Resources Question

[k.sucks.you]

My wife has a boyfriend. We are working together to find more of a pure lover for her as well. (It's irrelevant here, but I also like men.)

She is in her 40s, intelligent (3 languages), good career, beautiful(!), and is great in every way. We are friends and talk a lot, and have been married for 10 years.

Nevertheless, I have come to believe that she carries some guilt or shame about her sexual desires and her actions.


Of course what she does is all up to her (or maybe a bit to me and her lovers). I think her feelings are not valid, but you can't just TELL someone to not feel something.

I wonder if someone can point me to some material that might help her think through these thoughts. Something that affirms a woman's right to enjoy her body. Open's her eyes a bit about what's possible. Maybe even help her understand cuckolding, since even after several years, she doesn't "get" my enjoyment of it.

I've read "The Ethical Slut".
I've enjoyed novels about cuckolding like "The Act of Love" (Howard Jacobsen).

What else do you recommend? It doesn't have to be an actual book (and shouldn't be a collection of erotic stories or personal experiences).

K

 

[Custer Laststand]

My wife has a boyfriend. .... She is in her 40s, intelligent (3 languages), good career, beautiful(!), and is great in every way.

Thanks for the description of your wife. She sounds like an impressive woman.

Nevertheless, I have come to believe that she carries some guilt or shame about her sexual desires and her actions.

That isn't surprising, cultural expectations being what they are.

.... But, you can't just TELL someone to not feel something.

Right.

I wonder if someone can point me to some material that might help her think through these thoughts. Something that affirms a woman's right to enjoy her body. Open's her eyes a bit about what's possible. Maybe even help her understand cuckolding...

You might suggest these two articles to your wife:

Evolutionary theories supporting hotwives and cuckold husbands:
http://www.moderndirections.com/evolution2.htm

Overdue sexual emancipation of women:
http://www.moderndirections.com/a22.htm

Also, your wife might find the following three articles of interest. (I've suggested them to others recently; I'll suggest them to you too.)

Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

Musings of an incidental hotwife (and other links):
http://incidentalhotwife.blogspot.c...t-other-women-how-to.html?zx=38a6bf4a9736d925

The "musings" article is on a site with quite a few other articles on this subject, all written by women, as are the above articles.

A fairly recent book on "cuckold husband / hot wife" marriages, which may be unique (I gather, from a recent interview with the author on the "scandalous women.com" e-zine site), is:

Ley, David J., 2009, Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them (Roman and Littlefield, 291 pp. [hardcover]).

According to the author's self-description: "Ley is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He is executive director of New Mexico Solutions and director of clinical development at River Valley Consulting."

 

[Custer Laststand]

My wife has a boyfriend. .... She is in her 40s, intelligent (3 languages), good career, beautiful(!), and is great in every way.

Thanks for the description of your wife. She sounds like an impressive woman.

Nevertheless, I have come to believe that she carries some guilt or shame about her sexual desires and her actions.

That isn't surprising, cultural expectations being what they are.

.... But, you can't just TELL someone to not feel something.

You have that right...

I wonder if someone can point me to some material that might help her think through these thoughts. Something that affirms a woman's right to enjoy her body. Open's her eyes a bit about what's possible. Maybe even help her understand cuckolding...

You might suggest these two articles to your wife:

Evolutionary theories supporting hotwives and cuckold husbands:
http://www.moderndirections.com/evolution2.htm

Overdue sexual emancipation of women:
http://www.moderndirections.com/a22.htm

Also, your wife might find the following three articles of interest. (I've suggested them to others recently; I'll suggest them to you too.)

Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

Musings of an incidental hotwife (and other links):
http://incidentalhotwife.blogspot.c...t-other-women-how-to.html?zx=38a6bf4a9736d925

The "musings" article is on a site with quite a few other articles on this subject, all written by women, as are the above articles.

A fairly recent book on "cuckold husband / hot wife" marriages, which may be unique (I gather, from a recent interview with the author on the "scandalous women.com" e-zine site), is:

Ley, David J., 2009, Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them (Roman and Littlefield, 291 pp. [hardcover]).

According to the author's self-description: "Ley is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He is executive director of New Mexico Solutions and director of clinical development at River Valley Consulting."

 

[Custer Laststand]

A book on this subject was published fairly recently. It is:

Ley, David J., 2009, Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them (Roman and Littlefield Publishers, 291 pp. [hardcover]).

The author's self-description is: "Ley is a clinical pshcyologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He is executive director of New Mexico Solutions and director of clinical development at River Valley Consulting."

Disclaimer: I have no relationship with Ley and/or his publisher, and gain nothing, financial or otherwise, from suggesting the above book (nor any other book, article, or Internet publication) to others.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Re.:

What else do you recommend? —K

Your wife might find these two articles of interest:

Evolutionary theories supporting hotwives and cuckold husbands:
http://www.moderndirections.com/evolution2.htm

Overdue sexual emancipation of women:
http://www.moderndirections.com/a22.htm

Both are fairly short, so she could easily read them without her, or you, ordering a book a waiting for it to arrive. Neither includes anything that can be considered "pornographic."

[The same disclaimer noted in my previous post applies.]

 

[Custer Laststand]

Second attempt — here are two articles your wife might find helpful:

Evolutionary theories supporting hotwives and cuckold husbands:
http://www.moderndirections.com/evolution2.htm

Overdue sexual emancipation of women:
http://www.moderndirections.com/a22.htm