My Story

[hahnrei ehemann]

have been lurking around here and reading various posts here, which show that I am not the only one with this interest.

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married over 11 years and dated two years prior. She is 44 and I am 46, we have two young grade school children. Both of us are full time professionals and work hard to balance the demands of work and life. Neither of us are Barbie and Ken. She is very beautiful white, fair skinned, blonde, blue eyes with a nice bust. She will complain about the baby weight she has, but I think she is a goddess. Myself I am showing middle age, balding, and overweight.

Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life together and enjoy being able to have some time to enjoy ourselves. My only wish would be more frequency, but I am grateful for what we have. I have always felt that for me to enjoy sex my wife must enjoy herself as well and I enjoy being oral with her very much and seeing her climax. She in turn is very passionate in the bedroom and when she gets going can be quite intense.

The thought of her enjoying herself with another man (and he enjoying himself with her) arouses me a great deal. It has since even before we were married. For myself I will certainly notice women I find attractive, but have no interest in having sex with anyone, but my wife. I have been doing a lot of reading online and offline about the hot wife/cuckold phenomena to help me understand this. I also have read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, which I must recommend to anyone with an interest in this topic. I find that evolutionary biology to be a plausible explanation for this as well as female vs. male physiology. Women are built for sex with multiple males at a time or in short sequence. This is harder for us men who need time to “reload”. This makes it easier for a woman to have multiple males.

In many ways, this is an extension of me wanting to give her pleasure and fulfillment. I imagine my wife enjoying variety and the freedom to sample it. In my opinion she can eat her cake and enjoy it to.

I enjoy the thought of her enjoying seeing a man she finds attractive naked, seeing how the sight of her arouses him. I enjoy the thought of her touching and exploring another man, perhaps someone who is fit and trim. I enjoy the idea of her getting pleasure from kissing and feeling his touch. Her seeing how he responds to her and her to him. I enjoy the thought of her feeling her body against his. Her feeling him push into her, the different feeling his penis in her. The new and different positions she gets to discover and enjoy. I enjoy the thought of her climaxing from him and then enjoying being in his arms afterward.

When I see my wife naked, I imagine other men enjoying her beauty. When I touch her and she touches me I imagine she and another man enjoying that. During sex I imagine her enjoying another man enjoying pushing his bare penis into her and her enjoying feeling him. I imagine him enjoying the view of her breasts moving with each thrust. He feels her great body against him, feeling himself going in deeper as she pushes her hands against the head of the bed. As I cum inside her, I imagine another man enjoying the sensation as he cums inside her bare. I have had a vasectomy and the thought of another man going bare with her and cumming inside here is a big turn on for me. I enjoy the thought of another man helping her climax and he enjoying the sight, sound and feeling as she does. I am open to her being with any guy who rings her bell, but the idea of her being with a black man, the contrast, the taboo aspect is a big turn on for me.

I imagine a variety of scenarios where this might happen. Perhaps on a girls night out she meets someone, perhaps a younger athletic black man and leaves with him at the end of the evening, enjoys some hot sex with him and comes home for hot sex with me and tells me all about her evening and her new “friend”. Perhaps a professional associate who flirts with her and she reciprocates and takes him as a lover. She does travel to another city a few hours away from us for business on a regular basis. I imagine her meeting a local guy there and inviting him to spend the night with her in her hotel room. I imagine her having a “boyfriend” who she dates and then comes home to enjoy being with me. Having a guy she is interested in over to our home for dinner, seeing her all made up and in a sexy dress. The three of us enjoying wine, food and good conversation all the while they are eying one another. After words I can see the either the two of them going into our bedroom alone, him leaving later thanking me for a wonderful evening telling me how lucky I am. The two of them enjoy each other in our marriage bed. Later he comes out dressed and thanks me for a great evening. I quietly walk in later and see his seed leaking out and quite a mess on the bed as she grins at me laying on the bed. I imagine a number of scenarios where she is enjoying the pleasure of another man while I get sloppy seconds and taking pleasure in knowing she is enjoying herself.

She is well aware of my desire for her to enjoy other men. I have brought it up during sex and after, as well as outside of the bedroom. I feel secure in her love for me and our relationship and am not jealous of her flirting with other men, which she appreciates very much. When she goes out for girls nights she likes having other men chat her up, flirt and buy her drinks. I have enjoyed her flirting with other men when out with her, seeing her enjoy the attention of other men. While she comes home and tells me all about it, her friends whose husbands/boyfriends don’t trust them and/or get jealous envy her being able to share this with me. Before having kids, she would often go out in nice tight fitting and low cut tops, full make up, jeans and boots. Often if I was working late or out with my friends, she would go out with her friends for dinner and drinks. I really liked seeing her before and after and the idea of another man approaching her, flirting and perhaps enjoying her charms. I liked the idea of her enjoying a nice time with her friends, free drinks from guys, flirting and perhaps more. I also really enjoyed the sex after these evenings out and aforementioned imaginings of her enjoying another man.

When I bring up the topic, she laughs, thinks I am crazy/silly, and says it will not happen. I do notice her checking out other men who like the men she dated before me is quite diverse (I am white) including Latin, East Indian, African American and Middle Eastern men. When she goes out, I tell her to stay out a late, as she wants, have fun and enjoy the free drinks. I talk about her enjoying taking a lover and she says who would go for me and laughs it off. She feels that infidelity is very wrong and is dead set against it but at the same time talks about friends of hers who were not meant for monogamy. When we saw Brokeback Mountain, the disturbing part for her was the marital infidelity, not the gay men being lovers as much. She says she would never be with another man. I am slowly introducing the concept of sexual freedom for her while being married to me doesn’t have to hurt what we have. Like others, here in this forum I see it as an opportunity to enhance what we have. However, I am not going to push or force anything. I will continue to enjoy what we have while letting her know she can enjoy herself if she so chooses. I am going to make sure she understands I am ok with her getting to enjoy the best of being in a loving and secure marriage while embracing nature.

She has also responded during sex in a couple ways. Once on a vacation to a resort she headed up to our room alone while I stayed with our child down at the pool so she could take a nap. We came up an hour or so later to find her in bed naked and asleep. After putting the baby down for a nap I joined her in bed and she woke up, we started making out. I was telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy it was to find her in bed naked. She said something to the effect that perhaps another guy already beat me to the punch. That really charged things up. I told her I hope that was the case that she enjoyed herself. I imagine us being at the beach or pool, she meets a guy she finds attractive and then seeing her take him up to our room alone. I go up a while later to not only find her sleeping naked in our bed, but an odor of sex and stained sheets along with it.

Recently during sex I told her how the idea of her taking a lover and enjoying herself made me hot. She then went on to say, oh you mean my "Portuguese Lover" and we both went on from there a bit about him. She was laughing while saying this thinking I was silly.

Once I told her about a scenario I often envision where she wears some sexy clothing showing plenty of cleavage, flattering but nice. I drop her of at a bar/club, park the car and proceed to go in after she has been there for a while. I spot her at the bar making new friends, dancing, flirting. She ends up spending time with this one guy, more touching, flirting, getting closer and finally kissing. She then excuses herself and goes to the ladies room where I meet her after she is done. She asks if I am having a good time and I say I do. She then grabs my hand and introduces me to her new friend. We all have a drink and talk, she is sitting close to him. At this point I suggest we go to a motel room and she and her knew friend enjoy some hot sex while I watch off to the side.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying hotel, not motel.

One time we woke up early and she is hot to trot. She told me she has a had a hot and naughty dream. She said in her dream she was making out with another guy, but ended up not going "all the way". I asked her for details and she was coy. I made it quite clear that I approved and enjoyed this. I proceeded to tell her about a scenario where a guy is over for dinner that she is attracted to. They flirt throughout the evening and I suggest they enjoy some time together in our bedroom. Later I walk in to see how things are going, the room smells of sex and she is in his arms in our marital bed. I then spot the unopened box of condoms I left out on the night stand and proceed to see his seed coming out of her. I enjoy "silky" seconds.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying she wouldn't have sex without the condom.

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out an planning to lose baby weight after the baby comes. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am.

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I have considered as I have seen others do here putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels.

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thanks for your articulate and well-thought-out post. It sounds like you are on the right track.

So [my wife] has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons. I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

And, it also sounds like your wife is beginning to respond favorably.

To assist her with becoming comfortable with the idea of transitioning to a hotwife / cuckold husband form of marriage, in which by mutual agreement, she is free to date, seduce and fuck whomever she wishes while you agree to remain faithful to her (and actually are), I suggest introducing her to:

http://hotwifeletters.com/
(she can easily find it by entering HotwifeLetters dot com in her preferred search engine). And, if your readings on this subject have not included this site, spend some time reading it yourself.

You might also consider proceeding more-or-less along the lines of the 8 part article that begins here:

Turning a wife into a hotwife:
» A Wife Into A Hotwife Hot Wife Blog - hotwife and cuckold husband fetish discussion

I have considered, as I have seen others do here, putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels.

This is pretty direct and could turn out to be a productive approach (IMO).

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

My impression is, many married women, especially those with young children, are resistant to suggestions from their husbands that they transition to a hotwife / cuckold husband form of marriage because they suspect their husbands will use their (agreed-upon) infidelity as an excuse to pursue other women, which they don't want.

If you sense you aren't making progress and can't seem to move your wife forward, you might consider purchasing and wearing a male chastity device, and appointing her to be your sole key holder. If she enjoys (e.g.) teasing you as a way of turning you on, this might appeal to her. Although seemingly an extreme step, it would be a way of convincing her she has full control of her relationship with you (she would become, in essence, the owner of your cock), and thus that you would not be pursuing other women, or even masturbating, behind her back.

Good luck! Your post suggests that sooner or later you will probably succeed.

 

[zippless]

This is the most articulate well thought post I have seen in a long time, I agree with Custer you are definitely on the right track. This is a journey that you are both taking. For the women entering the lifestyle is very scary.
All the nagging doubts that she has are perfectly natural.
1) How will me having sex with another man affect our personal relationship?
2) Is he only doing this so he can have sex with other women?
3) As a middle aged woman can I attract another man?
4) Will I be able to satisfy another man sexually?
5) What if I encounter a sexual deviant that expects Fifty Shades Of Grey?
6) What about my safety. Physically emotionally and mentally?
7) What if our friends and neighbours find out?
8) What if the kids find out?
9) What if he makes me cum harder and is a better fuck than my husband. Will my husband get jealous?
10) What if I like it? And/or he wants me to stop.
11) What if I get pregnant?
So your Idea of going slow and dipping your toes in the water is a good one. Your journey sounds so much like ours. For my wife jumping in bed with another man at a bar, or alone at home was just to scary. She needed to have me there so that she could feel safe and secure.
We decided to spice things up by having sex in places we could get caught. In a park, on a balcony, in a parking lot for truckers, at a party in the bed where everyone put their coats, we got caught almost every where. It was exciting. We laughed and laughed. She felt comfortable knowing I would always be there fore her. My wife enjoyed her new sexual freedom. She would flash her breasts at a bar for Mardi Gras. She e would flirt outrageously with other men. Men would approach her, and a few times I thought this might be it, when the wanted to seal the deal she said "NO!".
Then one day, when we were out at our favourite bar she said to me " Honey you know how I love getting caught, and having other people watch us fuck"? "Yes!" I said. " I think I would like to watch other people fuck" "Okay" I said "How do we accomplish that?". " Well there is this swing club in Montreal, I would like to go there just to see". I just about spit out my teeth. " I contacted the club owner and he said we could just watch". You contacted the owner.... this is my shy wife.. I thought, what the hell, where is my wife and what did you do with her, LOL. " Okay honey sounds like fun!" I said.
We went. It was in a hotel. We went to the spot where it was supposed to be happening and it was like a morgue. They sat us at a table with experienced people. They tried to explain what it was all about. For a girl you have to ware a skirt, for a guy loose pants. Weird! At twelve, people said let the fun begin. Dance music was playing and people were fucking on the dance floor. Not very sexy and not our cup of tea. We laughed.
A couple of weekends later she says "I found another swing club, in a small, town not so far away"." Okay"! I said. " Hope it's not like the last one". LOL
We went . It was in a house. So called on premise. They showed us around. Showed us the sex room with mattresses. Towels for clean up. Already I was feeling more comfortable. Again it was just to watch other people have sex. So the dance music started. We were grinding to the music. Another guy came up behind her and started to grind her ass. She had on a leather skirt and a push up bra with a white top. I wanted to see how far this would go so I undid her blouse. He was still grinding her ass. I undid her front closing bra and she offered him her breast to suck. Which he did.
I don't know how her cloths came off but the next thing I knew she was naked. I was playing with her boobs and pussy, he was licking her ass.
She turned around and pulled down his underwear and started to suck his cock. He was smaller than me so I was supprized.
He said lets go to the mattresses before they are all taken. She led him by the cock to the last remaining mattress.

 

[zippless]

I ate her pussy while she sucked his cock but she did not cum. They made love. He suggested we change positions.. Okay!
He got at her pussy by putting on a condom and sliding up her slit and stretching her labia lips to the right. And then to the left.
He ontinued this until she begged him to put his cock in her pussy.

 

[Custer Laststand]

This is the most articulate well thought post I have seen in a long time, I agree with Custer you are definitely on the right track. This is a journey that you are both taking. For the women entering the lifestyle is very scary. All the nagging doubts that she has are perfectly natural. ..........

Good reply, Zippless.... and an interesting account.

 

[zippless]

He said, "It looks like I am going to get to fuck your wife"! He slid his cock inside her. " My god she is so dam tight! Don't you fuck her? Am I the first man inside this virgin pussy?". "Well" I said "There has to be a first and yes you are it". " I am going to lift my chest up high so you can see my cock taking your wife's married virgin pussy over and over again"! I felt all of our wedding vows come crashing to the ground but was transfixed watching his cock sliding in and out of her pussy. My heart was filled with so much love for her at that instant. He began to pick up the pace. I tried to suck on her tits but they were flopping everywhere while he was humping her. " How does his cock feel inside you honey"? " Feels good" she said. "I am going to cum". She started to cum. She came again and again. He said holy fuck, grunted and I watched as his cock twitched inside her pussy. I counted thirteen twitches. As he pulled out, I could not see the condom. It had slipped off and was berried deep inside her pussy. He was out of breath and I looked at him and said "Fucked!" He said she was the best fuck he ever had. His wife who was a couple of mattresses down getting fucked said "Hay".
He said it was true because her pussy is so tight when she started to cum it was milking his cock. It was like her pussy was begging for his cum. I know that feeling.
She put on her coat getting ready to leave. He said for her to give him twenty minutes and he would fuck her again. This time without a condom. She went over and jacked his cock and said "Make love to me". She gave him a French kiss and they returned to the matrass. They fucked for about an hour and a half before he exploded again inside her. As we left she kissed him and said "Thank you for fucking me"! He said anytime. " I never came so hard in my entire life"!
We raced home in the car. She crossed her legs so his sperm would not leak out all over the car seat. We ran up to the bedroom and she said I want you to fuck me. I kissed her and went down on her, as usual, I got a big glob of his cum in my mouth. It was the first time I tasted another mans cum. She said she wanted me inside her. I could feel his sperm lubing my cock and dripping down my balls. I came quickly.
The next morning she asked me what would happen if he got her got pregnant. I said we would love the baby as if it was our own. She asked me if I enjoyed watching another man fuck her. I said "Hell YA"! She said good because it is going to happen again. She told me I couldn't fuck other women though. That's how it all began.

 

[Custer Laststand]

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married over 11 years and dated two years prior. She is 44 and I am 46, we have two young grade school children. Both of us are full time professionals.... Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life....

.....So [my wife] has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. ....

I have considered, as I have seen others do here, putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels.

Since New Year's is coming up (today is Sunday Dec. 29), I would guess you and your wife have been invited to a New Year's eve party, like as not organized by one of your professional colleagues. And, since you have young children, perhaps you have also made arrangements for a baby sitter.

If so, you might consider accompanying your wife to the party — then, at some point relatively early in the evening, you might approach a single man you think your wife finds attractive, inform him you "don't feel well" so you're going to have to leave early, and ask him if he would be willing to make sure your wife gets home safely. (Hopefully he will agree.)

Then, inform your wife that since you "don't feel well" you're going home, and will take care of paying the baby sitter and ensuring she gets home. But, you don't want to ruin your wife's evening, so ask her to please stay to enjoy the rest of the party and inform her that "Mr. X" has agreed to make sure she gets home safely. Introduce her, if she isn't already acquainted with him.

Also, before leaving home with your wife, you might slip several condoms into her purse. You can also include a note urging her to have a Happy New Year! (as you suggest, above), but there may be no need for that because the condoms will speak for themselves.

 

[hahnrei ehemann]

Since New Year's is coming up (today is Sunday Dec. 29), I would guess you and your wife have been invited to a New Year's eve party, like as not organized by one of your professional colleagues. And, since you have young children, perhaps you have also made arrangements for a baby sitter.

If so, you might consider accompanying your wife to the party — then, at some point relatively early in the evening, you might approach a single man you think your wife finds attractive, inform him you "don't feel well" so you're going to have to leave early, and ask him if he would be willing to make sure your wife gets home safely. (Hopefully he will agree.)

Then, inform your wife that since you "don't feel well" you're going home, and will take care of paying the baby sitter and ensuring she gets home. But, you don't want to ruin your wife's evening, so ask her to please stay to enjoy the rest of the party and inform her that "Mr. X" has agreed to make sure she gets home safely. Introduce her, if she isn't already acquainted with him.

Also, before leaving home with your wife, you might slip several condoms into her purse. You can also include a note urging her to have a Happy New Year! (as you suggest, above), but there may be no need for that because the condoms will speak for themselves.

Thank for your encouragement and feedback. No parties in our plans tonight, but I like your thinking and will look for opportunities.

 

[hahnrei ehemann]

He said, "It looks like I am going to get to fuck your wife"! He slid his cock inside her. " My god she is so dam tight! Don't you fuck her? Am I the first man inside this virgin pussy?". "Well" I said "There has to be a first and yes you are it". " I am going to lift my chest up high so you can see my cock taking your wife's married virgin pussy over and over again"! I felt all of our wedding vows come crashing to the ground but was transfixed watching his cock sliding in and out of her pussy. My heart was filled with so much love for her at that instant. He began to pick up the pace. I tried to suck on her tits but they were flopping everywhere while he was humping her. " How does his cock feel inside you honey"? " Feels good" she said. "I am going to cum". She started to cum. She came again and again. He said holy fuck, grunted and I watched as his cock twitched inside her pussy. I counted thirteen twitches. As he pulled out, I could not see the condom. It had slipped off and was berried deep inside her pussy. He was out of breath and I looked at him and said "Fucked!" He said she was the best fuck he ever had. His wife who was a couple of mattresses down getting fucked said "Hay".
He said it was true because her pussy is so tight when she started to cum it was milking his cock. It was like her pussy was begging for his cum. I know that feeling.
She put on her coat getting ready to leave. He said for her to give him twenty minutes and he would fuck her again. This time without a condom. She went over and jacked his cock and said "Make love to me". She gave him a French kiss and they returned to the matrass. They fucked for about an hour and a half before he exploded again inside her. As we left she kissed him and said "Thank you for fucking me"! He said anytime. " I never came so hard in my entire life"!
We raced home in the car. She crossed her legs so his sperm would not leak out all over the car seat. We ran up to the bedroom and she said I want you to fuck me. I kissed her and went down on her, as usual, I got a big glob of his cum in my mouth. It was the first time I tasted another mans cum. She said she wanted me inside her. I could feel his sperm lubing my cock and dripping down my balls. I came quickly.
The next morning she asked me what would happen if he got her got pregnant. I said we would love the baby as if it was our own. She asked me if I enjoyed watching another man fuck her. I said "Hell YA"! She said good because it is going to happen again. She told me I couldn't fuck other women though. That's how it all began.

Thank you for sharing as well as your insights. You give me a lot to think about and consider. I am happy you and your wife enjoy this.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thank for your encouragement and feedback.

You're welcome.

No parties in our plans tonight....

Ah well....

....but I like your thinking and will look for opportunities.

It seems likely that one of the foremost reasons your wife is reluctant to make you her self-acknowledged cuckold is, she fears you would use that as an excuse to pursue other women (as I mentioned above). Thus, before trying to convince her verbally of the advantages to her in doing this, I suggest making the requisite measurements, then ordering for yourself a male chastity device, a.k.a. a cock cage, and.... when it arrives.... shaving your pubes (this is easier than you might think) and locking it on yourself. I also suggest not asking your wife to do this on your behalf, because she might dismiss the idea as "weird" and refuse. Rather, just go ahead and do it on your own.

When your fitted cock cage arrives in the mail, you might talk about it with your wife and explain you want to ensure she is the sole owner of your cock — then, ask her if she would be willing to be your sole key holder (and hide the key, or wear it on a chain around her neck, like a necklace), and unlock you only when she wants to fuck you. Point out it will prevent you from masturbating behind her back (while fantasizing about other women), thus enabling you to have more sexual energy for satisfying her — but only when she wants it. I.e., it will relieve her of any perceived obligation to fuck you at times when only you want it.

If she declines, I suggest being your own key holder and unlocking yourself only when your wife takes the initiative and lets you know she wants sex with you. Sooner or later, she will probably see the advantages to herself in becoming your sole key holder and agree to that.

More than one of the cuckolds on this formum whose wives keep them in cock cages has said that metal cages are superior to plastic. Also, more than one cuckold has found the "HolyTrainer" — which is not metal but also not plastic, and has the advantage of a built-in lock (not a padlock) — to be secure, and comfortable for long-term wear. A number of makes and varieties can be found at these sites:

http://www.maturemetal.com/
IN THE BEGINNING - Steelwerks Extreme
http://www.chastitytube.com
Male chastity cage - HolyTrainer : Size and specifications, pictures & videos

A forum with comments from cuckolds whose wives keep them in cock cages can be found here:
https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/any-of-you-cuckolds-in-male-chastity-devices.7655/
You may find the idea of wearing a cock cage, with your wife your sole key holder, initially slightly horrifying. But, as you think about it you may find this concept increasingly erotic. And, it may provide your wife with the motivation to move forward with transforming your marriage to a hotwife / cuckold husband relationship.

As an experienced cuckoldress put it (elsewhere on the web), in a word of advice to married women: "If you keep your husband in a chastity device, cuckolding will follow like night follows day."

Happy New Year!

 

[hahnrei ehemann]

Thank you for the reply and suggestion. However, we have no interest in a cage.

You're welcome.

Ah well....

It seems likely that one of the foremost reasons your wife is reluctant to make you her self-acknowledged cuckold is, she fears you would use that as an excuse to pursue other women (as I mentioned above). Thus, before trying to convince her verbally of the advantages to her in doing this, I suggest making the requisite measurements, then ordering for yourself a male chastity device, a.k.a. a cock cage, and.... when it arrives.... shaving your pubes (this is easier than you might think) and locking it on yourself. I also suggest not asking your wife to do this on your behalf, because she might dismiss the idea as "weird" and refuse. Rather, just go ahead and do it on your own.

When your fitted cock cage arrives in the mail, you might talk about it with your wife and explain you want to ensure she is the sole owner of your cock — then, ask her if she would be willing to be your sole key holder (and hide the key, or wear it on a chain around her neck, like a necklace), and unlock you only when she wants to fuck you. Point out it will prevent you from masturbating behind her back (while fantasizing about other women), thus enabling you to have more sexual energy for satisfying her — but only when she wants it. I.e., it will relieve her of any perceived obligation to fuck you at times when only you want it.

If she declines, I suggest being your own key holder and unlocking yourself only when your wife takes the initiative and lets you know she wants sex with you. Sooner or later, she will probably see the advantages to herself in becoming your sole key holder and agree to that.

More than one of the cuckolds on this formum whose wives keep them in cock cages has said that metal cages are superior to plastic. Also, more than one cuckold has found the "HolyTrainer" — which is not metal but also not plastic, and has the advantage of a built-in lock (not a padlock) — to be secure, and comfortable for long-term wear. A number of makes and varieties can be found at these sites:

http://www.maturemetal.com/
IN THE BEGINNING - Steelwerks Extreme
http://www.chastitytube.com
Male chastity cage - HolyTrainer : Size and specifications, pictures & videos

A forum with comments from cuckolds whose wives keep them in cock cages can be found here:
https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/any-of-you-cuckolds-in-male-chastity-devices.7655/
You may find the idea of wearing a cock cage, with your wife your sole key holder, initially slightly horrifying. But, as you think about it you may find this concept increasingly erotic. And, it may provide your wife with the motivation to move forward with transforming your marriage to a hotwife / cuckold husband relationship.

As an experienced cuckoldress put it (elsewhere on the web), in a word of advice to married women: "If you keep your husband in a chastity device, cuckolding will follow like night follows day."

Happy New Year!

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thank you for the reply and suggestion. However, we have no interest in a cage.

You're welcome.

You might consider initiating a "hotwife / cuckold husband" game with your sexy wife — i.e., on a pretend basis. This could fit in with your wife traveling fairly frequently in connection with her work (as I seem to recall you saying, earlier). That is, you might tease out of her the name of a colleague she finds attractive and sees occasionally during her travels. Then, suggest a game the two of you can play whenever you're alone together, consisting of your wife pretending that man is her lover. For instance, she could tease you about how much more satisfying she finds him. And, when she's fucking you, she could passionately call out his name (although not so loudly it wakes your children).

After your game has gone on for a while, and if both of you find it fun and appealing, you could slip several condoms into her suitcase whenever she travels along with a note encouraging her to have fun. It may not happen the first time, but if you do it repeatedly.... always in good humor, never seeming to be pressuring or nagging her.... sooner or later, she may get the message that you really do want her to expand her sexual horizons, and you too will be turned on by that.

You might also introduce your sexy wife to these articles:

The cuckold phenomena:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

The Science of Cuckoldry:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

(which you may have read already, since you said you've read around in this subject area). I noticed you said you've read Baker's book, "The Science of Sex," which is an excellent science-for-the-layperson book.

Since you've brought this up with your sexy wife, and if you continue gently urging her in this direction, she won't forget about it. The concept of transforming your marriage to a "hotwife / cuckold husband" relationship will continue circulating in the back of her mind.