Hi Ms. SexiMexi,
Good to hear from you again.
SexiMexi said:
I don’t know what it’s called. He just got a new one. He hasn’t worn one since we took a break.
This looks positive. The model chastity device your husband bought looks like a CB 6000 — it's probably an improvement over some of the other "CB" type chastity devices. The fact he bought it for himself is a very good development.... it means he recognizes the importance of you, as his keyholder, being in charge of his sexuality and... in a broader sense... his relationship with you.
For advice on how to manage your "in chastity" cuckold husband as his keyholder, you might acquire one of the keyholder's manuals available from online distributors, such as:
"A Keyholder's Handbook: A Woman's Guide to Male Chastity," by Georgia Ivey Green.
https://www.amazon.com/KeyHolders-H...eST=_SY344_BO1,204,203,200_QL70_&dpSrc=detail
Regarding your comment that your cuckold seems to want you to humiliate him: an important aspect of that is to keep him in his chastity device most of the time (not just when your lover comes over), letting him out... at most... once per week, for good behavior. If he does not meet your expectations (for instance) doing the housework, I recommend keeping him in his device for additional days, as punishment.
An additional way to humiliate your cuckold would be to wear your key to his chastity device on a chain around your neck (like a necklace), to remind him (and you), every day, of your authority over his soul — meaning, of course, his penis.
A further way to humiliate your cuckold would be to make him a "spanked husband." For this, you will need a sturdy wooden paddle, or a heavy old-style wooden woman's hair brush. You could initiate this the first time he commits a minor offense... for instance, you ask him to take out the garbage, but he doesn't do it right away — rather, he implies he'll do it later. You could then say, "All right, Buster, bend over this chair!" You could then stride off and get your wooden paddle, then return, and... while he's still getting his wits together, trying to decide how to respond... unbuckle his pants, yank them down, then also yank down his boxers, so he's fully ******* (wearing his chastity device). Then, order him to bend over a chair (or you bend him over), so he is, in effect, offering you his nude ass. Then, use your wooden paddle to spank him hard (say) 5 times (not too many swats for his first spanking).
If your cuckold refuses to allow you to spank him, I suggest informing him that, as his keyholder, you will continue to keep him locked up in his chastity device (no day off) until he submits to his first spanking. Tell him: "When you decide you're ready, ask me to please give you a spanking." Before many days have gone by, I suggest he will submit to you giving him his first spanking.
This might seem like treating your cuckold like a child (that's the humiliation part of it), but... on the other hand... men actually consider it "manly" to be able to absorb the pain of corporal punishment from a strong and stern wife.
After he submits to his first spanking, I suggest using your wooden paddle to give your cuckold pants-down spankings on a weekly basis, with the length and severity of your spankings gradually increasing as time passes. It will probably be easier for you if you sit in a straight-back wooden chair, and bend him over your knees, with his feet on the floor on one side and both hands on the floor on your other side. On a given weekend, you could calibrate the severity of his spanking with the quality of his housework (for instance), as graded by you.
I wish you well, SexiMexi, as you pursue the twin challenges of keeping your cuckold in line while pursuing increased sexual satisfaction with your lover. If you are persistent and insist on what you want, I think you can be successful on both fronts.
—Custer
