is there any hope?

[rainman]

My wife is 44, slim with a nice figure. We have 2 kids. For the past 4 years I have been trying to get her to have sex with a black guy. I started slowly, introducing ir porn into our sex, faking her with black guys and telling her how I would love to see her fucked by a black guy. All of these things turned her on to a point I have never seen her before.
She always thought this was fantasy, but 3 months ago I said I would really like her to do it for real. After a couple of nights of talking it through, she agreed, and really seemed to love the idea. We discussed it and decided the best time would be went we went on hoilday, as we live in a small town. Now the holiday is a couple of weeks away she has got cold feet and says that it was only always a fantasy and that she could never go through with it. I am devastated, what do I do? is their anyway I can change her mind or are some wives never ready for black cock and I just happen to be married to one??

 

[laura-lme]

Rainman, some women never loosen up to try it for whatever reason. You can ****** her to it by taking her out dancing or whatever activity she enjoys but ultimately the decision is hers. Put her where she can be close to black guys and see where it goes is my advice.

Good luck.

 

[rainman]

thanks for the comments. It's very depressing to get so close to seeing her get some bbc and then have it all fall apart. I would never push her into doing somethiong she is not happy with but it won't stop me trying.

 

[Atlopencpl]

Pyscologists call it cognitive dissonance, in layman's terms buyers remorse or cold feet. It is the natural fear that you make the wrong decision when you make a big one. Just as the real estate agent or car dealer keeps reinforcing that it is a great choice you have to do the same without pushing. It is only natural for her to have second thoughts and you should acknowledge them as real and normal. Then maybe point out the negative side of not doing it, regret that you never took that chance and could have had a great experience. Sure it could be bad, but it could be great too. That's the chance we take when we do stuff. The other option is to do nothing and lose nothing but gain nothing too.

So at that point of fear and pulling back you can't get mad at her, you should have empathy and understanding and continue to love her no matter what her decision is, then remind her of the potential fun she will have if she takes the leap.

I went through the same thing then once my wife did, she wished she had done it earlier.

 

[rainman]

thanks for the response

lots of great advice! I can only hope that eventually she see's what she is missing and changes her mind. It's hard to believe that she can get so turned on by the idea of being fucked by a black guy but not actually want it for real..oh well!!

 

[falcondfw]

She does not actually want it for real, because she is afraid of what it might cost her.
She loves you, her husband, and doesn't want anything to screw that up. She doesn't even want there to be a RISK of screwing that up. Remember, should it come down to it, infidelity could be used against her in divorce court and it would cost her a lot.
Then, there are the kids. Again, if it comes to it, in divorce court, how fit a mother would she be if you painted her as a cheat?
I am not saying you would end up in divorce court. But it is possible.
I am not saying you would use her sleeping with black guys against her. But it is possible.
These are the things running through her mind.
Most women I know would take the security of a man they love and their family, rather than risk it on adventure.