Since some of your have asked, I will explain our situation and how we got started sharing her. so first off, this is something we NEVER intended on getting into when we first met/dating/married. Never even crossed my mind, but here we are now, and we both LOVE it. to date, since we started doing this 4 years ago, i have shared her with a total of 3 men, but all of which on a long term, consistent basis.
so we started out just like any other couple, then about 4 years ago we were watching this show about swinging and became hooked on it. to our surprise it led us to even talking about in the bedroom and how much the idea turned us on. eventually this became more frequent and the conversation moved from "how hot would that be" to "what if we really tried this just once". anyway,
LONG story short we eventually paired up with a couple we had been previously friends with, gauged their interest, and did a same room full swap with them. the sex was really hot, and a lot of fun. We did this a bunch of times with them and loved it. However there was a big surprise to us that surfaced from the ordeal:
going into the whole thing, the turn on was my wife, myself, and another woman - which was fun, don't get me wrong. however we had NO IDEA how much we enjoyed the parts when it was me and the guy all over my wife . anyway, eventually we fantasizing about couples swaps less and less and instead discussed more about my wife and another guy and me. So just knowing how we felt, when we go out bars or clubs, she would get really dressed up and dance and flirt heavily with other buddies of mine as well as random guys. Eventually after doing that for a while we decided to make this a reality. So to make a very long story short, i explained the situation to a close buddy of mine that we trusted, that she found attractive, and that i figured would be not offended by the approach. to my relief, he was more than open to the idea. Next time I will go into more detail about our first time she played with us.