After a lot of research and deep thought here is my plan for getting my wife on board
Start by immediately making a list of things to do. You will get many examples later.
Now we get into the actual things that you will be changing to move her towards being a hotwife. The things that you will be changing include everything from clothes to food.
Things to change:
The words of reassurance:
Tell her more often how good she looks in a specific outfit. Use words like; sexy, hot and frisky. Tell her how you like that one blouse that is cut low because it shows her cleavage when she bends over. Tell her how that skirt really accents the shape of her ass. Tell her that you were thinking about her all day wearing the clothes she had on and that they made you really horny. The reason for telling her these things is to keep in the front of her mind that she is desirable. As you tell her repeatedly how certain clothes make her look, you will notice that she wears those particular clothes more often. Don’t misinterpret why she wears the clothes. She is not wearing them because you like them, she is wearing them because she likes the reaction and attention she gets from you. And, she will bring it to your attention that she wearing something that you had made a comment about earlier, this is your perfect chance to reinforce that it makes her look good. Now, if you are not asleep at that point you will have noticed that she is saying, “I WANT ATTENTION. TELL ME I LOOK GOOD.” Start this immediately and don’t stop. We will use that technique later on also when it comes to suggesting different clothes.
The best kept secret in using words of reassurance is what I call third party verification. Suppose you are in a restaurant, mall or store. Just some place casual where there are other men around. You can pick out some guy and then say to your wife, “I noticed that guy in the red shirt keeps checking you out.” The best thing about this technique is that someone other than her husband is checking her out. (It does not matter if it is real or not, she will perceive it as real and like it.) The validation comes from the fact that the husband is only an innocent by-stander telling her what he observed. You can laugh a little bit and say something like, “He looks away every time you look up but he keeps looking at your chest / ass / legs.”
It is really all about perception. If she believes someone is checking her out then she will like it. Just make up something about someone else looking at her or a comment that someone else made about her.
I hate to use a negative example here but if you tell someone often enough that they are stupid then they will start to believe it. This works the other way also. If you tell your wife often enough that she is hot and that guy are checking her out then she will believe it. The end result is that you can get her hooked on wanting to know that other guys are checking her out.
Clothes, clothes, clothes
Go shopping with her for clothes. Pick out something sexy / short / low cut and ask her to try it on for you. Make sure she shows it to you. It doesn’t matter in the beginning whether or not she buys it. What matter is that simply putting on something sexy starts the ball rolling towards getting her to wear sexier clothes. Be sure to tell her how much you liked something.
Unless your wife is an absolute prude it is ok to ask to wear something just for you. Ask her to wear a nice lacy bra, a sheer bra, sheer to waist pantyhose, a thong, no panties or something like that. Early on when you ask don’t pressure her to wear it out in public. Later you can ask her to wear them out. She will object but no one will know what she is wearing under her clothes except you. And, she will know what she wearing underneath and it will make her feel sexy. As you progress through better clothes for her to wear you can suggest that she wear a certain low-cut blouse or shirt skirt somewhere when you are in another town or maybe traveling. You can say, “No one knows you here and women wear clothes likes this everyday.” The point here again is to get her used to wearing better clothes. Even just asking her to wear something around the house or just in the bedroom will let her know that she is desirable.
Treat your wife with respect. But sometimes it is ok to say, “Hey I picked out this shirt I want you to wear to today (a good shirt of course), can you wear if for me?” I found it was fairly easy to convince my wife that one day a week she needed to dress sexier just for me.
Buy her a blouse or skirt that you want her to wear. Don’t pressure to wear it, but when she does wear it make sure you tell her how hot she it.
They key here is to slowly keep asking her to wear sexier clothes and to let her know how good she looks in them. The process is that you originally ask her to wear certain clothes or notice that she is wearing something nice. You pay her some sexy comments. Being a woman she will like and want the comments to continue. Pretty soon SHE will be dressing better so that she can keep getting the comments. The real goal here is to get her hooked on wanting the compliments about being sexy. It’s like a drug for most women, they will addicted to know they look good and will keep dressing right to get the comments.
As you will notice we are tying in the “words of reassurance” with the clothes. Never miss an opportunity to tell your wife that some guy was checking out her shirt / skirt or whatever. I hope you realize at this point that it is completely irrelevant if another person actually says anything or not. What is important is that your wife believes that someone did say something about her. It is so easy to walk up to your wife in a department store where you two had been shopping and say something like, “Hey right before I got over hear I overheard these two guys talking about you.”
Anything that you can do to get her into sexier clothes is the right way to be going. The main affect this has is that she getting used to wearing sexier clothes. The more often she does it the less resistance there will be.
More words of Manipulation
When you and your wife are lying in bed just casually talking before going to sleep tell her how one of the guys at work had his wife come into the office to get something. You can tell her that all the guys at work kept talking about how she was dressed and how hot she looked. (But be sure to have a reason why you didn’t see her though.) The reason for telling her this is to let her know that the husband in that case liked the way the wife dressed and those other guys do check out women that are dressed sexy. It gets her used to thinking about dressing sexy and getting attention.
This is a touchy subject but if you can get your wife to talk about one her past sexual experiences before she met you then it is really good foreplay. The advantage to this is that after you and her talk about it then she can see how much you are really turned on by it.
Tell her that you had a dream that they guy that was checking her out in the restaurant was having sex with her. Don’t elaborate. Just see how she responds. The benefit of this is that is once again she hears that she is desirable. It doesn’t matter if it was just a made up dream, just describing the dream will still be in her thoughts.
Once in a while I have told my wife that she was having a sex dream because I woke in the night and she was moaning and moving around in the bed. This is a win-win method. She may have actually had a dream sometime and may share it with you. The worst case is that it puts the thought in her head that she was having sex with someone else.
Never talk about yourself and other women. It will make your wife think you are wanting to be with them.
Bribes
It may seem silly but if you do something for someone else first they will feel obligated to do something for you in return.
Here is one way that works pretty good. Early in the week do something like wash the dishes, go out and pick up dinner for the whole family, bring her some chocolate or flowers. You can also go to be and snuggle up with her like you want sex, but don’t have sex. If you can do 2 or 3 things for her early in the week then when the weekend comes she will be obligated to you and will feel guilty if she doesn’t to do something that you asked her to do. I do this with my wife and then on Saturday I asked to wear a certain low cut blouse or short skirt when we went out to dinner. She never refuses if I have done enough for her first. Then when we go out I make sure that it is a place where there can be some guys to check her out.
Start by immediately making a list of things to do. You will get many examples later.
Now we get into the actual things that you will be changing to move her towards being a hotwife. The things that you will be changing include everything from clothes to food.
Things to change:
The words of reassurance:
Tell her more often how good she looks in a specific outfit. Use words like; sexy, hot and frisky. Tell her how you like that one blouse that is cut low because it shows her cleavage when she bends over. Tell her how that skirt really accents the shape of her ass. Tell her that you were thinking about her all day wearing the clothes she had on and that they made you really horny. The reason for telling her these things is to keep in the front of her mind that she is desirable. As you tell her repeatedly how certain clothes make her look, you will notice that she wears those particular clothes more often. Don’t misinterpret why she wears the clothes. She is not wearing them because you like them, she is wearing them because she likes the reaction and attention she gets from you. And, she will bring it to your attention that she wearing something that you had made a comment about earlier, this is your perfect chance to reinforce that it makes her look good. Now, if you are not asleep at that point you will have noticed that she is saying, “I WANT ATTENTION. TELL ME I LOOK GOOD.” Start this immediately and don’t stop. We will use that technique later on also when it comes to suggesting different clothes.
The best kept secret in using words of reassurance is what I call third party verification. Suppose you are in a restaurant, mall or store. Just some place casual where there are other men around. You can pick out some guy and then say to your wife, “I noticed that guy in the red shirt keeps checking you out.” The best thing about this technique is that someone other than her husband is checking her out. (It does not matter if it is real or not, she will perceive it as real and like it.) The validation comes from the fact that the husband is only an innocent by-stander telling her what he observed. You can laugh a little bit and say something like, “He looks away every time you look up but he keeps looking at your chest / ass / legs.”
It is really all about perception. If she believes someone is checking her out then she will like it. Just make up something about someone else looking at her or a comment that someone else made about her.
I hate to use a negative example here but if you tell someone often enough that they are stupid then they will start to believe it. This works the other way also. If you tell your wife often enough that she is hot and that guy are checking her out then she will believe it. The end result is that you can get her hooked on wanting to know that other guys are checking her out.
Clothes, clothes, clothes
Go shopping with her for clothes. Pick out something sexy / short / low cut and ask her to try it on for you. Make sure she shows it to you. It doesn’t matter in the beginning whether or not she buys it. What matter is that simply putting on something sexy starts the ball rolling towards getting her to wear sexier clothes. Be sure to tell her how much you liked something.
Unless your wife is an absolute prude it is ok to ask to wear something just for you. Ask her to wear a nice lacy bra, a sheer bra, sheer to waist pantyhose, a thong, no panties or something like that. Early on when you ask don’t pressure her to wear it out in public. Later you can ask her to wear them out. She will object but no one will know what she is wearing under her clothes except you. And, she will know what she wearing underneath and it will make her feel sexy. As you progress through better clothes for her to wear you can suggest that she wear a certain low-cut blouse or shirt skirt somewhere when you are in another town or maybe traveling. You can say, “No one knows you here and women wear clothes likes this everyday.” The point here again is to get her used to wearing better clothes. Even just asking her to wear something around the house or just in the bedroom will let her know that she is desirable.
Treat your wife with respect. But sometimes it is ok to say, “Hey I picked out this shirt I want you to wear to today (a good shirt of course), can you wear if for me?” I found it was fairly easy to convince my wife that one day a week she needed to dress sexier just for me.
Buy her a blouse or skirt that you want her to wear. Don’t pressure to wear it, but when she does wear it make sure you tell her how hot she it.
They key here is to slowly keep asking her to wear sexier clothes and to let her know how good she looks in them. The process is that you originally ask her to wear certain clothes or notice that she is wearing something nice. You pay her some sexy comments. Being a woman she will like and want the comments to continue. Pretty soon SHE will be dressing better so that she can keep getting the comments. The real goal here is to get her hooked on wanting the compliments about being sexy. It’s like a drug for most women, they will addicted to know they look good and will keep dressing right to get the comments.
As you will notice we are tying in the “words of reassurance” with the clothes. Never miss an opportunity to tell your wife that some guy was checking out her shirt / skirt or whatever. I hope you realize at this point that it is completely irrelevant if another person actually says anything or not. What is important is that your wife believes that someone did say something about her. It is so easy to walk up to your wife in a department store where you two had been shopping and say something like, “Hey right before I got over hear I overheard these two guys talking about you.”
Anything that you can do to get her into sexier clothes is the right way to be going. The main affect this has is that she getting used to wearing sexier clothes. The more often she does it the less resistance there will be.
More words of Manipulation
When you and your wife are lying in bed just casually talking before going to sleep tell her how one of the guys at work had his wife come into the office to get something. You can tell her that all the guys at work kept talking about how she was dressed and how hot she looked. (But be sure to have a reason why you didn’t see her though.) The reason for telling her this is to let her know that the husband in that case liked the way the wife dressed and those other guys do check out women that are dressed sexy. It gets her used to thinking about dressing sexy and getting attention.
This is a touchy subject but if you can get your wife to talk about one her past sexual experiences before she met you then it is really good foreplay. The advantage to this is that after you and her talk about it then she can see how much you are really turned on by it.
Tell her that you had a dream that they guy that was checking her out in the restaurant was having sex with her. Don’t elaborate. Just see how she responds. The benefit of this is that is once again she hears that she is desirable. It doesn’t matter if it was just a made up dream, just describing the dream will still be in her thoughts.
Once in a while I have told my wife that she was having a sex dream because I woke in the night and she was moaning and moving around in the bed. This is a win-win method. She may have actually had a dream sometime and may share it with you. The worst case is that it puts the thought in her head that she was having sex with someone else.
Never talk about yourself and other women. It will make your wife think you are wanting to be with them.
Bribes
It may seem silly but if you do something for someone else first they will feel obligated to do something for you in return.
Here is one way that works pretty good. Early in the week do something like wash the dishes, go out and pick up dinner for the whole family, bring her some chocolate or flowers. You can also go to be and snuggle up with her like you want sex, but don’t have sex. If you can do 2 or 3 things for her early in the week then when the weekend comes she will be obligated to you and will feel guilty if she doesn’t to do something that you asked her to do. I do this with my wife and then on Saturday I asked to wear a certain low cut blouse or short skirt when we went out to dinner. She never refuses if I have done enough for her first. Then when we go out I make sure that it is a place where there can be some guys to check her out.
