I am here to seek the wisdom and knowledge of those much more experienced than I. My hubby and I were again discussing this whole concept again last night. He is so into the idea but I have some legitimate concerns. So I thought I would post them on here to see what kind of answers you might have for me.
1) Diseases: How do you know if someone really is disease free? Do you trust them, do you just use a condom and hope for the best? I really don't like condoms and would prefer not to use them but how do you build that level of trust so quickly?
2) Hubby's View of me Changes: I worry that after we do this he won't look at me the same way. What if he thought he would enjoy it and it turns out he didn't and it changes/damages our relationship irreparably? He keeps on insisting it wouldn't.
3) View of Myself Changes: Currently I have only been with one person, my hubby. Once a certain line is crossed this will no longer be the case. I'm not sure how I would feel about myself afterward
This is something I really am considering since its something he wants so badly. Also I am now starting to get curious about what it would be like to be with someone else, since there's only been one and we've been together 11 years.
So any guidance, advice, or personal experience you all could offer up would be greatly appreciated
1) Diseases: How do you know if someone really is disease free? Do you trust them, do you just use a condom and hope for the best? I really don't like condoms and would prefer not to use them but how do you build that level of trust so quickly?
2) Hubby's View of me Changes: I worry that after we do this he won't look at me the same way. What if he thought he would enjoy it and it turns out he didn't and it changes/damages our relationship irreparably? He keeps on insisting it wouldn't.
3) View of Myself Changes: Currently I have only been with one person, my hubby. Once a certain line is crossed this will no longer be the case. I'm not sure how I would feel about myself afterward
This is something I really am considering since its something he wants so badly. Also I am now starting to get curious about what it would be like to be with someone else, since there's only been one and we've been together 11 years.
So any guidance, advice, or personal experience you all could offer up would be greatly appreciated