Protecting your repuatation?

[Layer.Five]

I've noticed as of late that a lot of pictures float from one site to another like they belong to public domain, and by admission I understand how that could work. We have a lot of really fucking hott wives that deserve to be fawned over, but my thoughts are this :

If we have this stuff in heavy circulation, then a lot of it could definitely get in the wrong hands and pretty soon we have someone's personal life colliding with their professional or social lives.

Its all pretty touchy of a subject and i personally wouldn't want my fetishes and desires to be public knowledge - but at the same time I have a strong drive to participate.

I guess my question would be, what is the future of all this? Can society slowly but surely accept this as normal or will it be better if participants keep it down low? It seems like if we got rid of the taboos, we'd be rid of the extreme eroticism of the act.

I myself, may or may never indulge in this act, but that fact that its frowned upon probably makes me want to do it more. Maybe the risk is worth it?

 

[babyruthiezhubby]

It really all depends on how much stock you take in what other people think. Ruthie and I live in a small Iowa town where practically everyone in town knows about us. Both our family's know and although non of them approve we told them right from the start that what we do will never be a topic of discussion in the family and it never has been as far as we know. At least not while we are around. We can't be blackmailed because we decided a long time ago we really don't give a shit what people think. We have lost some friends and have made some really good friends by being out there as well.

Ruthie has been fired from a job because of our little thing although most that worked with her actually had no problem with it and it was for the most part the company joke that the employees and Ruthie had a lot of fun with. Of course the management didn't like it much. although I'm sure many in management liked it but wouldn't let on. I myself am actually like a hero to most of the guys I work with. Most wish they had the guts to do what we do.

It's really a decision everyone has to make on their own. Do you give a shit what people think? Most people do I guess. But it's really not that big of a deal as some in the lifestyle might think even if it does get out. We just tell them to mind their own fucking business if they don't like it.

 

[Layer.Five]

Painful and enjoyable.

Layer.Five, your questions are certainly valid and have been asked by many who view porn and nudity on the internet. I'm amazed at how much information some people are willing to provide in My Space and other sites. I, personally, have never posted nude pics of myself or my wife on the internet. I've posted clothed pics before, but absolutely nothing that could damage our personal or professional careers. My concern has always been 'what if my family or friends or neighbors or work associates found one or more of these adult pics' ? You also have those people out there that are looking to put a REAL NAME to a REAL PIC with the intent of blackmailing those individuals. Let's say you're a judge in a federal courtroom, but you and your wife are also into swinging and cuckolding ... wouldn't your opponents in the next election pay top dollar to acquire that kind of information?

I don't think we're growing to accept these things, but we, as a society, have desensitized ourselves to many things ... nudity, sex, even death. Its like watching a scary movie over and over to the point that the movie doesn't affect us anymore. So, when a public figure, like a politician or actor, goes out and has an affair, other than those close around that individual, most of us just yawn and go on. That's why the news, on TV, has become more graphic. TV stations know it takes more and more graphic news to hold the public's attention. I'm a salesman by profession, and I can tell you that in sales you have to either disturb or excite a person in order to make a sale. You need to get emotions out of the customer. That is the same as TV, radio, even porn. Look at porn again ... back 30 or so years ago you rarely ever saw creampies in professional porn; it just didn't happen. Now, you see creampies all the time. The porn industry had to find something to regain the publics interest in porn, and old porn wasn't selling.

The big problem with all this ... let's say porn ... is that eventually you will get bored with it, and you'll need even more graphic topics in order to keep your interest, or to get that same 'turn-on' feeling. Its called addiction, and porn addiction is worse than smoking or alcohol addiction, and hits every corner and level of our society. Several years ago one of my neighbors disappeared for over 6 months (his name was Jeff) and when my wife and his wife were talking in the front yard, she informed my wife that her husband was in counseling because of addiction to pornography. Shortly after his return, they sold that house and moved to Kentucky.

So, your concern is a valid one. Mac

I think around the time I started looking at this kind of stuff was about three years ago and ever since I'm utterly hooked. I've spoken to literally no one about it. Before it was the same porn, but adding the idea of a adulterous woman or a husband being ****** to watch kind of just made it kinky as hell. I was raised in a religious enviroment, and the guilt I carry is immense, but the attraction is still there.

I remember turning 18 and putting my pictures on adult friend finder, a young fit guy who did attract older women which is what I wanted. Men wanted me to fuck their wives in front of them, but I've still never done any of it. I'm still unsure if I could actually do anything like that..

Honestly, visually, that which excites me hasn't changed much from when I was a teenager. Now its just the back story behind whats happening.

I don't know if you guys can get your marriage back or if you even feel like theirs a possibility of you ever satisfying your women, but I kinda feel bad that you are where you are. I don't know if you can honestly get your wife to look at you the same way when you've basically been emasculated in front of her. Don't get me wrong, the desire to take another man's wife is still there, and its strong, but my God,it must really feel like your heart is being ripped out when she's being manhandled in front of you and being fucked out of her mind and you aren't doing it.

I honestly wonder what it would be like to come home and basically sit there in a chastity belt, after a hard day at where ever you guys work, and watch your wife with others. Is your heart not broken, and does she even feel any pain for you when this happens?

I'm not trying to upset the status quo here, I really respect you guys and putting the wife first. It's just like...Owww I can't believe this stuff goes on at times.

 

[leftbehind]

By Any Other Name

This discussion among perverts seems akin to having a discussion among heavy drug users about when society will finally give in to their true desires and shoot up. That's how I see this pondering. "Desensitized" is a thing that happens to addicts, not normal folks. Cuckoldry is nothing new, cream pies are ancient, and my 86 year old mom (purest Catholic you're ever going to meet!) gushes at bi sex and states plainly, "Only homosexuals do that!" Step back and think about it 1) A gal from yester-year readily identified the act and 2) It's absolutely true, you're not ever going to find an authority, a dictionary that says: "A guy sucking a guy is hetero." Of course, Mom knew all about this stuff in St. Margaret's - that's an elementary school, fellow cucks; don't think gramps caught on later - after all, what else did they have to discover around the old watering hole? Ever heard the term 'Flapper?' You think they were biding for the latest video games? Not likely. Upright citizens - the folks we desire to lead us in church and state - are not fools. Nor do they give in to temptation. Think about it, how many times has someone you respected - your lawyer, your doctor - commented to you about seedy joints us cucks frequent, "I can't be seen around that place." ? The better among us know all about us, they struggle with desires also, they win the battles. Look back on "modern" pornography - the PLAYBOY culture. Even Heffner stated bluntly that "Yes, women are sexual objects, that's part of what womanhood is." Do you truly believe that society has accepted that belief? Just cause some rich playboy wants his jerk offs to believe that? Do you really believe that, according to gov. stats, women now out do men in the workforce is because they used their bodies? If you do, then you - like me - will be counted among the scum of social structure. We'll know we're here, they'll know we're here, but when it comes time to move society forward, we'd better choose the leaders from that side of the structure.
There also is a lot said about children being ******* to all this - especially on the Net. There the word "desensitized " becomes a wicked and deadly enemy. Just about 3 weeks ago my friend Brian was found dead from an over dose. He was a trouble young man of 33. His problems can be traced back to an incident at Roosevelt Raceway on a day his dad took him to a race when he was 11. He longed to spend time with his dad, and this was a rare thing. During the race a biker guy stabbed to death a man right in front of Brain - blood was split on the boy. Brain was 11 years old when he first saw death. MacNfries was mature when he first saw a cream pie. How mature were you when you first saw the one who pledged her body to you betray that trust? I, and this is only my opinion, I think western society and the world at large places civilization in jeopardy when we try to accept the notion of "desensitized" as a means to allow unacceptable behavior to enter the habits of good and normal society.

 

[babyruthiezhubby]

I think around the time I started looking at this kind of stuff was about three years ago and ever since I'm utterly hooked. I've spoken to literally no one about it. Before it was the same porn, but adding the idea of a adulterous woman or a husband being ****** to watch kind of just made it kinky as hell. I was raised in a religious enviroment, and the guilt I carry is immense, but the attraction is still there.

I remember turning 18 and putting my pictures on adult friend finder, a young fit guy who did attract older women which is what I wanted. Men wanted me to fuck their wives in front of them, but I've still never done any of it. I'm still unsure if I could actually do anything like that..

Honestly, visually, that which excites me hasn't changed much from when I was a teenager. Now its just the back story behind whats happening.

I don't know if you guys can get your marriage back or if you even feel like theirs a possibility of you ever satisfying your women, but I kinda feel bad that you are where you are. I don't know if you can honestly get your wife to look at you the same way when you've basically been emasculated in front of her. Don't get me wrong, the desire to take another man's wife is still there, and its strong, but my God,it must really feel like your heart is being ripped out when she's being manhandled in front of you and being fucked out of her mind and you aren't doing it.

I honestly wonder what it would be like to come home and basically sit there in a chastity belt, after a hard day at where ever you guys work, and watch your wife with others. Is your heart not broken, and does she even feel any pain for you when this happens?

I'm not trying to upset the status quo here, I really respect you guys and putting the wife first. It's just like...Owww I can't believe this stuff goes on at times.

I think your getting a lot of what goes on here wrong. Yes there are some here that are truly cuckolded and live a painful life but there are also many of us here that are more what you would call wife sharers or swingers. I share my wife Ruthie with other men because I like to watch her and she likes to show off for me and everyone else. I don't sit around in a chastity belt like a dog at her feet. We carry on a pretty normal marriage aside from our fun on the side.
In my mind I'm not being cuckolded or even cheated on because her and I have fun together and I don't believe she thinks she is cheating on me either. She's a new member here so I'll ask her if she would give her thoughts on this as well. It's all in good hot fun. We don't lie to each other or sneak around behind each others back. She may run into some guy she wants to fuck while she's out shopping or at work or something but she always calls me and tells me " hey I met this guy I want to fuck is that ok? I'll be home later"

There are all kinds of people here. Some like you describe who seem to get off on being a sissy cuckold who's cheated on and then many others like Ruthie and I and so many others I could never name them.

Mac is right when he says that much of what you read here is fantasy. I'm with you, a true cuckolds life is not good. Sitting around depressed all the time whining about how your wife has taken your manhood and you have a small worthless cock is not for me or many others here. It's all about the fun for us.
Ruthie is at work right now but I'll see if I can get her to give us her thoughts on this when she gets home.

 

[Layer.Five]

I'm not trying to knock anyone here or disrespect you guys. I won't lie, I think its a interesting life you guys lead. I'm not saying that I can't respect you guys for letting a man take your wives, I just wonder about the whole thing, obviously you can't really go back. I'm trying to see it from another point of view and I think basically you guys really appreciate your wives.

It honestly think it has quite a lot of beauty. I just don't fully understand it yet.