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Trying to get her into it..

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Hi, I'm new here, but I do I have a little experience with the lifestyle. Right now I'm married and trying to get my wife into it so I was wondering if anyone could provide a little advice or direction.

The girls that have cuckolded me before initiated it themselves, so it's a little different this time. We've been married for about 6 months. She says she's only been with black guys since she was in high school, and most of her friends go black only, which should make it easier. And whenever she watches porn (which isn't too often though) it's usually a couple hung black guys doing a white girl.

She knows I'm bi and I've kind of used that as a stepping stone. She uses a strap-on on me once in a while and I wear panties and whatever else. She doesn't like to do it in a humiliating/dominating kind of way though, because she tells me she wants to know she's married to a "protector". I don't want to flat out tell her I'm not the protector she thought I was, but I guess that's kind of my angle currently. When she asks me if I'd like to have sex with other guys I tell her said, and she can have freedom to have sex with other guys too, and have her first gangbang since I know she fantasizes about that. She tells me she's too self-conscious to be with a bunch of other guys, so I'm trying to boost her self-esteem.

I've seen guys hit on her and seen her flirt with other guys but she never lets it get beyond that.

It almost happened one night recently, where she was going to go out on a date with her ex from a long time ago because he was depressed and lonely. She admitted they had phone sex once while I was at work and even told me she can't promise she won't sleep with him (which I told her was fine) but she ended up going over there only to find him ********** and that was that.

So do I keep showing my sissy side until she breaks down and needs a real man? Find more places where she can flirt with other guys without me being right there, until the right one manages?
 
You really have to ease your way into the lifestyle. If one person is a lot further ahead than the other it might blow up on you!
 
Well said

MacNfries said:
sissync, I really discourage couples from playing on their own (separate from their spouses) ... it really increases the chance of damaging the relationship you currently have. If you've only been married 6 months, that's really early to be experimenting with outside partners. You guys are still learning about each other, actually.

That said, I think MFM 3-somes might be more to your liking. Possibly find a black male that wishes to control a white couple ... with the right black bull the 2 of you could both get what you want. But, I'd rethink the "swinging separately" thing ... that is, unless you really aren't concerned about your marriage. Mac
:)

As always Mac...well said!
 
BigRoddy said:
You really have to ease your way into the lifestyle. If one person is a lot further ahead than the other it might blow up on you!

So true...so true.

My husband is trying to push this on me and I am totally resenting it. It's about to blow up in his face for sure...especially if I find he's getting involved with another person (male or female).
 

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