I'm not much of a thread starter around here by any means... But I thought I'd just mention that as of tonight, fantasy finally became reality after a long while of conversations, fantasies, role playing, more conversation, more pondering, etc. My wife who hasn't posted here for a long time, but has in the past, is out for a late night hookup with someone we met locally (thanks to this group in fact). She has even taken the camera with her to get some of the photos I've been dying to have for a long long time now. Ironically I'm eerily quite calm. Yes I have a few jitters, but I'm actually quite okay. Some of you may recall a long while back we got really close, but then had to take a bit of a pause because it all just happened too fast and the emotions were somewhat over-powering by comparison to our "fantasy play". But now, after SO much time, and SO much conversation I feel a lot differently. I've been super excited all day, and really just wanted to get to tonight. Sorry this hasn't been much to get aroused over, but more than anything it just shows you the power and importance of communicating, and being honest. I love my wife for her courage to try to help make this all work for everyone. She's been incredible in wanting to help see this eventually happen because she knows how much it makes me nuts. Our life is pretty hectic at the moment, so her willingness and openess means even more to me.
So for all of those that wonder if it can ever really come true... I say keep COMMUNICATING... and not just bedroom fantasizing. Talk it all out, talk until you're tired of talking, and then talk some more. Be open to what each of you is saying because there are often two differing sets of emotions at play, not just libido... Be willing to compromise and be supportive...and then, in time, you just may (if lucky) find that what you always thought was a crazy fantasty, actually can become a reality.
So for all of those that wonder if it can ever really come true... I say keep COMMUNICATING... and not just bedroom fantasizing. Talk it all out, talk until you're tired of talking, and then talk some more. Be open to what each of you is saying because there are often two differing sets of emotions at play, not just libido... Be willing to compromise and be supportive...and then, in time, you just may (if lucky) find that what you always thought was a crazy fantasty, actually can become a reality.