I have been coming into DC for about 6 months now and, after being persuaded by a friend of mine, am putting up my story. I'm not sure it's in the right place and, as has been pointed out to me, some may not believe me but this is what happened to me. I post it in the hope that other women in my past situation can take some hope and comfort from it and know things can get better.
I am a 32 year old Asian female, now, thankfully, divorced. My father was Indian, my mother Pakistani but both Muslim. There was no real plan for an arranged wedding, I think really it was drifted into by my father after I finished University. So, at 20 I was married to the son of one of my fathers close friends. I finished Uni and was then to start a family but it didn't come easily. Finally, after getting him to the doctor, we found out he had a low sperm count and to get me pregnant would need some help. However, I did fall pregnant and that was the start of the problems. My first child was a girl and I could see the disappointment on my husbands face. But 18 months or so later, I had a son.
My husband had a bit more traditional view of things than I did. Although never in full Muslim dress I did have to dress in a very toned down way. In my entire time with him I was never once naked in front of him, always undressed under the duvet. As time went on, I found sex to be a chore, something to endure, rather than something to enjoy. I also found the violence started as well which I in the end could not tolerate.
I am a 32 year old Asian female, now, thankfully, divorced. My father was Indian, my mother Pakistani but both Muslim. There was no real plan for an arranged wedding, I think really it was drifted into by my father after I finished University. So, at 20 I was married to the son of one of my fathers close friends. I finished Uni and was then to start a family but it didn't come easily. Finally, after getting him to the doctor, we found out he had a low sperm count and to get me pregnant would need some help. However, I did fall pregnant and that was the start of the problems. My first child was a girl and I could see the disappointment on my husbands face. But 18 months or so later, I had a son.
My husband had a bit more traditional view of things than I did. Although never in full Muslim dress I did have to dress in a very toned down way. In my entire time with him I was never once naked in front of him, always undressed under the duvet. As time went on, I found sex to be a chore, something to endure, rather than something to enjoy. I also found the violence started as well which I in the end could not tolerate.