I've written here before that my wife has had over 300 sex partners. This is her estimate not mine. She said that through her 3 1/2 years in college she had 2-3 'dates' per week. She said she NEVER said no, it was easier not to. By going summers she finished 6 months early. her math is simple, more than 150 weeks, 2-3 dates/week. After she actually did the math and gave it a bit of thought she said the 300 was probably a very conservative number. I told her that after she got a reputation that is why she had so many callers. She said SO!
She got married within 6 months of graduation. Lousy marriage, an abuser. he wanted her to fuck others and watch she refused, didn't trust him. She told me she did cheat on him, refused to go into detail beyond her admission of more than once.
I was married and we hooked up during her divorce, she was a hot 35 year old blonde. Young son, nice body, quite attractive AND very very very sexual. Nothing was off limits. We got together often, her proximity 1.5 miles from my home was convenient, several times a day. Always thought our sex life was fantastic.
I separated and we moved in together. Sex was constant, we discussed a 3rd but the 'candidates' weren't right, should've pressed for 'any dick'll do' selection process.
We married 5 years ago, sex tapered off to zero.
Tried everything, including therapy, to get her interested again. Nothing worked. Last summer when I went on a 2 week business trip I gave her a box of condoms and told her to have a good time. 2 conditions; 1 no one I know, 2 if I ask she has to give the details. She was hurt but responded with sarcasm that she could buy her own condoms.
When I returned, I didn't ask anything but told her I gave it a lot of thought and that I was giving her a free pass, a permanent free pass with the same 2 conditions. And as a matter of fact not only is it a pass, I actually wanted her to. That reciprocity is not a issue. No recriminations, no guilt.
I didn't check her e-mails, browser history, phone history, nothing, my word is my bond.
Several month ago I had her car washed and cleaned. I decided to empty out a box of accumulated stuff in the trunk to make room. Buried 2 plastic bags deep in the bottom corner of the box was an opened jar of lube. The water soluable kind, no smell, no taste.
What to do, silence or talk. I decided on the latter, hoping it would turn into something we could enjoy together.
Her 1st response, denial. Ouch, I thought this could be the opening. I think I caught her off guard and rather than being open she did a normal denial, and once out of the bag couldn't retreat on the denial and own up.
In my mind I pictured her giving up the details, we both getting turned on, having a good romp and thus begin my inclusion in activity with her and others.
She continues to deny, says the lube was probably there to be thrown out as we probably tried it and didn't like it. Said I was 'throwing this up in her face'.
So my questions are:
1 Does my belief that she's fucked some else seem correct?
2 How do I get her to give up the details?
3 How do I get her to make it a regular thing?
4 How do I get her to include me in this regular thing?
5 How do I get her to stop thinking of this subject as 'throwing it up in her face'?
She got married within 6 months of graduation. Lousy marriage, an abuser. he wanted her to fuck others and watch she refused, didn't trust him. She told me she did cheat on him, refused to go into detail beyond her admission of more than once.
I was married and we hooked up during her divorce, she was a hot 35 year old blonde. Young son, nice body, quite attractive AND very very very sexual. Nothing was off limits. We got together often, her proximity 1.5 miles from my home was convenient, several times a day. Always thought our sex life was fantastic.
I separated and we moved in together. Sex was constant, we discussed a 3rd but the 'candidates' weren't right, should've pressed for 'any dick'll do' selection process.
We married 5 years ago, sex tapered off to zero.
Tried everything, including therapy, to get her interested again. Nothing worked. Last summer when I went on a 2 week business trip I gave her a box of condoms and told her to have a good time. 2 conditions; 1 no one I know, 2 if I ask she has to give the details. She was hurt but responded with sarcasm that she could buy her own condoms.
When I returned, I didn't ask anything but told her I gave it a lot of thought and that I was giving her a free pass, a permanent free pass with the same 2 conditions. And as a matter of fact not only is it a pass, I actually wanted her to. That reciprocity is not a issue. No recriminations, no guilt.
I didn't check her e-mails, browser history, phone history, nothing, my word is my bond.
Several month ago I had her car washed and cleaned. I decided to empty out a box of accumulated stuff in the trunk to make room. Buried 2 plastic bags deep in the bottom corner of the box was an opened jar of lube. The water soluable kind, no smell, no taste.
What to do, silence or talk. I decided on the latter, hoping it would turn into something we could enjoy together.
Her 1st response, denial. Ouch, I thought this could be the opening. I think I caught her off guard and rather than being open she did a normal denial, and once out of the bag couldn't retreat on the denial and own up.
In my mind I pictured her giving up the details, we both getting turned on, having a good romp and thus begin my inclusion in activity with her and others.
She continues to deny, says the lube was probably there to be thrown out as we probably tried it and didn't like it. Said I was 'throwing this up in her face'.
So my questions are:
1 Does my belief that she's fucked some else seem correct?
2 How do I get her to give up the details?
3 How do I get her to make it a regular thing?
4 How do I get her to include me in this regular thing?
5 How do I get her to stop thinking of this subject as 'throwing it up in her face'?
