Hi Ms. Babydoll,
babydoll4u said:
You're welcome.
babydoll4u said:
I've been writing about this sort of thing for years. The saddest thing is, a lot of men will read my column and STILL do those things...
Key insight may be provided by your use of the word, "read." A whole lot of people don't read much of anything. In decades past, only something like 15% of the population subscribed to a newspaper of any kind (according to my wife, who was a newspaper reporter many years ago). Now, I would guess, the percentage is even less. There are many people, whom you would think would want to be well-informed, who do not have a single book let alone bookshelf visible anywhere in their home.
Another relevant factor may be that most people aren't interested in "advice" that may or actually does pertain to them. Rather, they do things in accordance with how they see their friends doing things, which can be thought of as "peer influence." (For a man vis-a-vis women, that can result in ignorance to the nth power where "n" is the number of his friends.) Or, a man uses his father as a model for how he should relate to women, which isn't much better and, often, is even worse.
babydoll4u said:
Guy's, here's a clue... Most women are turned off by [an introduction consisting of a photo of your cock]. Yes, we eventually want to know what you have, but not in those first few crucial moments while we decide if you have a chance to get in our knickers. Trust me, a simple "corporate" style photo is the very best kind to use.
Another clue would be trying to imagine whether one, as a man, would be able to decide whether one wanted to meet a given woman based on a photo of her pussy. A decision would be... well... difficult. Most likely, one would conclude she had little or no pride in her face, the shape of her body or her taste in clothing.
babydoll4u said:
I've learned a whole lot of things, Cdlola, that I didn't know about when I started dating men after my transition to a female.
Ah... I didn't realize you were an erstwhile man. (Maybe you said that in one of your posts, but I missed it.) That would seem to make you uniquely qualified to comment on the "problem of men making favorable impressions on women" (or not).
babydoll4u said:
I've begun to really see, and experiance what women actually go through and are ****** to put up with when men are involved.
Really... you must find it an eye-opening experience...
babydoll4u said:
Don't misunderstand, I like men, I love to be "taken" too, but most guys have no idea how to go about getting from "A" to "B" so they miss out on a lot of chances to be with us.
Sigh...
babydoll4u said:
I've written endlessly about it for years and it doesn't seem to help the boys get the girls. It's sad really, the instruction manual is right there and most guys will adamantly refuse to pick it up.
See comments above re. the unfortunate necessities of "reading" and perceiving that "advice" might even pertain to oneself.
I gather, from your use of the word "knickers," you are located in the UK. (The... um, hm, let's see, how to say this... "Americanese" version of that would be "panties.") Are you a more-or-less well-known advice columnist who follows this forum — among others, perhaps — to keep up on current trends...? Or are you interested in this forum for other reasons...?
—Custer