jluck88 said:
Thanks. I understand I may need to prepare for her never wanting it.
You're welcome. And, OK.
Incidentally (or rather, not incidentally), if that's your wife in the photo with your initial post, she looks — from what can be seen of her — like a very attractive, young, and... potentially... strongly-sexual woman. If the "88" in your screen name is your birth year, that suggests you and your wife are mid- to late- 20's. If so, you have a long time ahead of you to patiently work on this "problem."
jluck88 said:
But, I also don't want it to be because I didn't clearly ask for it.
That's a reasonable way to view it. I suspect, however, that telling your wife directly you'd be really turned on if she were to make you her cuckold would not be the best way to go (probably), for reasons related to the differences in the ways women and men think about things... especially things like that.
Instead, I suggest approaching the whole subject indirectly, first setting up an appropriate atmosphere... say, both of you enjoying glasses of wine in the evening, listening to some soft music... then mentioning you've come across some interesting concepts re. marriage and relationships, and you'd be interesting what her thoughts are. Then, suggest she read:
Evolutionary theories supporting hotwives and cuckold husbands:
http colon doubleslash www dot moderndirections dot com slash evolution2 dot htm
and, afterwards (having set aside your laptop and returned to your glasses of wine), spend some time talking about it.
Then, give her some time to think about it, ranging from a few minutes to a few days, depending on how she responds. Then, in a similar setting... more glasses of wine and soft music in the evening... introduce your wife to*:
Overdue sexual emancipation of women:
http colon doubleslash www dot moderndirections dot com slash a22 dot htm
And, similarly, spend some time talking about it after she's read it. Then, also, give her some time to think about it, ranging from a few minutes to a few days, depending on how she seems to be responding.
Then, introduce your wife to:
The hotwife phenomenon:
http colon doubleslash www dot moderndirections dot com slash 46 dot htm
and suggest she read it. Then, spend some time talking about it afterwards. At this point, she may say something to the effect that "all that is interesting, but because of the way I've been brought up, I could never do it."
That's OK. If she says something along those lines, just accept it as the way she feels. Don't argue with her. Let it ride for a while.
The main point is, you will have introduced the concept to your wife without actually saying you would like to transition to a "cuckold husband / hotwife" form of marriage. If you do so in this way, I suggest you can be confident your wife won't forget about the concept of sexual freedom... the freedom to date, seduce and fuck other men... within the security of her marriage to you, in which you agree to remain sexually faithful and her source of emotional support.
jluck88 said:
And, if I do ask and she says no, what will be her perception of me going forward (pervert)?
If you approach it along the above lines, you won't have to worry about whether your wife considers you a "pervert," because you will not have asked her for anything that may not be in accordance with her "values." Rather, you will merely have introduced her to an interesting marriage concept that some couples find rewarding (evidently). You'll have introduced it as something to talk about, but not necessarily anything to "take seriously."
[* These articles are well-written and are not pornographic.]