Hello Joel,
Thank you for your erotic post. Re.:
cuckoldjoel said:
Hello everyone,
my name is Joel and my wife has been having an affair since August of 2006.
This answers the question on your subject line. You are a real cuckold. Recall the definition, which is short and straightforward. It is: cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife (meaning, of course, a wife who fucks one or more other men). This can be thought of as the "cake." All of the lifestyle features that may or may not be associated with a hotwife / cuckold husband marriage can be thought of as "frosting and decorations on the cake."
cuckoldjoel said:
She doesnt know that I am aware of it because I act normally.
If this has preserved your marriage, so much the better.
cuckoldjoel said:
The man, whose name is Glen, has been a family friend for many years and coaches my children in swimming.
Twelve years is a lot of coaching....
cuckoldjoel said:
[My wife] began taking lessons [from Glen] in july 2006, and they have been fucking since then.
Good for your wife. If she has been taking swimming lessons from her lover for the past 12 years, I hope she has learned to swim....
cuckoldjoel said:
All the neighbours see him coming and going and he comes over many tmes when i am home. I pretend not to notice the looks and touches, and sometimes I pretend exhaustion and go to bed, leaving them alone to have fun.
Very good. Having all the neighbors, and perhaps your children as well, be aware that your wife has a long-term lover is very good frosting on your cuckold cake.
cuckoldjoel said:
I like what is happening very much.
As you should. It's not unusual for a married man to be turned on by the knowledge that his wife is increasing her sexual pleasure, and also her psychological satisfaction, by having stepped up, stepped out and taken a lover.
cuckoldjoel said:
Let me know what you-all think. —Joel
You might consider bringing the nature of your marital relationship out into the open, between you and your wife, since she is almost certainly aware you know about her affair with Glen but choose to pretend you don't know for reasons of your own. A way to do this might be to mention to her you ran across a couple of articles online, and suggest she read them and let you know what she thinks (after reading them yourself, of course). (They are well-written and are not pornographic.) They are:
The Science of Cuckoldry, by sex therapist and relationships counselor Susan Gower:
The Science of Cuckoldry
The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena, by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D.:
The Cuckold Phenomena
If you find it difficult to talk with your wife about this sort of thing, you might send the above suggestion and links to her by e-mail. That would make it easy for her to read the articles by simply clicking on the links. After giving her some time to think about it, you might bring up the subject — say, over glasses of wine (or your preferred drinks) in the evening — and spend some time talking about it.
The objective would be to establish your marriage, between the two of you, as a mutually-agreed-upon hotwife / cuckold husband relationship, in which your wife would be free to take lovers (other men, if her affair with Glen comes to an end), while you... as her self-acknowledged cuckold... would agree to remain faithful to her (and would actually do so). A part of your agreement with your sexy wife might be that she would tell you about her extra-marital sexual adventures — which, you could stress, would turn you on — even if she pretends to her lover you don't know she is fucking another man. (Some men who are fucked by married women prefer the cuckold husband not know.)
—Custer
