Advice

[Lcueto]

I’ve been fantasizing about my wife with another man but don’t know how to go about starting that conversation, any advice would be helpful

 

[IndyHubby]

There's no single answer. But I've found that just plain honesty works best. No tricks, no setups, just honesty. Gently open the subject and talk through it. It won't happen in one sitting.

In the beginning, she'll need a lot of reassurance about your intentions. After the deed is done, especially after the first time, she'll need reassurance that you are thrilled and want her even more. Finally, after she starts wanting sex with other guys regularly and probably more than sex with you, you'll need reassurance from her that she still loves you.

 

[zippless]

There's no single answer. But I've found that just plain honesty works best. No tricks, no setups, just honesty. Gently open the subject and talk through it. It won't happen in one sitting.

In the beginning, she'll need a lot of reassurance about your intentions. After the deed is done, especially after the first time, she'll need reassurance that you are thrilled and want her even more. Finally, after she starts wanting sex with other guys regularly.

Well said.

Finally, after she starts wanting sex with other guys regularly and probably more than sex with you, you'll need reassurance from her that she still loves you.

I don't agree with this part. It is the cuckolds responsibility to reassure his wife that he loves her no matter what she does or who she fucks.​

 

[Lamont]

I don't agree with this part. It is the cuckolds responsibility to reassure his wife that he loves her no matter what she does or who she fucks.

The truth may lie somewhere inbetween both statements I suspect. Not only does a cuckold have a giant responsibility to reassure his wife....who in the majority of the cases only started doing this at his insistence or urging, but I do strongly feel that in a good relationship a cuckold's wife also bears some responsibility in the reassurance game. I think in healthy relationships, reassurance and showing love is a two way street.

 

[zippless]

The truth may lie somewhere inbetween both statements I suspect. Not only does a cuckold have a giant responsibility to reassure his wife....who in the majority of the cases only started doing this at his insistence or urging, but I do strongly feel that in a good relationship a cuckold's wife also bears some responsibility in the reassurance game. I think in healthy relationships, reassurance and showing love is a two way street.

Bang on! When I think about my wife naturally did that for me. She reassured me that no matter what happened she loved me. The rest was fun and adventure. It was a journey we were taking together. And I totally agree with you reassurance and love is a two way street.
Thank you for your insightful post.

 

[Nazareth]

Hah! I'll never forget the look on my wife's face the first time I told her I wanted to watch her fuck!
I've gotten other looks from her since when I've expressed my desire, but none like that first.

Back on topic, could you use porn as an icebreaker? A 'cheating wife' is a popular theme that's not necessarily cuckold-related, but you may not want to start with anything that's too specific.