot-and-sexy woman — whom I gather has not condescended to fuck you — that she read these two articles:

Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

then tell you what she thinks. Then, listen carefully to what she says, don't interrupt... and spend some time talking with her about it.

If what you have in mind is not her fantasy, and it doesn't appeal to her at all, I suggest using your conversation — in a suitably private setting, of course — to try to find out what kinds of sexual fantasies do turn her on. Since you'll have revealed your fantasy to her, it will be fair enough for you to ask her to share her fantasy(ies) with you.

Ideally, the outcome will be that afterwards you'll have an idea whether you and she are on the same page, or... if not... whether there's any possibility you'll ever be on the same page.

 

[Daniel97]

Today I had a long talk with jen about dating others

Jen told me aaron sat with her during two classes and they talked a lot. He asked her if she has a bf she told him yes but didn’t mentioned that I m her bf. They talked some more about their hobbies etc and he asked if he can drop her to her home after college, she was bit reluctant at first but agreed as its getting colder in evening. They also talked about his ex gf and jen told me she sounded like bitch to break up 1.5 year of relationship without even giving long distance relationship a chance ( I don’t know if aaron or his gf was the one who initiated break up but I think it was mutual ). I asked her what she think about aaron, she told aaron a nice and friendly guy but knowing he was hitting on her and have a crush on her make it bit embarrassing for her. I asked her if he was boyfriend material, she said while laughing that he was he is handsome, tall ( I am not) and have a car (I don’t even have license). I told her maybe she should date him she did not reply for few minutes I asked her what happened. She told me I have been acting weird last few days I said that ever since we were teen we have been dating and maybe she should date other before we take next step. She asked me if I wanted to breakup, I told her no I don’t want to but I want her to date some other guy before we decide where to go with our relationship. She asked what about me how will I feel, I told her its ok that why I brought this up. She asked what about me dating a girl, I asked if she wanted me to date others girls, she replied “no”. I told her she should try dating aaron as he is nice guy and have crush on her. She told me she did not want to date, I told her to think about it for sometime and then give answer and I would be happy if she say yes. She gave me a wear ok and said she will think about it.

sorry for one long paragraph

 

[jwff]

Kudos for starting a dialogue with Jen - this is a very positive step!

There's a few points of further advice that I would add, as you continue to have discussions with your GF:

- Focus on how this is a development of the relationship between the two of you, rather than an interruption of it. While in some circumstances, a cuckoldress might even develop a dynamic with her 'bull', the emphasis of any healthy cuckold relationship is between the cuckold and cuckoldress. Try to focus on how cuckold-themed play can serve to be mutually arousing for the both of you, and how it will improve the sexual chemistry of your relationship.

- Think about what your own interests are. Try to establish, for yourself, exactly which aspects of the cuckolding dynamic most appeal to you. Is it the sex / voyeuristic aspects that appeal to you, or the emotional side? Do you want to be witness to your GF's encounters, or do you prefer to sit on the sidelines and hear about it later? Are you looking for a femdom / humiliation / chastity side to this play? It's easier to explain your fetish to others when you've given some thought as to what really appeals to you.

- Be honest about your desires. It's okay to let your GF know that 'Hey, I get off on this!'. It's important for Jen to know that you intend this as an exciting experience for both of you, instead of coming to the misunderstanding that you're trying to push her away. If she realizes that this is for both of your enjoyment, and comes to share your interests, then you'll both be a position to proceed and play with your fetish manner that appeals to both of you.

- Don't be afraid to limit yourself to just 'dipping your toes' when you first start out. Remember that you're not just testing your GF's limits; you're also testing your own. There are stories of cucks who push a little too fast, and freak out when they find that they've moved past their comfort zone. Make sure that you are both confident and comfortable before each step that you take.

Before going all-out with dating, you might consider something like some casual flirting, or even just some roleplay between the two of you, to determine whether you're both interested in this.​

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I'd additionally add that, should you get a good opportunity, and assuming it wouldn't be too unusual in the context of your relationship, you might consider introducing your GF to a good primer or resource on this fetish, which could immediately add to her understanding. Custer Laststand has already posted two very good articles in this regard above; to this, I'd also add a slightly tamer Daily Beast article on Cuckolding from 2010:

The Intellectual Sex Fetish​

On a slightly more daring note, there's also two authors from Literotica who, in my opinion, have written half-decent fiction around this fetish. I don't know how liberal your relationship is, and whether sharing smut with one another would be a serious faux pas. But if you do both happen to be more or less comfortable about discussing sex and porn, you might consider bringing up one of these (or another story that you like), and basically asking your GF: "Hey I liked this - what do you think?".

The Shadow Rising - A lot of stories by this author dealing with the seduction of girlfriends in college - esp. see When Wishes Come True

Metalimbic - Currently working on a story called 'Sun Hee', which is more focused on chastity and femdom, but definitely contains some serious cuckolding themes too. There are some parallels with your situation (BF and GF in college, BF hasn't consummated the relationship yet).​

Anyways, thanks for keeping us updated. I'm looking forward to see how things work out with Jen

 

[SquirmingSub]

Daniel - Thank you for the update, it is good to you two have spoken about it. If I was you I would also make it clear that you would not be seeing any other girls/women while she has your full encouragement to date Arron or another other man. It should also be reaffirmed that you two are not breaking up, she should know that she is has you encouragement, your support and this is her opportunity to explore the field while having a solid relationship with you (similar to a security blanket).