Coming out of the closet to your wife!

[i812]

How many have?

When I drink and she's in the mood for sex, I talk. A few months ago, I admitted to her that I was a play thing for a neighborhood stud in my youth. I told her it was in my teens. I made sure to tell her that I enjoyed every blowjob I gave him and especially the way he would take my ass. That he was huge and that it felt great. She asked if I have ever 'gay' cheated after being married and I told her no. I did admit that I'm addicted to gay porn and constantly masturbate to it. Coming out to her has changed things. She fears that I will leave for a man. I tell her no and mean it. But it is obvious to me that things have changed drastically. She is much more receptive to my 'cuckold' fantasies.

I've made it clear to her that her dressing up to go out for groceries and everything else is a huge turn on. I reminder her constantly that anytime I think that she is turning on guys is a huge plus for me. So ever since I came out to her, she's really taken hold on my being truly submissive and it seems that she now understands why it might be ok. I've also noticed that she expects less from me sexually and she is certainly dressing and primping much more so.

I think my coming out has taken things to the next level. I'm sure that in time she will start to actively search for her stud fix.

I'm wondering if many have taken this leap and have the results been overly positive as far as reaching true cuckold status

 

[Hank jones]

Congrats on taking the first step. That one is the hardest. Honesty and openist

 

[sojourner.q]

I have "come out" to my wife about my past homosexual experiences (and my continued desire for the same again). This was several years ago now and the outcome has been great for us both. I am able to be more honest about my sexuality and she likes that I am now more "sensitive" (read: feminine?).

Only time will tell if she finds another man that turns her on enough to have sex with him. She's okay with me seeking a male "friend", but so far says she doesn't need more. I keep hinting that it's okay with me if she needs to, etc.

If possible, I think honesty with ones mate is always best in the long run - but, I also know some women (and men) just can't handle anything outside the normal box.

 

[i812]

I thought I'd post and update since it has been some time since my coming out of the closet to my loving wife.

Things are going great. I think our relationship is the best it has ever been. I'm truly fortunate.

As for the nitty gritty...

She constantly teases me. Which I love and get an instant erection. She'll tease me at home and out. Her favorite line is, "I'd love to have a pocket gay to go shopping with, ohh I already have!". She no longer expects much from me sexually and has really started to openly mention guys and exchanges she has. And, how some guy at this place or that place was such a stud.

She even got in touch with an older guy that once tried to take advantage of her in her teens. She was 15 and he was 25. He was and still is a stud and I think she fantasies about having let him score. She's been telling me about that encounter for the last 20 years. So ever since she got in touch with him, he has been calling the house. The first time she was out, I got the call. What an experience it was to make small talk with him and that he should come over visit for dinner and drinks. I know he could tell that I knew about his advances two decades ago and was puzzled with my being so friendly. Now, they chat on the computer and call one another a couple of times a week. He's a couple hours away so it will be interesting to see how things develop. A few days back, she did tell me about a dream she had. That he was asking for sex but she just made him settle for a hand job since it wasn't cheating. I reforced that fact that it wasn't

The other interesting development is that I haven't been in her for the past 4 months. It all started one night after a few drinks where I told her how horny it makes me to be submissive. That the ultimate would be for me not to experience being in her. So now I strictly please her with my mouth 110% exclusively. I keep asking her, "don't you need a cock and she'll tell me YES, a real man's hard thick cock".

I'm at a point that I'm starting to wonder if she has been manipulating me all along. It's of no consequence since I love her so and couldn't be happier.

 

[duke9555]

Go back in ...........thanks

 

[indicuck]

The other interesting development is that I haven't been in her for the past 4 months. It all started one night after a few drinks where I told her how horny it makes me to be submissive. That the ultimate would be for me not to experience being in her. So now I strictly please her with my mouth 110% exclusively. I keep asking her, "don't you need a cock and she'll tell me YES, a real man's hard thick cock".

same thing with me from last few months.. 110% my tongue job only

 

[Hank jones]

Congrats sounds like you both are enjoying the trip. Be sure to keep talking honestly.
Hank

 

[Custer Laststand]

My wife constantly teases me. .... And tells me how some guy at this place or that place was such a stud.

That's very positive...

She even got in touch with an older guy that once tried to take advantage of her in her teens. She was 15 and he was 25. He was and still is a stud....

Excellent. Your wife is on her way...

Ever since my wife got in touch with him, he has been calling the house. The first time she was out, I got the call. What an experience it was to make small talk with him and that he should come over visit for dinner and drinks. ....

Your role as your wife's cuckold-to-be will be enhanced is she asks her lover-in-waiting to always call her on your home landline (not her cell phone) in the evenings when you're very likely to be at home, and for you to always take her calls (i.e., make it your job to answer the phone). And, for you to always address your wife's lover-in-waiting as "Mr. Smith" — as in, when he asks to speak with your wife: "Yes, certainly, Mr. Smith." Also, your wife should ask "Mr. Smith" to always address you by your first name.

.... Now, they chat on the computer and call one another a couple of times a week. He's a couple hours away so it will be interesting to see how things develop.

Your wife is making progress...

A few days back, she told me about a dream she had. He was asking for sex, but she made him settle for a hand job since that wasn't cheating. I reinforced that it wasn't cheating...

Good response. You're helping your wife move forward...

The other interesting development is, I haven't been in her for the past 4 months. It all started one night after a few drinks, when I told her how horny it makes me to be submissive. That the ultimate would be for me to not experience being in her. So, now I strictly please her with my mouth, 110%, exclusively.

Excellent. Sexual intercourse implies equality (or so they say), so it's appropriate for your budding boss-wife to require you to pleasure her only with your tongue...

I keep asking my wife: "Don't you need a cock?" And she replies: "YES, a real man's hard thick cock."

That's demeaning and humiliating (for you), and strongly indicates your wife wants you to become her submissive cuckold. She's moving you toward your fate...

I'm at a point that I'm starting to wonder if she has been manipulating me all along.

Anything's possible...

It's of no consequence, since I love her so and couldn't be happier.

Actually, it is of great consequence because your wife is manipulating you toward the role she wants you to play in her marriage. If she succeeds (it sounds like there's every reason to assume she will), it will increase her sexual satisfaction, therefore her happiness. And, she understands intuitively that — while not in accordance with "traditional judeochristian morality" — it is the role you want for yourself.

 

[Sunnytv]

My wife got me crossdressing years ago, saying i need to know how a woman felt. when in reality she wanted to have a girl eat her pussy without going bi. lol. we laugh about it now,but she really gets turned on when i'm eating her cum filled pussy out after a good fucking and she gets off on my sucking a man to completion.

 

[Im283]

my wife knew things I had done before she was in the picture.

She actually was fucking a room mate of mine before she and I got together. He and I had swapped blowjobs a couple of times. I told her about it sometime after she and I got together. Whats weird is she confided she fantasized about fucking me while she was screwing him. He lost the two best sexual partners he ever had, me with bj's and her pussy. LOL

She has also never discouraged me from wearing lingerie. Some of our best sex ever involved crossdressing. I have always had a fetish for it, knew it as soon as puberty hit. I told my wife then girlfriend about it. She did not mind and would sometimes lay out items for me to wear to bed. I still enjoy the feeling of her things against my skin.

Best thing I ever did was being upfront about it.