Hopefully it'll happen for the first time!..

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hey, soo a little while back i sort of found this site and my interest has just grown and grown. thank you for the sweet responses to my pix btw :)

tomorrow night i'm going to a big club night in the city that always attracts alot of black men in groups...but i'm going with my bf, who's white and 18.

im trying to figure out if it'd be a good time to maybe see if enjoys watching me dancing with bbc.

very bad idea, or a good introduction?
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My advice is to just play as it goes, if your bf is someone that you want to continue to have a relationship with be slow and cautious with your flirting or actions, then again if he is just a passing thing, do whatever feels right.

Don't jump into things too fast.

Nikki
 
I agreewith Nikki -go with the flow and if it takes your fancy check it out.
 
You better gauge how much flirting he can handle. And like Nikki said, if you want to be with this guy for a while, then take your time. And from personal experience, I wouldn't do it at a club for a first introduction. I think you need to express this with him while the two of you are in private.
 
If I can make a suggestion...

Also while your dancing with the black men, let them know that your VERY attracted to black men but you BF doesn't know. Let them know you want them to respect that you are trying to break in your BF to the idea slowly.

They should know what to do at the time to help you out.

Good luck.
 
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I have to agree with bobinbetty, that's the best tactic/approach for you.

I know out of experience ( not me a friend ) that if you do IT to fast it can turn on you. Either your bf, or you could meet the wrong guy. Be picky the first time haha.
 
Dutchblonde is absolutely right. Wait till you find a guy you are comfortable and compatible with especially the first time. ;)
 
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Almost all the replys give you sound advice but you didn't say to much about what you and your bf are it to sexually.Have you felt him out on IR sex ? Like watch a porn movie with a black guy fucking a white woman (if you haven't this is were I would start) or a white woman getting GBed by some well hung black men and see what he says.After watching the porn movies and everything is ok & he seemed to enjoy it talk about it mabe have sex while you talk ,you know tell him how "full she must have been and how hot it made you , stuff like that but make it real hot and see if it excites him but make sure you don't alienate him keep him in the mix.Then if all has gone great so far take it to the next step bring a black guy into it like what you wanted to do "be picky you want it to go great" if possable let the blk man know what your doing and get him to help but go slow .You dont want some guy thats pushy "if thats the case find someone else" and I would say if you get it to the sex stage of it make it a threesome let your bf join in "two cocks are always more fun" with you and your new lover like I said dont alienate him keep him involved.A lot of this is what I did with my hubby and it worked the only differance is I was already getting black fucked and lost my black cherry about a month earlyer but I still had to feel him out before I told him.But of coarse that all depends on how much you want to keep you bf and how serious you are "at 18 I dont know if he's mature enough to handle his gf fucking another guy let alone a black guy with "most likly" a much bigger cock and watch him stretch out your pussy and you enjoying it for that matter.But I could be wrong I dont know your bf only you can decide that".
I have helped a few of my friends go black and its always a little different and unfortunately it dosn't always go well my friend Jen ended up leaving her husband(thier marrage was in trouble before she went black)for her black lovers.Well I hope this helped and good luck its always nice to introduce a new woman to the club "black clubbed pussy LOL".Marie
 
I can tell you that when I was 18 if my GF had gone off and danced with any guy let alone a black guy I would have been pissed. At 18 most of us guys were too immature to realize that there is a difference between flirting and wanting another guy. In your case there may not be any difference and your BF is surely not going to recognize a difference. Like Marie said we don't know what level you guys are at now so maybe all will be okay. At 18 I had no idea about this lifestlye or even swinging really for that matter. I would be cautious and take it slow unless you already know where he stands on this or you don't much care if he bails on you. I was introduced to swinging in my mid/late twenties and IR in my thirties. Now I wouldn't have it any other way with my wife but don't think with my maturity level at 18 I would have been big on either area of the lifestyle.
 
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neazcpl4fun said:
I can tell you that when I was 18 if my GF had gone off and danced with any guy let alone a black guy I would have been pissed. At 18 most of us guys were too immature to realize that there is a difference between flirting and wanting another guy. In your case there may not be any difference and your BF is surely not going to recognize a difference. Like Marie said we don't know what level you guys are at now so maybe all will be okay. At 18 I had no idea about this lifestlye or even swinging really for that matter. I would be cautious and take it slow unless you already know where he stands on this or you don't much care if he bails on you. I was introduced to swinging in my mid/late twenties and IR in my thirties. Now I wouldn't have it any other way with my wife but don't think with my maturity level at 18 I would have been big on either area of the lifestyle.
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neazcpl4fun said:
I can tell you that when I was 18 if my GF had gone off and danced with any guy let alone a black guy I would have been pissed. At 18 most of us guys were too immature to realize that there is a difference between flirting and wanting another guy. In your case there may not be any difference and your BF is surely not going to recognize a difference. Like Marie said we don't know what level you guys are at now so maybe all will be okay. At 18 I had no idea about this lifestlye or even swinging really for that matter. I would be cautious and take it slow unless you already know where he stands on this or you don't much care if he bails on you. I was introduced to swinging in my mid/late twenties and IR in my thirties. Now I wouldn't have it any other way with my wife but don't think with my maturity level at 18 I would have been big on either area of the lifestyle.
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...I was the same way at 18, and in addition(I am sure Neaz would agree with me), you feel like your gf is your property, and its an insult to your so called "manhood" at the time, if another guy seem to be inturding/hitting/getting to close her, and its worse if your friends see it. Definity take it slow, us black guys are like lions lurking in the grass for white babes/zebras, we will be keeping an eye on you.....always.
 
So how did it go?

Did you ever get to grind on any black guys? If so how did you feel while doing so and what was going through your mind. What kind of body do you have?
 
Tell us what happened? Did you get enough body contacts with the black men? How is your BF, is he alright?
 
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