Will it ever happen???

[Thinfella]

I just read the thread of 'you know you're almost a cuckold when....'
and this made me think of all the things in my life. My wife knows I'd be happiest as a cuckold.
She has told me reluctantly that I am one of her smallest lovers.
She has occasionally joked and she knows we both know I'm on the small side.
At one time her words were, yes, I guess you are on the slim side.
I've fucked her using a hollow strap on twice, and on both occasions seen orgasms and screaming from her that I've never witnessed in my life! I think she's embarrassed by what this plastic cock did for her when I fucked her and I wish shed realise that I loved it and would rather she ask me to use it. She's not able to do this, it just ain't her.
She's told at least one friend that I wish her to fuck other guys and they looked at black guy adverts on AFF and her friend told her then that she should take advantage. This was a few years ago and oursex life is almost nil now.
When we first met she and I talked online for ages first and she said she loved big cocks, she loved sucking cocks, she also loved when a guy comes on her face. She fantasises about a group of guys. She had regular fuck buddies, and was quite a sexual creature overall.
Sadly, now she's married and has kids she is the opposite! When we occasionally have sex, I give oral and do a great job of that :-D but I always feel the fucking is frustrating for her. Once I've eaten her and stretched her with my fingers I slip in way too easy and we both struggle to reach orgasm.
She never makes attempt to play with or suck my cock. And as she knows it excites me, she talks of fucking big black men while I do my best inside her.
We still occasionally watch such porn and she did go through a phase before we met of dating a few black guys.

I think we both know she would love a good fuck buddy. But she now tells me it's just not something on her mind at this time in her life.

What are my chances of becoming a happy cuckold? Do you think I should try anything new or back off for a while?

I crave this life and i wish for her mildly humiliating me and some of her friends knowing one day that I sit back and let her fuck men with big cocks and clean her pussy afterwards. This would be heaven for me, and she really knows as I keep bringing it up. I can't help it. I comment that I understand why she's not into sex so much and that if I had something more to offer, then maybe she would love it again. She doesn't respond at all.

Can anyone offer us hope? She deserves to be the sexual creature she once was, and I'd love for this to happen with other men.

Thanks

 

[babyruthiezhubby]

As long as she knows it's ok with you for her to have some fun on the side if she wants that's all you can do. Don't bug her about it. let it happen on it's own.

 

[Thinfella]

Yeah I hear ya. I think I do need to concentrate on us two getting more intimate together as a couple. And lean away from fucking her and get into fingers and Tongue pleasure and down the line maybe toys. We have some but she's not been interested in them. I just wish in our lives we came into contact with more folk where guys could pay her some attention. Maybe she will look online if she starts feeling the urge though.

 

[babyruthiezhubby]

some women jump right in when given the ok and some never will. Think of ways to have naughty fun as a couple and at some point it will probably happen on it's own. My wife and I started be me taking fun sexy pictures of her. It made her feel sexy and wanted because I always told her how hot she was while I was snapping pics. Their are any nimber of ways to make her feel more sexy and more willing to give thought to talking another guys cock.

 

[Thinfella]

Thanks. She's the worst in the world for having her photo taken so I can't imagine that one would go down well. I will have to get my thinking cap on. It's so difficult when our lives are so busy and priorities are for work and the kids.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Perhaps you've attained your goal, unbeknownst to you...

Thinfella,

My wife has told me reluctantly that I am one of her smallest lovers.

Interesting. It's hard to imagine a more direct statement from your wife that she has lovers.

She has occasionally joked [about it] and she knows we both know I'm on the small side. At one time her words were, yes, I guess you are on the slim side.

Your wife feeling no hesitation to tell you that straight out is quite positive.

I've fucked her using a hollow strap-on twice, and on both occasions seen orgasms and screaming from her that I've never witnessed in my life!

Your willingness to improvise and use an unconventional alternative to increase your wife's sexual pleasure is also quite positive.

I think she's embarrassed by what this plastic cock did for her when I fucked her [with my strap-on] and I wish she'd realize I loved it and would rather she ask me to use it. She's not able to do this, it just ain't her.

I suggest just assuming your wife finds your strap-on more pleasurable, based on your past experience, and put it on routinely whenever you want to have sex with her. If you want your wife to initiate sex but she never does, I suggest wearing your strap-on to bed every night, having lube handy on her dressing table, and making suitably-suggestive comments ("I have it up for you, darling...")... but don't force the "issue" if she doesn't seem interested and just wants to go to sleep.

She's told at least one friend that I wish her to fuck other guys, and they looked at black guy adverts on AFF. Her friend told her she should take advantage.

Excellent! Your wife having a woman friend who encouraged her to take lovers is probably the strongest possible motivator, given that you also encouraged her.

This was a few years ago and our sex life is almost nil now.

A logical reason for this would be that your wife followed up on her initial check-out (with her friend) of black men advertising their availability of AFF, found a lover there or perhaps several lovers, and no longer has sex with you because she's fully satiated.

When we first met she and I talked online for ages first and she said she loved big cocks, she loved sucking cocks, she also loved when a guy comes on her face. She fantasises about a group of guys. She had regular fuck buddies, and was quite a sexual creature overall.

It does sound like your wife is, as you say, a strongly-sexual woman. Since she had multiple regular fuck buddies when you "met" her online, and fantasizes about having sex with multiple men, and didn't hesitate to tell you she likes big cocks, and since you encouraged her to take lovers and her friend did too, my guess would be that's what she's doing. Since your wife is comfortable with finding men online, more than likely (IMO) that's where she's finding her lovers.

Sadly, now she's married and has kids she is the opposite!

Or so it appears...

When we occasionally have sex, I give oral and do a great job of that :-D but I always feel the fucking is frustrating for her. Once I've eaten her and stretched her with my fingers I slip in way too easy and we both struggle to reach orgasm.

As suggested above, use your hollow strap-on whenever you have sex with your wife. Don't ask her if she prefers that... just assume she does and use it.

She never makes attempt to play with or suck my cock. And as she knows it excites me, she talks of fucking big black men while I do my best inside her.

If your wife talks of fucking imaginary black men with big cocks while you're trying (with only marginal success) to satisfy her, that suggests she may very well, in fact, be fucking black men with big cocks. There are many women who never tell their husbands about their lovers because they assume that will destroy their marriages, even if their husbands say it's OK and they want to hear about their sexual adventures. They simply don't believe it.

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I think we both know she would love a good fuck buddy. But she now tells me it's just not something on her mind at this time in her life.

Or so she says...

What are my chances of becoming a happy cuckold? Do you think I should try anything new or back off for a while?

There's a good chance you are, in fact, your wife's cuckold. If so, your best route to "happiness" will be to verify that.

Can anyone offer us hope? My wife deserves to be the sexual woman she once was, and I'd love for this to happen with other men.

If your wife used to be a highly sexual woman, she probably still is. It's just that it isn't you she's fucking. And she isn't about to tell you that because, after all, you're her husband. She doesn't expect to find sexual satisfaction with you, but she also doesn't want you to leave her and her children. Your financial and emotional support is critical.

These are my thoughts, but I could, of course, be wrong. Only your wife knows what's really going on with the sexual side of her persona.

—Custer

 

[Saraha]

She is more likely to want to fuck other men if you actually fuck her more often. She instinctly feels she is losing her sexiness because you DON'T BOTHER to make love to her often enough. She wonders why you don't lust for her the way you used to.

Maybe you could admit to her that your your sex drive has fallen off, and you feel you are short-changing her because you know your penis is rather small and not giving her pussy what it needs.

You could point out that the sex toys prove she can have better sex with a BIGGER COCK.

You could suggest that if she had married a guy with a much bigger cock, then her sex life would have been TONS BETTER than what you have given her.

That if she takes a lover, then you can stop feeling you have let her down badly.

Suggest that it is not fair for you to be feeling so bad about this, when the problem could easily be fixed if she discreetly looks around for a guy with a much bigger cock.
And surely, her girlfriend could help her find one.

Define the problem - cock size is too small and libido doing a nose dive.

Solution - find a bigger cock to cause lots of orgasms.

Result - hubby has "pressure to perform lifted off his shoulders".

Marriage - wife sees hubby as a hero, because he provides a solution for his inadequacy, and no divorce is necessary. Wife enjoys the extra attention of several men, and her self-esteem and sexiness improve.

And hubby gets to watch and learn from a professional, and creampies can be a bonus.