I have never experienced your mentioned issues as I am a grower, not a shower, and when fully erect I do get up to 8 in length although in my case the girth does not match the length respectively. My prior wife preferred 'Girth' over 'Length' and preferred intercourse with Alpha type Men that also had 'Girth' even if their penis was much shorter. While she had short and long term sexual/non-sexual relationships with a series of men during our marriage, the most humiliating or some might say humbling was when my than wife had sex with a friend of mine, a man that was an Alpha Type Man although was on a shorter side when it come to penis length yet had the girth that she desired... She actually told him in front of me that he brought her to an orgasm quicker than I had during the entire time we had been together. So it is not always about a length...