It may be starting....

[Chet6115]

Please understand, this is not intended to be a story, rather just me writing my rambling thoughts down. Any genuine thoughts or comments are appreciated! Please, no cheesy porn comments!
After years of trying to get my wife to be more dominant in bed, It may be starting. We are both in our early 30s, married for almost 10years. She is a beautiful red head, 36D breasts, 150lbs. I am 6ft, 250lbs, dark hair, average size penis. She is that good christian girl, that likes to have fun in bed but nothing real kinky. We have been together for over 10 years and has always had a dominant attitude (shes Irish!)....... just not in the sex dept.!!! Lately, for months, my wife has been doing light CBT to me. She likes to grab, fondle, squeeze, suck my balls till I hurt. She knows I love it! I told her this weekend how I love to be submissive to her. That turned her off hearing that! The next morning, she started to fondle and squeeze my balls, which got me hard again. I then got on top of my wife and began to fuck her. Within about 10 min, I was ready to cum. She then stopped and said we should hold off and deny me cumming. I tried to continue but she kept telling me to stop and i could cum tonight. I asked if i could at least please her. she said no! She said "I would enjoy that to much." I said "this is about your pleasure." She said "I know, but the answer is still no!" Later that night, I kinda fell asleep. It was late. I felt bad about that. But she woke up to go to work and told me you that I fell asleep on her and she said "I may have to be punished for that!"
We are still learning and figuring out where and how we go from here. I really think she may be slowly opening up to the BDSM world. That's why I'm taking this very slowly!!!! I on the other hand, would love to see this eventually, some day, lead into the cuckold world. She has no idea about those thoughts and fantasies!!!!

 

[Custer Laststand]

[My wife and I] have been together for over 10 years and she has has always had a dominant attitude (she's Irish!)....... just not in the sex dept.!!! Lately, for months, my wife has been doing light CBT to me. She likes to grab, fondle, squeeze, suck my balls till I hurt. She knows I love it! I told her this weekend how I love to be submissive to her. That turned her off hearing that! .... etc .... She then stopped [fucking] and said we should hold off, and denied me cumming.

To encourage your wife's "dominant when not in bed" attitude and expand it into the realm of sexual dominance, you might suggest she assign you some of the housework (perhaps only some light housework at first), and keep you reminded of it by making a chart consisting of a column on the left consisting of your tasks each day, and a row across the top consisting of dates, say 7 for each day of the first week. She can then paste your housework chart to the refrigerator and require you to check off each task in the 2 x 2 table as you complete it each day.

To begin your wife's extension of her housework dominance to sexual dominance, you might urge her to please not expect you to remember your tasks on your own because you find it easy to forget such things. To ensure you carry out your housework, encourage her to place you in a "power grip" and verbally order you to carry out your daily tasks as listed on your chart. Inform her that placing you in a power grip will consist of unzipping your pants, pulling out your cock and balls, holding your balls firmly in one hand (with "squeeze pressure" to be determined by her) and your cock firmly in the other, while she looks you in the eye and orders you to remember to do your housework tasks, stating them verbally as they are specified on your chart for that day.

For motivation — and to further link your wife's housework dominance to sexual dominance (and humiliation) of you — encourage to give you a grade on your housework at the bottom of your task column for each day. Then, at the end of each week (say, each Saturday morning) give you an average grade for the week, then order you to take off your clothes and give you an over-her-knees (OHK or OTK) spanking, you nude and her fully dressed, with a wooden paddle, with severity proportional (perhaps I should say inversely proportional) to your average grade on your housework for the past week. To help her see the logic of this seemingly absurd and outrageous concept, you might suggest she read (for instance) these sites:

Women who spank their men:
Women who spank their man

Disciplinary Wives Club:
DWC Index Page (4)

Suggest to your her that after each week, she increase your housework tasks and make a new chart accordingly, until after "n" weeks you are doing as much of the housework as she considers reasonable and appropriate.

You might also encourage your wife to extend her housework dominance of you to the sexual realm by suggesting she always, without exception, require you to ask her permission before cumming. ("May I cum now, ma'am?" Point out that if her answer is "not now, sweetheart," she can abort your orgasm by gripping your cock at the base and squeezing hard).

In addition, you might mention to her you will be much more comfortable with sex if she always fucks you with her in "female superior" (say, her on top) and you in "male inferior" positions. (If she isn't comfortable with this she should, of course, fuck you in whatever positions she likes best.)

As your wife becomes gradually more comfortable with dominating you in the bedroom, you might propose a rule: that she will always request sex whenever she wants it, and you will ALWAYS respond in a positive way and give her the kind of sex she wants, even if it isn't the kind of sex you want and even if you "don't feel like it" then. By contrast, you will never request sex of her (but if you want sex and your wife does not seem likely to request it, you will have the option of engaging in suitably-seductive and affectionate behavior).

Good luck!

 

[Chet6115]

Thanks for the advice. You gave me a lot of info to digest and think over. I really want her to grasp her inner female superiority! Its been an exciting day or two. She like how I've been more attentive to her and my lust towards her. She is really getting in to nipple torture. I hurts but I love it. The pain I feel from my nipple the next makes me think about her and gets me excited! I really think she enjoys doing that! She also has been getting into slapping my balls while making love to me. She doesn't hit hard, but it's enough to make me wince in pain! It got me so excited that I really got into make love to her. The night before, she shocked me when I came a little early(I hadn't cum in over a week) and she had me cum in her mouth!!!! That was a surprising first!!!! Last night she rode me good and came blissfully. But she denied my release and said "maybe tomorrow I will let you cum!" I definitely love where this going. Afterwards, we have pillow talk where she asks me things. She wants to make sure she isn't hurting me and ask if I'm OK, cause this what I like. I reassure her I love this and I cuddle up to her as we drift off to sleep.

 

[ffred]

Hi Chet,

when I read your lines I have the impression that the way things are moving are very appreciated by you. It seems that you feel very well in the submissive role. Congratulation and enjoy it!

According my experience here in Europe I met many people acting in a role, some were dominant other submissive and all of them enjoyed it. BUT many people do not like to be evaluated and given in a box with the title "dominant" and the other box with "submissive" written on it. So they are clearly acting according the definition but they do not want to be categorized.

So my recommendation for you:
Enjoy the dominance of your wife even if she does not want to be called as such. She is on the right track and I am sure that you will get at least a slight influence about the further development.

fred

 

[Saraha]

Give her surprise gifts to show you appreciate her taking charge of your sex life. When she has taken you fully-in-hand, and you have become obedient to her every command, she may wish to "pull in another guy" to taunt you as you watch his superior cock ride her. Prepare your mind for her to grow in confidence and reach out for what other women are having. It is her birthright to express her inner cravings.

 

[Chet6115]

My wife told me that she's enjoying this new you. She likes how I'm being more attentive to her. I really like being submissive to her. I hope in time she will grow and love being dominant over me. I will be giving her small gifts to show her my appreciation of her taking charge! Thank you for the advice!

 

[Saraha]

My wife told me that she's enjoying this new you. She likes how I'm being more attentive to her. I really like being submissive to her. I hope in time she will grow and love being dominant over me. I will be giving her small gifts to show her my appreciation of her taking charge! Thank you for the advice!

Good boy, you are tuning in to what needs to be done.

 

[Chet6115]

I really like how she has been. she likes to deny me touching her but she has been pinching, slapping, even pulling my pubic hair till it really hurts. She keeps reassuring me that this is what I like and we can stop. I reassure her and tell her no, that I like this. I then get very affectionate to reassure her so long as I don't touch her intimate areas. Yesterday she kept teasing all day with me on how she was going st spank/whip me. I was so excited, until we were in bed and she said that I will have to wait till tomorrow! Her reason was because I didn't show her enough affection! I love the mind games she is playing. I'm still not 100% sure if she is doing this for me or if she is truly getting into it for herself. I sure hope it's the latter!

 

[Chet6115]

My wife is really starting to enjoy herself! She denied me from cumming for a week and a half. After all the teasing she decided that she would let me fuck her! Because I was so horny and aching for release, I couldn't fuck her with out cumming in seconds. She new that and told me to get off her and go to the bathroom and jerk there! I had her permission! It wasn't the same so I didn't get much enjoyment except for a cheap release. I came back to the bedroom and she told me to go to sleep and maybe she would let me fuck her tomorrow night! She denied me for 2 nights and this morning i begged to fuck her and she kept slapping me telling me no. Then she told me to turn over she wanted to give me a back rub. I turned over and and she began to give me a back rub for a minute or two. Next thing that I knew she gave me a WHACK with a wooden spoon. She told me that was for the other night! For the next few minutes she proceeded to slap my ass with a wooden spoon! It hurt but I enjoyed it as well. After she was done, she suggested we get up and go about our day. But, I begged to fuck her and she asked would I still be able to fuck her later that night? (I'm a quick cummer and need time to re-energize) I assured her I would. So she let me climb on her and I began to fuck her! She told me to get on my back back so she could ride me. She started to ride me and then started to bite my nipples and reached behind her and began to slap my balls! I looked up and could see she was enjoying that. The more I winced in pain the more harder she slapped! That went on for awhile and then she said she was done. And she was serious!! She told me that I would have to wait for tonight! Then, she got up and went to take a shower. I of course followed. She said I could join but I was not allowed to touch her sexually! I agreed and began to wash her entire body and washed her hair. It was a thrill for me to service her and she told me she enjoyed me washing her. She got out and went to go get dressed and I finished up an started to dress and go about my day. I'm looking forward to tonight!