What did this do to your relationship?

[zugnom]

Please allow me make a short introduction. I am a student of people. I like to study the “fringes” that are really mainstream in all but name. This site is one of those “fringes” that is more common than most realize. So it caught my all too easily distracted attention. This is mostly a question for the ladies. Feel free to answer guys. But honestly, most of us guys understand our own feelings as well as congress understands the needs of the average American. So I am mostly looking to the ladies to share deeper reflections about their feelings and experiences. :slow:

I see a lot of discussion about titillation. I want to know about the emotional aspects of this lifestyle on your long term relationships. This topic has been touched on in a number of posts. But, I have not seen it consolidated in to one thread. I am curious how this lifestyle has impacted your relationships.

• Has this helped, hurt, or had no affect on your relationship?
• Are you closer to your significant other? Or, has this placed a wedge/space in your relationship?
• Do you view them in a better or worst light now?
• Do you have more or less respect for them now?
• How do you feel about your relationship now?
• Has this experience helped you grow? Or, has it caused you pain?

Thank you for your insight.

 

[susan]

Looks like Im the first to answer, but Ive covered alot of my feelings about swinging and IR in many of my previous post. Ill just make it short by stating both lifestyles have brought me and hubby much closer together. We grew up together as kids and he knew what he was getting into when we married. We were best friends as well as lovers before we married (still are) but I betrayed his trust on several occasions. We decided to experiment with Swinging and things have worked well for us since. We limit our "escapades" to monthly to avoid becoming jaded and to also have time to 'build up' for our next Swing or my IR session. It is notable how close we feel about each other every time. We've been fortunate in that we've never had a 'bad' experience with a couple or one I dated on my own.

 

[zugnom]

Susan,

Thank you for sharing your experiences.