Accedentally turned my wife on to Interracial Cuckold porn. What should I do?

[Greenbook]

I originally put on YA with out much help....so I thought I'd bring it he to the pros.
This is a serious question. Thank you.

I am a married white male in my late 20's. My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years. I often view interracial porn that is mostly homemade involving real white wives with black men. Over the years this has evolved for me, it initially was just me being turned on by the reality of homemade porn but then it moved on to wives and them cheating with black men and so on. I enjoy watching this because I think it’s dirty and kinky but I never fantasize about it being my wife with other men. I like the thought of the wives being dirty and their husbands being humiliated. I know that my wife knows that I have watched this (most likely from my browser history) because she has made reference in an argument about it in an attempt to piss me off by saying that because I enjoy interracial porn and such that there may be a possibility of me being gay or bi..lol. Anyway, I recently discovered by snooping on her phone that she has been watching interracial porn now almost exclusively. I have not mentioned that I found this at all but I did bring up porn and masturbation the other day during a normal conversation and she told me how she had made herself orgasm twice while watching a man perform oral on a woman. She however, did not mention how it was a black man in the video…I only know this because I watched part of the video while on her phone and it was the same as she described. In the past ( as far as I know) she was never attracted to black men but I think I may have triggered her to watch the porn I was watching therefore implanting the fantasy. To get to the point, I do not want my wife sleeping with other men at all and I think she may have got that impression from what I have been watching. I feel that her new found fantasy may become an obsession and she will lose interest in me and I am reluctant to talk to her about it because If she knows I don’t approve it may become more appealing to her like putting gas on the fire for lack of other words… What should I do??

Recently I've tried to show my strength to my wife and reestablish myself as the man she needs and wants and I think that over the past week or so I have been successful. However this subject came up the other night once we came home from having drinks and it didn't go to well. Earlier that night in casual conversation I brought up cuckold porn and she told me about one of the scenes she had watched. Later that night, (while buzzed) I brought up that I was not comfortable with her watching that type of fantasy and she became angry and blamed me for her ever watching it in the first place and that she would now watch it out of spite. Eventually I explained and promised that I just wouldn't watch it if she wouldn't and she agreed...but I don't believe her. When I came home from being out yesterday the search history had been deleted. I mean I did start it, I just hope it stays a fantasy for her. I realize it's my fault and want us to be open, now it's like a large elephant in the room and I want to know if that's what she wants or if its just fantasy. I think that because the way things went last time if I try to talk with her she may clam up and keep it to herself....which could be bad.... I've thought of just telling her why I watch it and also maybe telling her some things I would be open to such as same room sex with another cpl or having a m or f watch us have sex. What do you think?---

 

[adam8642]

You may get used to the idea that she will give her pussy, ass, mouth and tits to big black cock everytime she has an opportunity

 

[txwifebreeder]

My advice is to let her fuck black men under your supervision. You set the conditions. You be the man.

 

[midnightfapper]

Just tell her straight up how you feel. If it's just gonna stay fantasy, then everything is fine. Don't go turning this into a game of secrets and lies. You two need to get together and set clear boundaries. Once you feel that you have become comfortable with you boundaries, have fun with it. If you make it flat out off limits, then she is only going to want it more, and will go behind your back to get it. Make it something fun you enjoy together.

 

[BHCCuck]

So you now have a wife, that likes watching porn to get turned o and enhancing your private sex life. Most guys would kill for that. Embrace it.

 

[mimi27406]

Tell us how this proceeds!

 

[geordiekev]

tell us the out come asap

 

[Saraha]

You have opened the door with that letter - so if she changes her mind, it will definitely lead to threesomes. You are lucky she is thinking about what mind pictures you have sown in her head, witout getting angry. Athough she is saying,"no", now, that can change in a year's time when she has had more ******** to porn, as much as you.

She is saying she wants her marriage to stay strong between you/her, so she is giving you a compliment - and has also tolerated your viewing porn, and has seen enough herself to know you aren't some weird husband who likes porn and other men don't.

I think you need to accept that she has a right to look at heaps of porn, but at her own speed and absorption rate; and you shouldn't check up on what she looks at. Let her grow her fantasies as she talks more about porn with her friends.

You really pushed the boundaries when you told her that you wanted two couples in same room naked watching each other. Add some alcohol and it becomes an orgy after a couple of sessions of 4 in the room.

I like the way you put things in writing, so she can re-read exactly what you mean.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Don't try to sweep it under the rug; take advantage of what you've both discovered...

Greenbook,

I hafta' say, your posts sound like the pot calling the kettle black. (Sorry, couldn't resist...)

Since your wife seems to understand you would not be turned on by the reality of her fucking another man (with or without you watching), and she has made it clear she would not be turned on by the reality of you fucking another woman (with or without her watching), but both of you are turned on by cuckold porn involving white married women fucking black lovers (which is imaginary, from both of your points of view), then why not go with that...?

A way to approach it would be for you to rent or purchase porn DVDs featuring white married women who fuck black lovers, and watch one from time to time with your wife while making out on your couch, or in your bedroom, by way of turning yourselves on for sex.

In addition, purchase a realistic vibrating black dildo for your wife in a size, probably not over-large (to begin with), she'll be able to accommodate comfortably. To make this an erotic experience, she could accompany you to a local sex shop and pick one out, then require you to buy it for her while she stands beside you, watches and provides encouragement ("It's alright, sweetie... there's no need for you to feel embarrassed..." or words to that effect).

Then, give your wife's black dildo a name... perhaps the name of the black porn star in one of your black-on-white cuckold DVDs.

Then, begin a fantasy love-making session with you pretending to be your wife's black lover (perhaps whispering into her ear about how hot she is and making disparaging comments about her teeny-weenie white cuckold), her calling you (breathlessly) by the name of her new black dildo, and you working her well-lubricated vibrating black dildo into her pussy while she augments her pleasure by using one hand to masturbate her clit — until, of course, your wife orgasms (and continue if your wife is multi-orgasmic).

When your wife becomes accustomed to her black dildo, purchase a larger one for her (in the same way, with her accompanying you to the sex shop and requiring you to make the purchase while she watches with a slightly-disdainful look and makes suitable comments).

Voila! You and your wife will find yourselves indulgin in your fantasies hence enjoying an enhanced sexual relationship, without the unpleasantness (from your point of view) of your wife taking real black men as lovers.

—Custer

 

[midnightfapper]

Greenbook,

I hafta' say, your posts sound like the pot calling the kettle black. (Sorry, couldn't resist...)

Since your wife seems to understand you would not be turned on by the reality of her fucking another man (with or without you watching), and she has made it clear she would not be turned on by the reality of you fucking another woman (with or without her watching), but both of you are turned on by cuckold porn involving white married women fucking black lovers (which is imaginary, from both of your points of view), then why not go with that...?

A way to approach it would be for you to rent or purchase porn DVDs featuring white married women who fuck black lovers, and watch one from time to time with your wife while making out on your couch, or in your bedroom, by way of turning yourselves on for sex.

In addition, purchase a realistic vibrating black dildo for your wife in a size, probably not over-large (to begin with), she'll be able to accommodate comfortably. To make this an erotic experience, she could accompany you to a local sex shop and pick one out, then require you to buy it for her while she stands beside you, watches and provides encouragement ("It's alright, sweetie... there's no need for you to feel embarrassed..." or words to that effect).

Then, give your wife's black dildo a name... perhaps the name of the black porn star in one of your black-on-white cuckold DVDs.

Then, begin a fantasy love-making session with you pretending to be your wife's black lover (perhaps whispering into her ear about how hot she is and making disparaging comments about her teeny-weenie white cuckold), her calling you (breathlessly) by the name of her new black dildo, and you working her well-lubricated vibrating black dildo into her pussy while she augments her pleasure by using one hand to masturbate her clit — until, of course, your wife orgasms (and continue if your wife is multi-orgasmic).

When your wife becomes accustomed to her black dildo, purchase a larger one for her (in the same way, with her accompanying you to the sex shop and requiring you to make the purchase while she watches with a slightly-disdainful look and makes suitable comments).

Voila! You and your wife will find yourselves indulgin in your fantasies hence enjoying an enhanced sexual relationship, without the unpleasantness (from your point of view) of your wife taking real black men as lovers.

—Custer

I second this. Relax and enjoy your fantasies. Remember that there are many different levels of "cucking" and you don't have to dive in head first. If you like the porn but nothing else, great! Watch the porn! Don't stress out over taking it farther. Just do what comes naturally and comfortably and enjoy it.

This is exactly what I am doing. I love cuck porn and cuck fantasies because it all has this overwhelming sense of raw erotic passion. I don't like the idea of degradation and infidelity, I just like dirty sex. I would never share my girl for real, but I still enjoy the porn, the stories, and the occasional role play with her.

 

[Hank jones]

Great job at communication. Keep that going and explore together!!
Good luck
Hank.

 

[2wheel]

You have all the answers you need as well as the boundaries.

It takes most couples forever to never reach that point. You are ahead of the curve, embrace it.

 

[Greenbook]

Great job at communication. Keep that going and explore together!!
Good luck
Hank.

Thanks all! I have tried to continue with writing her on the subject to show my interest in her fantasies but she has stopped talking, also she hasn't been very sexual at all with me lately but I know she is watching the porn while I'm at work, I think I may have scarred her off when I finally came out that I was frustrated that she wasn't attempting to get off with me but she was watching porn. I admit that I may have been overly insecure about it because she told me I was just being crazy and that it was just coincidence that when she got in the mood I was at work. I didn't mention it but it was strange to me that she had erased the history so I couldn't see what she had been watching....I guess what I'm getting at is I think she is now wanting BBC and wont tell me. I want to have fun with her but I don't want to end up actually getting cuck'd later on down the road. Damned if I do, Damned if I don't...

 

[Greenbook]

... I think I may have scarred her off

Oops! *scared

 

[Custer Laststand]

You pays your money and makes your choices...

Greenbook,

I have tried to continue with writing [to my wife] on the subject to show my interest in her fantasies, but she has stopped talking. Also, she hasn't been very sexual at all with me lately but I know she is watching [BBC] porn while I'm at work. I think I may have scared her off when I finally came out that I was frustrated that she wasn't attempting to get off with me but she was watching porn.

Why not suggest to your wife that both of you watch BBC porn after you come home from work, since you know it appeals to both of you...? If you can't talk with her about it, you could begin watching it openly after you get home from work which may have the effect of drawing her in. Your wife might then find herself "getting into the mood" in the evenings when the two of you are together, instead of when you're at work and she's at home (secretly watching BBC porn, evidently).

I guess what I'm getting at is, I think my wife is now wanting BBC and she won't tell me. I want to have fun with her, but I don't want to end up actually getting cuck'd later on down the road. Damned if I do, damned if I don't...

Re. being "damned of you do, damned of you don't:" a lot of life is like that. You pays your money and makes your choices...

If you aren't willing to take some risks once in a while (preferably not all the time, of course), you could be putting yourself on course for an extended dull marriage that may come to an end anyway because of your wife becoming convinced you "don't understand her" and she "can't communicate with you."

Since the divorce rate (sooner or later) among all married couples is something like 50% (I seem to recall... I haven't seen any statistics on this for a while), one can reasonably conclude — or at least, strongly suspect — that striving for a "safe, risk-free" marriage does not guarantee of a long and satisfying marriage.

—Custer

 

[Greenbook]

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Re. being "damned of you do, damned of you don't:" a lot of life is like that. You pays your money and makes your choices...

If you aren't willing to take some risks once in a while (preferably not all the time, of course), you could be putting yourself on course for an extended dull marriage that may come to an end anyway because of your wife becoming convinced you "don't understand her" and she "can't communicate with you.

I understand but I really don't want to push the issue, I don't want her to think that's what I want and I don't want to make her want it more.

 

[Custer Laststand]

In that case, you and your wife have already attained (in a sense) what you want...

I understand but I really don't want to push the issue. I don't want her to think that's what I want and I don't want to make her want it more.

In that case, you've already reached the optimal solution of your problem by default. Your wife watches BBC porn during the day when you're at work, deletes her browser history before you come home, and says nothing about it to you.

You watch BBC porn when your wife is not around, delete your browser history afterwards and say nothing about it to her.

Thoughts of divorce will probably circulate in the back of your wife's mind, because she'll always be aware you're preoccupied with Internet sites that play to your fantasies, consequently not thinking about her, and she has sexual needs you aren't responding to. What, she'll wonder, do your Internet-porn preoccupations have to do with her...?

Thoughts of divorce will probably circulate in the back of your mind for the same reasons.

But, both of you will, in a sense, have attained what you want — complete absence of communication about your innermost sexual desires, with communication about day-to-day trivia standing in as a substitute (sort of).

Maybe it will all work out, and you'll have a long and passion-free marriage.

 

[Saraha]

You can't be sure where her curiosity of porn will take her libido, or how many men she will bed down. when the stories she reads in Literotica, give her the courage "to have what the others are truly enjoying".

If you are convinced she is looking at porn and wiping her history each session, then step back and let her have a ball. Her mind is seeded, and soon she will become addicted to the point she becomes hornier in bed with you, AND THAT WOULD BE WELCOME BY YOU.

Give your wife space, and she will decide where her mind goes, and how often she takes off her panties for strangers she meets.

Her body language will change to match her secret sex life in her mind, and other guys will hit on her because her thoughts are always reflected in the magnetic welcome mat of aura that they can see around a person like her.

Before a wife can paint the town red, she has to practice in her mind, until her subconscious mind no longer says that she can't. If she fucks men in her dreams, she will eventually fuck them in reality.

Thoughts become things, thoughts manifest, you hold them as your mantra until you get them OR SOMETHING BETTER.

 

[Greenbook]

Maybe right Saraha... I think if I do take this and run with it and watch cuck videos with her it will only force the issue.. I think that the best thing I could do because I don't want this for my marriage is to sit back and hope she just keeps it is her fantasy. I don't think I'm going to bring it up anymore and when we do watch porn I'll keep it normal or try and introduce a new fetish that will excite her as well as keep her belonging to me.

 

[Greenbook]

Obviously everyone here is into the Cuck lifestyle....they're is too much jealously and trust issues in my relationship to make it a reality. Does anyone have any ideas of alternatives game/fet I could introduce to my wife too that would excite her and keep us monogamous?