Why do we see divorce as a negative? Divorce can become an opportunity to love again, taking with you the experience and skills you gained from your marriage. It can be like closing a chapter in your life and starting a new chapter with a chance to be better off in the new relationship.
If you think your divorce is a tragedy, then you are saying that your ex-wife was the most beautiful woman on planet Earth, and that it is IMPOSSIBLE to find anone as good or better than her - and also, NO OTHER woman in the world would give you the time of the day.
The truth is that all men and women were made by God, and God does not make junk - why would he make junk when he has the skills to make everything ABSOLUTELY PERFECT. He makes us in all shapes and sizes FOR A REASON.
If your marriage falls over, you can FIND SOMEONE AS GOOD or BETTER than your ex, as long as you are willing to let your eyes NOTICE SOMEONE ELSE.
If you keep feeling sorry for yourself that you have lost your marriage, the legal world will feast on your grieve.
All that matters after divorce is that you put time aside to support your children with quality time, even if you don't get to see them much. They need to FEEL your love for them 24/7, so they can talk about you to their friends with pride in their hearts.
If your ex can't love you any more, just thank her for the experience (and sex) you enjoyed with her - THEN MOVE ON and open your eyes to NEW OPPORTUNITIES.
Do you want a copy of your ex-wife, or someone better ??????
Give up your old life, so you can create a space in your heart to welcome a new woman - and when you find her, DON'T RAMBLE ON ABOUT HOW YOUR EX HURT YOU.
Focus on the NEW LIFE AHEAD, so you new woman can't say, "this relationship is too crowded (me, him and his ex).
Men who get divorced are ACTUALLY LUCKY, because they get a chance to CHASE NEW PUSSY - and because they are much older (and perhaps wiser), life can become VERY INTERESTING if they add some enthusiasm to the chasing of a new SKIRT.
A divorce can mean getting out of a mind prison, and craving to get your ex back can put you BACK IN PRISON.
A divorce can mean FREEDOM from the old life - and a new chance to FIND SOMEONE EVEN BETTER.
It does not matter if Divorce takes all your money. Life has taught you how to make money, and you can rebuild quickly again if you set your mind to the task. When you take action to MAKE A NEW LIFE WITH SOMEONE ELSE, the past problems FADE AWAY and they dDON'T COME BACK AGAIN.
Lot's wife kept looking back on the life her husband told her to FORGET, and she was turned into a pillar of salt as God rained fire and brimstone (volcanic sulphur) on Sodom and Gomorah, the cities he was destroying.
The metaphorical significance of what Jesus was trying to saying in the Bible is: if your want to have a NEW LIFE FULL OF FUN AND NEW AMAZING OPPORTUNITIES, then say to your old life, "get into behind me so my eyes never see you again, and I can never think about you again:.
What you stop thinking about, falls off the television screen in your head. Cast your eyes to where you want to be, FEED the new life you DESIRE and it will "cum to thee".
We ahave to get to a point in our divorces where we FEEL INCREDIBLY GRATEFUL for the experiences the broken marriage has given us. So tell your ex how much you enjoyed the good stuff in the marriage, and this will lessen any anger she has for you.
When we look for the good stuff in life, we see the world as a wonderful place, and we get more and more good stuff. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE A SHITTY LIFE IF YOUR EYES ARE "GOOGLE FOCUSED" ON FINDING NICE THINGS.
IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE IF YOUR EYES ARE "GOOGLE FOCUSED" ON NOTICING BAD STUFF.
If you keep telling your wife how important she is in your life, she will find it almost impossible to live without you. She might divorce you, but she will always regret she let you go, especially when she finds out another woman has grabbed you into her life.
If you only do stuff you enjoy, your life turns into the "opposite of custard", and you magnetically attract people into your life who want to "share what you are having".
Women have a fragile self-esteem, and a man can get almost any women he wants if he knows how to lift her self-esteem. Learn the skill and you can keep a cuckoldress in your life forever.
Even a Vicar's wife has hidden dreams and desires, even she could become a cuckoldress and love it, if you are prepared to do the work to lift her self-esteem to the point where she can NAME IT AND CLAIM IT.
Have you believed the story of the 83 year old woman who has won every competition she has ever entered. She believes she will win and SHE DOES. She has taught her gradchildren how to WIN EVERYTIME.