Hello, my wife and I have been married for about 10 years. I'm really interested in watching other men, especially large black men have sex with her. She has no idea I feel this way. I really want to make this happen. Can anyone share how they told their wife that they wanted to be cuckolded? How did she react? How did you make it a reality? Looking for a way to make this happen!!! Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
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pmert said:
You're going to have to bite the bullet and tell her. But first, know what type of wife you've got: her temperament and the sort of stuff you'd say that'll get her going. You can always chip the subject it next time you and her are hitting the sack... Pick up some IR porn flicks and watch her reaction whenever she's watching... Tell her how you'd love to see her like one of those porn sluts getting fucked like that...
Thanks for all the advice here. I really want to tell her. I don't know how to bring it up. I'm just worried on how she will react. Don't want to ruin what we already have, but really want to give this a try. I've always been the more kinky one in the relationship. She's not into the porn thing, I've suggested watching some several times with no luck. Hoping some more guys that have made this transition can share how they made it happen.
I'm hoping she's a closet freak, just need to bring it out of her (fingers crossed) ...
I'm hoping she's a closet freak, just need to bring it out of her (fingers crossed) ...
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Let me further illuminate and expand upon Mac's typically excellent thoughts on the matter.
What Mac is describing is basically "voyeurism". I find this in almost 100% of male patients I see. I attest it to expanded availability of pornography via The Internet.
That, quite simply, is a form of "voyeurism".
And any kink, or perversion, or fetish .. is very much like an opiate or a synthetic opiate chemical. When applied to a biological system, there needs to be a larger and more intense dose to achieve the same effect.
Therefore, the natural "voyeurism" aspect is taken to a stronger, more intense, level to achieve the same effect as the first time you saw a man dressed as a chicken having anal sex with a man dressed as a dog. Or whatever particular kink tends to float your proverbial boat.
Now, where I can expand upon Mac's thoughts are the "humiliation" aspects that is intrinsic in the ACTUAL, REAL .. not fantasy .. cuckold experience.
Let's delve in to that a bit, shall we?
No matter what it is .. no matter if you are a light swinger .. all the way to a full on freak cuckold .. there is a huge .. VAST .. form of humiliation present. That's your wife. Or your girlfriend. Your significant other. And she is being intimate with someone else. (And to answer the age old question .. "can you be cuckolded by a lesbian?" .. absolutely and read on to hear why). This humiliation, that "sick, dead" feeling in the pit of your stomach (to quote one of my patients that INTENSELY craves that particular excitement) .. is a form of drug. Your brain secretes certain chemicals that makes you *feel* that way. The reason? At the core root, jealousy. That is the kernel.
Peeling back the layers of the onion a bit further, what is jealousy?
Jealousy, my dear cuckolds and cuckold wannabees, is the vivid aversion against being cuckolded.
And ya wanna hear something even stranger?
That's EXACTLY the reason you crave it.
(See : Genesis : The Lamb Lies Down on Broadway, song : "The Carpet Crawlers" .. to wit, as Peter Gabriel puts it : "Ya gotta get in to get out". The same reason that urine comes from the vagina. Think on that one for just a few seconds as we continue on in our exercise.)
Finally, as I present these findings and behavioral actions to colleagues, they inquire about partners. Partners that you fantasize about that is having sex with your wife ..
*BAM*
.. there ya go boys and girls.
There's the sum of your equation.
Who is it that you see in those fantasies?
Answer that one for yourself.
It will tell you everything you need to know about why you want to be cuckolded.
Doc
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MacNfries said:
Let me further illuminate and expand upon Mac's typically excellent thoughts on the matter.
What Mac is describing is basically "voyeurism". I find this in almost 100% of male patients I see. I attest it to expanded availability of pornography via The Internet.
That, quite simply, is a form of "voyeurism".
And any kink, or perversion, or fetish .. is very much like an opiate or a synthetic opiate chemical. When applied to a biological system, there needs to be a larger and more intense dose to achieve the same effect.
Therefore, the natural "voyeurism" aspect is taken to a stronger, more intense, level to achieve the same effect as the first time you saw a man dressed as a chicken having anal sex with a man dressed as a dog. Or whatever particular kink tends to float your proverbial boat.
Now, where I can expand upon Mac's thoughts are the "humiliation" aspects that is intrinsic in the ACTUAL, REAL .. not fantasy .. cuckold experience.
Let's delve in to that a bit, shall we?
No matter what it is .. no matter if you are a light swinger .. all the way to a full on freak cuckold .. there is a huge .. VAST .. form of humiliation present. That's your wife. Or your girlfriend. Your significant other. And she is being intimate with someone else. (And to answer the age old question .. "can you be cuckolded by a lesbian?" .. absolutely and read on to hear why). This humiliation, that "sick, dead" feeling in the pit of your stomach (to quote one of my patients that INTENSELY craves that particular excitement) .. is a form of drug. Your brain secretes certain chemicals that makes you *feel* that way. The reason? At the core root, jealousy. That is the kernel.
Peeling back the layers of the onion a bit further, what is jealousy?
Jealousy, my dear cuckolds and cuckold wannabees, is the vivid aversion against being cuckolded.
And ya wanna hear something even stranger?
That's EXACTLY the reason you crave it.
(See : Genesis : The Lamb Lies Down on Broadway, song : "The Carpet Crawlers" .. to wit, as Peter Gabriel puts it : "Ya gotta get in to get out". The same reason that urine comes from the vagina. Think on that one for just a few seconds as we continue on in our exercise.)
Finally, as I present these findings and behavioral actions to colleagues, they inquire about partners. Partners that you fantasize about that is having sex with your wife ..
*BAM*
.. there ya go boys and girls.
There's the sum of your equation.
Who is it that you see in those fantasies?
Answer that one for yourself.
It will tell you everything you need to know about why you want to be cuckolded.
Doc
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Your GF will have someone in mind who she would like to fuck,you just need to get it out of her,she would have been lusting after someone for years.
Once she tells you who she has secretly fancied,start saying you wouldn't mind.Cuckold has now taken over my life,she gets has much cock from her bulls and I get stories,which I want
Once she tells you who she has secretly fancied,start saying you wouldn't mind.Cuckold has now taken over my life,she gets has much cock from her bulls and I get stories,which I want
Im kind of in the same boat. Years ago my wife would sleep with other guys while I watched. We were just dating at the time though. Now we are married and we take our vows (and the commandments) quite seriously. Would i like to see her pounded by big thick cocks all day? you bet. She wont though as its against our religion. Would i forgive her if she did it? yes in a heartbeat. But im not going to coerce her into doing anything.
You and your wife could have a quiet evening together, sharing a bottle of wine to get relaxed - then you could "confess that you have been noticing men looking at her a lot, and it is obvious by their eyes that they find her attractive and sexy. You can say that you thought you were imagaining it, but you now notice it happening more and more.
You can "admit" you have been feeling insecure about losing her to other guys - and you have started having re-occuring dreams for a few months - of her dating other guys and sleeping with them.
You could start doing more chores around your home, as a surprise to her (to show you are frightened of losing her love to other guys).
You are sowing thoughts in her mind that men are imagining dating and getting into her panties. Her mind will take over and she won't be able to stop her imagination runing riot, no matter how much she may claim she wouldn't let it happen.
The extra chores show you are worried at losing her - you want her more than any other woman. The dreams you embellish with details of hot sex between her and other men - she can't blame you because everyone knows that dreams come out of nowhere.
Once her mind is seeded that other men have the hots for her, it opens up the possibility of her eventually admitting her fantasies and dreams about extra-marital sex, if she can see you are not being judgemental about whether extra sex is right or wrong.
The object is not to PUSH HER INTO EXTRA-MARITAL SEX, but to seed her mind so she will be ****** to consider the possibility of it happening for real, seeing that a lot of men are eyeing her up.
You could "add to her wardrobe" so she has new clothes that are looking for an opportunity to be worn. She won't want to be seen in public looking less than her best, because lusting eyes will be sweeping all over body..........she knows that to be "true" because you have suddenly started doing all these extra chores to try and stop "takeover bids" for your trophy wife.
You can "admit" you have been feeling insecure about losing her to other guys - and you have started having re-occuring dreams for a few months - of her dating other guys and sleeping with them.
You could start doing more chores around your home, as a surprise to her (to show you are frightened of losing her love to other guys).
You are sowing thoughts in her mind that men are imagining dating and getting into her panties. Her mind will take over and she won't be able to stop her imagination runing riot, no matter how much she may claim she wouldn't let it happen.
The extra chores show you are worried at losing her - you want her more than any other woman. The dreams you embellish with details of hot sex between her and other men - she can't blame you because everyone knows that dreams come out of nowhere.
Once her mind is seeded that other men have the hots for her, it opens up the possibility of her eventually admitting her fantasies and dreams about extra-marital sex, if she can see you are not being judgemental about whether extra sex is right or wrong.
The object is not to PUSH HER INTO EXTRA-MARITAL SEX, but to seed her mind so she will be ****** to consider the possibility of it happening for real, seeing that a lot of men are eyeing her up.
You could "add to her wardrobe" so she has new clothes that are looking for an opportunity to be worn. She won't want to be seen in public looking less than her best, because lusting eyes will be sweeping all over body..........she knows that to be "true" because you have suddenly started doing all these extra chores to try and stop "takeover bids" for your trophy wife.
Thanks again to all that have posted here. Keep them coming, I'll listen to any that have input.
Came close to telling her the other night in bed during foreplay. Couldn't bring myself to say the words, the moment didn't seem right. Want to wait until a time when she is good and horny. I'll keep you all posted and let you know if I ever have the balls to do it and how she responds.
Came close to telling her the other night in bed during foreplay. Couldn't bring myself to say the words, the moment didn't seem right. Want to wait until a time when she is good and horny. I'll keep you all posted and let you know if I ever have the balls to do it and how she responds.
During arousal, heaps of extra blood is sent to the pelvis, and after sex this blood only dissipates slowly unless you upset her and she "goes cold". If the sex has been good, there is a window of opportunity to discuss fantasies for around 30-90 mins if you engage in "after-play".
Sexy words force her mind to make pictures of what you are telling her, so if you say the guys were talking about a horny wife who was seen naked in a car in a parking lot, her mind creates that scene automatically. By being descriptive, you seed her mind.
If a wife knocks about with "vicar wife" type friends, she won't allow herself to date other men because she fears that her friends will disown her - or her family will be shocked at her turning into a slut after a good upbringing.
If lots of your wife's girlfriends have lovers, then it is much easier for her to take a lover herself. If you give her the latest gossip on what people she knows are doing between the sheets, she can't resist the temptation to wonder what it might be like to try herself.
Even if she wants to sample a stranger's cock, it won't happen if she has unsuitable clothes or she does not feel chemistry for him. Soaking her mind with alcohol is not recommended just to get her into bed - she needs to build a genuine friendship up so they can become magnetically attracted to each other's body.
One night stands can be fun for a while, but women tend to want to tag romance and sex together, so the dreams can become nicer between dates.
Sexy words force her mind to make pictures of what you are telling her, so if you say the guys were talking about a horny wife who was seen naked in a car in a parking lot, her mind creates that scene automatically. By being descriptive, you seed her mind.
If a wife knocks about with "vicar wife" type friends, she won't allow herself to date other men because she fears that her friends will disown her - or her family will be shocked at her turning into a slut after a good upbringing.
If lots of your wife's girlfriends have lovers, then it is much easier for her to take a lover herself. If you give her the latest gossip on what people she knows are doing between the sheets, she can't resist the temptation to wonder what it might be like to try herself.
Even if she wants to sample a stranger's cock, it won't happen if she has unsuitable clothes or she does not feel chemistry for him. Soaking her mind with alcohol is not recommended just to get her into bed - she needs to build a genuine friendship up so they can become magnetically attracted to each other's body.
One night stands can be fun for a while, but women tend to want to tag romance and sex together, so the dreams can become nicer between dates.
When your wife starts dating other men, you need her to become addicted to the new lifestyle as quickly as possible, so your fantasies of her getting nailed by other cock can have long-term wings - then she is "too deep in" to go back to vanilla. (she can't go back).
For your wife to become addicted, she needs to meet guys who suit her - matching her with unsuitable men will cause her to become dissallusioned with the emotional efforts she has made to accommodate your fantasies. (She is doing this for you) and she needs to ENJOY it immensely if she is to carry on.
For your wife to become addicted, she needs to meet guys who suit her - matching her with unsuitable men will cause her to become dissallusioned with the emotional efforts she has made to accommodate your fantasies. (She is doing this for you) and she needs to ENJOY it immensely if she is to carry on.
It is only by reading hundreds of Literotica free stories that a husband can become really sure he is ready for a long term commitment as a cuckold. It is a life-changing experience, just as it is a huge step for your wife.
If you have doubts, keep reading the stories until your mind is genuinely ready. A wife can lose respect for her husband if he CONVINCES her to fuck other men, then changes his mind after she has started to enjoy her new "freedoms".
Don't give your wife a "gift", then snatch it back a few weeks later after she has told all her girlfriends how lucky she is to be married to you.
Her friends will be angry for her, and maybe find some secret lovers (and provide alabis) to help her get revenge on you - you could end up losing your marriage for being such a "bastard" as soon as she finds a guy who won't let her down.
If you have doubts, keep reading the stories until your mind is genuinely ready. A wife can lose respect for her husband if he CONVINCES her to fuck other men, then changes his mind after she has started to enjoy her new "freedoms".
Don't give your wife a "gift", then snatch it back a few weeks later after she has told all her girlfriends how lucky she is to be married to you.
Her friends will be angry for her, and maybe find some secret lovers (and provide alabis) to help her get revenge on you - you could end up losing your marriage for being such a "bastard" as soon as she finds a guy who won't let her down.
