I'm not sure what to think. I'm 35, my gf is 32 and we've been together for 2 years. We have a healthy sex life, or at least it seems to be. She and I both have a very high sex drive. She has a very outgoing personality, and is used tobeing dominant and in charge of situations from her professional life. But our relationship has been rocky from time to time with "on" and "off" periods.
During these "off" periods, it hasn't taken her very long at all to start sleeping with another guy. For example, we had an "off" period starting at the beginning of December of last year and lasted until early Jan. During that period of about 3 weeks before she left to visit her family for the holidays, she got together with a guy called Jeremy that she said she met off the net. They got together for sex 3 times. During that time, she and I were still talking about the issues in our relationship. I only found out about Jeremy in January when I asked her if she had gone on any dates with any other guys in the past month.
"Do you really want to know?" she said.
I said yes.
"Yep."
When she said that, the jealousy in me started to rise. I was on the phone, and couldn't concentrate on anything else except our conversation.
I had to ask, "So, did you have sex with anyone?"
"Do you really want to know?"
"Yes" I said. The anticipation and jealousy in me was rising and my heart was racing. What was probably only a second seemed like forever as I waited for her answer.
"Yep."
That sent the jealousy meter soaring, my heart raced and I was also surprised to feel my cock rising in my pants.
"Was it good?" I asked.
She would only quietly say, "Come on...." She wouldn't tell me any specifics. I asked her if he was a big guy. And she said yeah, he's pretty buff. Apparently he's a mechanic. But we did talk out our differences and put the relationship officially back "on."
We weren't officially in a relationship when she slept with Jeremy. But because she started up with him so quickly, it leads me to wonder if she was frustrated with our sex life and found an opportunity to get some genuine satisfaction. She denied that, though she did say she wanted me to take more control in bed and offer her more foreplay. She says that her experiences with Jeremy were part of how she copes with relationships ending and the loneliness. She said she's been that quick before at the end of other relationships.
But I still have to wonder if she was just trying to preserve my feelings. In any case, our relationship was back "on." A few days after we got back together, she told me that she was in touch with Jeremy and told him that she had decided to date someone else, and that he accepted that.
"Just like that? He's ok with being done?" I asked.
"Yep. He just said ok."
I has to trust her on her word. Seemed a bit too quick and easy to me. And I did check her phone a couple of times. There were no strange texts but his name was still in her contact list. But i had no evidence that she was stepping out with him.
And even though it made me jealous to think that Jeremy had bedded my girlfriend just a few days after she and I broke up, and 2 more times after that in the span of a couple of weeks, it also made me seriously horny. She and I were still talking during that time. So there would have had to be times that I was talking to her and she would have recently have had him inside her, and probably had plans to have him again soon. That though alone brought me to orgasm during masturbation.
In the time since, our relationship has progressed. But I do know she has a thing for firefighters. In fact, she has a firefighter calendar up in her kitchen of guys from our city's service. And I know she has a couple of firefighters in her online contacts that she met during her online dating days. I'm not skinny, but I'm slim and I don't look anything like these built guys in the calendar.
So one night before summer, she and a friend of hers went to some kind of firefighter fashion show charity fundraiser. I think she was a little tipsy in our text conversation we had as she was out for drinks with her friend afterwards.
I said (by text), "So did you enjoy the show?"
Her, "Mmmmhmm I like."
Me, "Would you like to have sex with a firefighter?"
Her, "Yep, it's on the To Do list."
This sent up the familiar twang of jealousy and horniness.
Me, "Oh? That's news."
Her, "No different than what cheerleaders are to guys."
Although the jealousy turned me on, we didn't really talk any more about it. I chalked her comments up to the alcohol. But i did want to see if I could test the waters and see if she would be open to actually going through with that. But I didn't know how to go about feeling things out, especially given the fresh tension from the Jeremy saga.
However we did start to talk more about her desires to have sex with other women. She doesn't consider herself completely bi, but she does have some strong urges to experiment with women. And she also gets very turned on by gay porn. She said that she would like to feel things out with 2 of her friends, a girl and a gay guy she knows. She said she and her female friend have talked about sex, and that she'd let me watch them have sex if I would let her watch her gay guy friend give me a blowjob. I wasn't sure about this, but I asked,
"Would you really let me watch you have sex with another girl?"
She said "Yes. Now if you wanted to watch me have sex with another guy, well that's just weird."
And so my confusion thickens.
I don't know if I could cum with another guy sucking on me, but I would like to see her with her friend. But way more than that, I have to wonder if she is interested in actually bedding a firefighter. Butit seemed like she was. But then she seemed to contradict herself.
So my questions are, do you think she may have some genuine interest in doing a firefighter? Do you think she got with Jeremy because she craved an Alpha map rather than just coping with stress as she said?
And how should I proceed tactfully now with feeling things out?
During these "off" periods, it hasn't taken her very long at all to start sleeping with another guy. For example, we had an "off" period starting at the beginning of December of last year and lasted until early Jan. During that period of about 3 weeks before she left to visit her family for the holidays, she got together with a guy called Jeremy that she said she met off the net. They got together for sex 3 times. During that time, she and I were still talking about the issues in our relationship. I only found out about Jeremy in January when I asked her if she had gone on any dates with any other guys in the past month.
"Do you really want to know?" she said.
I said yes.
"Yep."
When she said that, the jealousy in me started to rise. I was on the phone, and couldn't concentrate on anything else except our conversation.
I had to ask, "So, did you have sex with anyone?"
"Do you really want to know?"
"Yes" I said. The anticipation and jealousy in me was rising and my heart was racing. What was probably only a second seemed like forever as I waited for her answer.
"Yep."
That sent the jealousy meter soaring, my heart raced and I was also surprised to feel my cock rising in my pants.
"Was it good?" I asked.
She would only quietly say, "Come on...." She wouldn't tell me any specifics. I asked her if he was a big guy. And she said yeah, he's pretty buff. Apparently he's a mechanic. But we did talk out our differences and put the relationship officially back "on."
We weren't officially in a relationship when she slept with Jeremy. But because she started up with him so quickly, it leads me to wonder if she was frustrated with our sex life and found an opportunity to get some genuine satisfaction. She denied that, though she did say she wanted me to take more control in bed and offer her more foreplay. She says that her experiences with Jeremy were part of how she copes with relationships ending and the loneliness. She said she's been that quick before at the end of other relationships.
But I still have to wonder if she was just trying to preserve my feelings. In any case, our relationship was back "on." A few days after we got back together, she told me that she was in touch with Jeremy and told him that she had decided to date someone else, and that he accepted that.
"Just like that? He's ok with being done?" I asked.
"Yep. He just said ok."
I has to trust her on her word. Seemed a bit too quick and easy to me. And I did check her phone a couple of times. There were no strange texts but his name was still in her contact list. But i had no evidence that she was stepping out with him.
And even though it made me jealous to think that Jeremy had bedded my girlfriend just a few days after she and I broke up, and 2 more times after that in the span of a couple of weeks, it also made me seriously horny. She and I were still talking during that time. So there would have had to be times that I was talking to her and she would have recently have had him inside her, and probably had plans to have him again soon. That though alone brought me to orgasm during masturbation.
In the time since, our relationship has progressed. But I do know she has a thing for firefighters. In fact, she has a firefighter calendar up in her kitchen of guys from our city's service. And I know she has a couple of firefighters in her online contacts that she met during her online dating days. I'm not skinny, but I'm slim and I don't look anything like these built guys in the calendar.
So one night before summer, she and a friend of hers went to some kind of firefighter fashion show charity fundraiser. I think she was a little tipsy in our text conversation we had as she was out for drinks with her friend afterwards.
I said (by text), "So did you enjoy the show?"
Her, "Mmmmhmm I like."
Me, "Would you like to have sex with a firefighter?"
Her, "Yep, it's on the To Do list."
This sent up the familiar twang of jealousy and horniness.
Me, "Oh? That's news."
Her, "No different than what cheerleaders are to guys."
Although the jealousy turned me on, we didn't really talk any more about it. I chalked her comments up to the alcohol. But i did want to see if I could test the waters and see if she would be open to actually going through with that. But I didn't know how to go about feeling things out, especially given the fresh tension from the Jeremy saga.
However we did start to talk more about her desires to have sex with other women. She doesn't consider herself completely bi, but she does have some strong urges to experiment with women. And she also gets very turned on by gay porn. She said that she would like to feel things out with 2 of her friends, a girl and a gay guy she knows. She said she and her female friend have talked about sex, and that she'd let me watch them have sex if I would let her watch her gay guy friend give me a blowjob. I wasn't sure about this, but I asked,
"Would you really let me watch you have sex with another girl?"
She said "Yes. Now if you wanted to watch me have sex with another guy, well that's just weird."
And so my confusion thickens.
I don't know if I could cum with another guy sucking on me, but I would like to see her with her friend. But way more than that, I have to wonder if she is interested in actually bedding a firefighter. Butit seemed like she was. But then she seemed to contradict herself.
So my questions are, do you think she may have some genuine interest in doing a firefighter? Do you think she got with Jeremy because she craved an Alpha map rather than just coping with stress as she said?
And how should I proceed tactfully now with feeling things out?
