Looking at my past, I would say that when I was horny and wanted sex (which was often), I wanted pussy and pussy alone. When I craved to be submissive or humiliated (which also was often), I wanted cock. Sexually speaking, sucking cock, usually, did very little for me in terms of getting me horny. More times than not, I did not get an erection or even semi-hard when sucking cock. Yet, as soon as I would drop to my knees to suck him or unzip his pants or whatever, I did feel the stirring in my loins. It taught me that I enjoyed the act of submission more than the act of giving head. I enjoyed them both but like pussy more