Seems like a lot of people are having an issue logging into chat since we updated. Here is what you need to do: Logout of the chat and forums, clear your cache and cookies. Log back in to the forum, then login to the chat with the same user/pass you use for the forums.
congrats on having an open marriage - me and my wife Zena have one. A good tip is to get black US sailors on leave, they have to have regular health checks and are so, so grateful to have an aussie girl open her legs for them.
cheers, Greg