Hard starter. How'd you do it?

[ds69cali]

My wife works with a bunch of black guys. She's mentioned in the past how people like Denzel Washington, etc., are hot. I've fantasized for years about watching her fuck a BBC. In fact, most of the time when we're fucking, I'm fantasizing about a BBC there sharing her with me. I never cum as hard as I do when I'm imagining her getting fucked (especially in the ass) by a BBC.

Problem is, she's more vanilla than vanilla in bed. Missionary most of the time, very little oral, no toys, no porn, etc.

I want to unleash her inner slut and BBC *****. Just don't know how.

Anyone with similar issues?

 

[ds69cali]

I've thought about that very thing, Mac. I'm going to have to give it a try. The most she's gotten into so far is lotions and lubes. Like I said, she's vanilla without even vanilla beans. I've casually suggested toys in the past, but she's never responded well. Going to have to sort out some baby steps or something.

 

[Saraha]

It helps if she has more opportunities to go out with girlfriends who are more open to having affairs, because it grows her mind into accepting that not all marriages are prim and proper - and lots of wives actually enjoy dreaming of wider sexual expression.

If your wife's friends are disapproving of extra-marital relationships, so will your wife.
Your wife has been conditioned to behave in ways expected of a wife who loves only her husband.

She has to believe her marriage will be a lot more fun if she allows herself to have lovers with your approval - but she can't suddenly accept these new ways of thinking in the short term.

Her mother probably told her that what you are suggesting she does, is the quickest way to visit the Devil's Fires of Hell. If you can prove that Hell is a myth, your wife may wish to have a hundred lovers "pay attention to her needs".

 

[Susan's Slave]

I wish you luck in your endeavor but I disagree with the idea that all women have an inner slut just waiting to burst out. There are a lot of women that for medical, psychological, or emotional reasons just have no interest in sex. They may enjoy because of the intimacy or feeling they are giving their partner pleasure, or they may just endure to have children or keep their husband. It is doubtful that you will ever convince this type of woman of the joys of cuckolding her husband.

Fortunately these woman are at the extreme of the sexual curve but for a variety of reasons more frequent then say the true nymphmaniac.

I guess what I am saying as that you may not be able to teach this lady the new tricks you wish she would learn.

 

[nimrod]

Well, DS, it took me years to convince my wife. Started with very similar circumstances. The key is to start the discussion by listening. Ultimately she will own this process and she will own you as a manner of speaking, so listen to what she wants out of sex and key in on those things that flip her switch.

So she mentions Denzel? Then obviously there is some chemistry in that area. My wife fucked other men for three years before she took on a black guy.

So the idea is to build on her desires step by step, and don't expect things to happen overnight. Let her and help her feel attractive, let her know that you will always be there for her, but encourage her to flirt. We started with watching porn years ago, then gradually worked in toys and then discussions about wives who fuck other men.

My wife finally gave in four years ago and we have progressed steadily from hotwifery to cuckoldry. I spend a lot of time home alone.