Hello people. Nice to see a forum dedicated to this.
About myself - I'm a married guy. Shortly after marriage, when I was away on a business trip I caught myself having fantasies about other women, and having this moral conversation with myself I couldn't find a fault with "adultery". (I have my own weird moral system of "Its wrong if it hurts someone"). As part of that reflection, I found myself asking the question "How will you react if SHE had fantasies - or activity - with other men?". Found myself incredibly turned on by that thought. After that, searched the internet about it and found out all about it... and I like this!
Long story short - after that, had conversations with my wife about this and we've played around with that idea but never really did anything. I think she is too afraid/cautious, maybe even a bit disgusted. But the fantasy lives, in me
Of late, I found a few messages on my wife's phone that suggest she does sometimes have fantasies with other men. Once I found a message that was sexually explicit. But most other messages are like "love you", "miss you", "kisses" etc. I did talk to her about it and said she can do what she wants and I'm ok with it, but she didn't seem to want to talk about it. After that, she is extremely defensive when I want to use her phone, and I find the message history is always empty.
But still if I mention the idea of swinging or anything like that, she expresses disgust/disinterest, and a reluctance to talk about it. I still sometimes find "love you" type of messages on her phone (she never directly asked me not to use her phone or look at messages and I always make it known that I am looking).
Once I found a photo of a guy's cock, and two photos of her body (I am sure they are hers) in the photos list. When I asked her, she immediately told me they are pics from a porn site and deleted them.
My question is - what do I do? I am thoroughly enjoying the fact that she is making progress but would love to be "kept in the loop" and also want this to go to the next level . What should I do as a good husband? What would you do in my place?
About myself - I'm a married guy. Shortly after marriage, when I was away on a business trip I caught myself having fantasies about other women, and having this moral conversation with myself I couldn't find a fault with "adultery". (I have my own weird moral system of "Its wrong if it hurts someone"). As part of that reflection, I found myself asking the question "How will you react if SHE had fantasies - or activity - with other men?". Found myself incredibly turned on by that thought. After that, searched the internet about it and found out all about it... and I like this!
Long story short - after that, had conversations with my wife about this and we've played around with that idea but never really did anything. I think she is too afraid/cautious, maybe even a bit disgusted. But the fantasy lives, in me
Of late, I found a few messages on my wife's phone that suggest she does sometimes have fantasies with other men. Once I found a message that was sexually explicit. But most other messages are like "love you", "miss you", "kisses" etc. I did talk to her about it and said she can do what she wants and I'm ok with it, but she didn't seem to want to talk about it. After that, she is extremely defensive when I want to use her phone, and I find the message history is always empty.
But still if I mention the idea of swinging or anything like that, she expresses disgust/disinterest, and a reluctance to talk about it. I still sometimes find "love you" type of messages on her phone (she never directly asked me not to use her phone or look at messages and I always make it known that I am looking).
Once I found a photo of a guy's cock, and two photos of her body (I am sure they are hers) in the photos list. When I asked her, she immediately told me they are pics from a porn site and deleted them.
My question is - what do I do? I am thoroughly enjoying the fact that she is making progress but would love to be "kept in the loop" and also want this to go to the next level . What should I do as a good husband? What would you do in my place?