Bit lost

[Sowrong]

So firstly, Hi! This is my first post after registering though Ive been on this site before to look around.

A bit of background: Me and my wife are in our early 30's and have been together over ten years now. Our sex life has been consistent but not very adventurous and less so in the last few years (post marriage).

About 2/3 years ago I got into watching more porn, about 2/3 times a week and from that Ive somehow moved into watching a lot of cuck type porn. Im not really into the whole cleaning up and total submission aspect but the though of my wife with others and being generally a lot sluttier than she is happy to be with me is a massive turn on.

Ive recently encountered a problem and im wondering, hoping even others have had this issue. Im struggling to maintain an erection for my wife and I think this is down to wathcing too much porn and expecting some kind of extreme sex. I would point out I love my wife and find her very sexy.

Has anyone had/has this issue? Any advice?

Thanks in advance to any repsonses.

 

[MalaysianCouple]

I think that problem creeps up with most of us. 30+ is exactly when its noticeable, and factor in a stressful time at work or home.
You could also take it as a sign that the universe is telling you to share your wife

 

[becontree2001uk]

In a lot of long-term relationships keeping the sexual spark going is difficult if not impossible at times (e.g. due to children, etc.). It is not unusual for many hubbies to find it hard at some point to maintain an erection. The problem sounds psychological and not physical, so I suggest getting back to the basics with your wife. Fantasise with her about being a cuckold, try touch rather then penetration (intercourse), use blindfolds and ice cubes in your fantasy play. Take the pressure of yourself to perform as it is an hinderance! Good luck.

 

[Sowrong]

Firstly, thanks for the replies both and its comforting that there is a common theme - even though you both basically called me old!

I was somewhat concerned that maybe my cuck fantasies were being played out in terms of my not being able to perform etc. but it appears Im normal! Great news.

 

[brokenman]

You might check out yourbrainonporn.com for some articles on porn-related ed and symptoms thereof. Maybe you should scale back and focus on vanilla. Maybe you just need some kink to spice things up. Maybe, as Malaysiancouple suggests, it's a physiological sign for you to pass the torch. Good luck!

 

[Sowrong]

Thanks for the advice and info folks. Good news is I kept it up this weekend. I had to rush to climax a bit to maintain it but I got there. The wife didn't enjoy it much but I sorted her out after. A good start I think.