Excellent! Your wife seems to be (and to have you) on the right track.
Smallcockpaul,
smallcockpaul said:
I suffer from premature ejaculation and my wife suggested we start to use condoms to see if that would de-sensitise [my weenie] and make me last longer.
That's a VERY reasonable suggestion.
smallcockpaul said:
When I complained I wouldn't get much feeling, she snapped that it wasn't for my benefit!
Good reply! From your wife's point of view, she's right, of course. From your point of view... well... I would think you would view it as positive if you take longer to cum, thereby providing your wife with increased sexual pleasure.
You might suggest to your wife that if her problem with your premature ejaculation is not "cured" by always requiring you to wear a condom, she might require you to wear TWO condoms... or THREE, if necessary.
You might also suggest to your wife that if (say) three condoms reduces stimulation of your cock sufficiently to enable her to orgasm before you cum, she might permit you to remove your third condom. If she is then able to orgasm a second time before you cum, she might permit you to remove your second condom. Finally, if she is able to orgasm a third time before you cum, she might permit you to remove your third and last condom. Whether she then permitted you to fuck her bareback, thereby attaining orgasm yourself, would of course be up to her.
Alternatively, regardless of how many condoms your wife requires you to wear, she could probably ensure one or more satisfying orgasms for herself by *always* requiring you go down on her and suck her cunt until she orgasms, as many times as she wishes, before allowing you to penetrate her at all.
In other words, you — and any other man with a premature-ejaculation problem, IMO — should definitely become your wife's cuntsucker and should ALWAYS suck her cunt to orgasm before penetrating her yourself. Your wife should insist on it. If she doesn't, I strongly suggest pointing this out to her and, also, encouraging her to adopt the view that sex is primarily for her pleasure, not yours, and she should always require you to perform for her in accordance with that expectation.
smallcockpaul said:
Cut to yesterday at the chemist. My wife asked the male serving for extra thick condoms, then explained it was to try and stop my premature ejaculation problem!
Good for your wife! It sounds like she's reasonably assertive. Her explanation would have provided the chemist with an opportunity to suggest alternative solutions, such as (for instance) her not allowing you to fuck her at all but instead always requiring you to suck her cunt to orgasm and, possibly, also become her asshole kisser (combined, of course, with giving her analingus) if she thinks or even just suspects she would find the latter satisfying.
smallcockpaul said:
Embarrassing and fucking horny all at the same time! She only works just around the corner [from the chemist] and, from the conversation, he knows where she works. A new chapter is about to start, hopefully!!
Excellent! If your wife has found there is some chemistry between her and the chemist (sorry about the pun), you might suggest to her that she find opportunities to stop by and give him mildly-flirtatious (then increasingly-flirtatious) progress reports re. her sexual satisfaction with you, thereby graduaslly overcoming his "professional detachment" and, eventually, seducing him.
Since you aren't the only man who has premature-ejaculation problems... I guess that would be an understatement... many might find it helpful if you were to write back from time to time with updates on how your wife is doing with her management of you vis-a-vis obtaining increased sexual satisfaction for herself.
—Custer
