Young, new to this forum. Addicted and have a couple of questions!!

[MascYoung WannabeCuck]

Hey guys... newer here. Been in the chatroom for a while, but never on the forum. Quite a great website, if I say so myself!

Anyways, let me tell you a little bit. I've been into cuckolding/interracial for about four years now, since I was about 19 years old. It hasn't really slowed down. I haven't had a girlfriend in a while, and would jackoff to this stuff a few times daily. I think it's safe to say that I was/am addicted. Anyways, now I have a girlfriend and it's been very frustrating. We get intimate a decent amount (been dating just under two months now), but I have trouble staying hard for her. I can get hard, no problem, but then it's a matter of staying hard for her and often times I go limp. I honestly think that it's because of the amount of cuckolding/interracial that I've been into..so I can't get hard for her because it's not white on black. Needless to say, it's been very frustrating for us both and I think she thinks it's because I dont think she's that hot, which is ridiculous.

I know I need to tell her, but I have trouble mustering up the courage. I like her a lot and don't want to weird her our or risk losing her. A couple of questions:

- What should I do about that?
- Will I be like this forever? I know it's addicting, but I'm asking from other peoples' honest experiences. I'm young yet...do you think that I'll be having this fantasy forever? Or is it a phase?

Thanks a lot.

 

[Cuckykny]

Wannebcuck, I have had this deisre for a couple of years. During that time, I too could not tell my wife and decided that I was going to give the 'fantasy' a break. However, I would say for us cuck's that the desire for this lifestyle is strong and the saying is true, 'once a cuck, always a cuck'. So, you can try to take a break and deny your sexual identity, but I am sure if you are to be a cuck you will be back.

The good news is there are a lot of support from forum members and online communities. Tell your Gf can be a very difficult if not relationship ending endeavor. Do you two role play? If so...or not...try to introdce the idea through role play. Get a feel of how she responds or more bluntly just ask her about her previous sexual experience. I would add that at dating for only 2 months this may too much for her if she isn't already into the lifestyle.

Good luck. You can read my post for ideas...but remember I am in a loving/committed relationship for >15 years.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Now I have a girlfriend...

Congratulations!

...[but,] it's been very frustrating. We get intimate a decent amount (been dating just under two months now), but I have trouble staying hard for her. ... etc... I honestly think it's because of the cuckolding/interracial fantasizing I've been into... so, I can't get hard for her because it's not white on black. Needless to say, it's been very frustrating for us both and I think she thinks it's because I dont think she's all that hot, which is ridiculous.

I know I need to tell her [about my cuckold fantasies], but I have trouble mustering up the courage. I like her a lot, and don't want to weird her out or risk losing her. What should I do about this?

You might bring up with your new woman the possibility of increasing the sexual intensity in your (/her) bedroom by engaging in some role playing. If she seems interested in this, I suggest introducing her to the "Love Small Penis" site, here:

http colon doubleslash lovesmallpenis dot wordpress dot com

I suggest this regardless of whether you actually do or do not have a "smaller than average" size penis.

Also, you might consider introducing your new woman indirectly to your strong desire — perhaps fetish is not too strong a word — to become her cuckold by purchasing for her, as a gift, a copy of the hard-copy book:

Hathaway, Alex, 2013, The Education of a Cuckold: A story of love, lust, and fate (Fannypress, Seattle, Washington, USA, 174 pp. [softcover].

It's available online; it may also be available as an e-book.

The author is a woman. It's actually quite good. It traces the experiences of a young man (who has a small penis) from his high school days through college then until he is in his early thirties. That is, unlike most fictional books on this subject, it traces his life in a longitudinal sense.

There would be no need to tell her you want to become her cuckold. Rather, you could give it to her saying you think it may assist her with understanding young men (or words to that effect) — a concept that would be likely to interest her.

On pp. 155 - 157, Ms. Alex's book includes 15 points, given to the protagonist by a fictional dominant woman who, for a time, becomes his sexual mentor, on how to relate to women successfully as a man with a small penis. These points, all of them, are actually good advice for a man with a penis of any size.

Good luck!

 

[Jaxunman]

First off, what I am going to suggest is going to be wildly unpopular with other members of this board. I think you are correct when you say you are addicted. Just as an addiction to say, drugs or alcohol, would eventually have a negative effect in school, career and life in general, so it is you are finding your porn addiction is having a negative effect on your sexual interactions with your gf. Would you attempt to get your gf on drugs or alcohol just so you could feel better about an addiction to them? Of course not! So why would you want to change your gf so you can continue to feed your porn addiction?



Try turning off the porn for a few days. Set a time with yourself and stick to it. Maybe a few days, a week, a month, whatever you think you can do and try doing other activities when you would normally be watching porn. Try going to the gym and working out. Maybe join a sports league of some kind. Anything it takes to occupy your mind and your time. Give this a try for a couple of weeks. It may take that long to begin undoing the conditioning that too much porn has caused in you. See if sex doesn't begin to improve with your gf. If so, you know what caused the issue.

Will you have this addiction forever? As long as you continue to feed the addiction, the simple answer is yes. The more complex answer is that you will continue to become more and more addicted, and need more extreme porn to reach the sexual high. Porn addiction is a recognized illness in the mental health community and resources abound for help in controlling it.

 

[MascYoung WannabeCuck]

Thank you all for the replies, I've been checking out the forum a lot and you guys have offered some sound advice.

 

[DeeDeenCO]

My husband is 51 and he has had this "addiction" his whole life. I don't mind because I get to have sex with a lot of other men. My husband is 3.75" long when he is totally erect, which is rare anymore. We have a Black live-in who pleases me sexually. My husband pleases me in all the other areas of life.

You need to find out what your GF is interested in, what her sexual past is, what has pleased her the most, and see if any of what she likes could lead to you both being happy, sexually. My husband has a lot of trouble getting and staying hard, but that is not the case with our live-in.

I love sex, and I need a man or men who can get hard, stay hard and cum a lot. I NEED sex on a daily basis, and my husband is incapable of doing that for me. That is why we both agree, "That is what other men are for."

My husband and I have a wonderful marriage, and what makes it so wonderful is that I can have sex with other men and still get love from my husband.

The most important ingredient for a satisfying sex life is the ability to satisfy your partner. And if that means involving another man or other men, then so be it.

As far as this being a phase, I think not. If it were, my husband wouldn't get so turned on every time he gets to watch me with other men.

Communication and honesty are essential in any relationship.

I hope I have been of some help.

 

[nardpleeker]

I agree with Jaxunman. Cut out the porn and masturbation for awhile and focus your sexual energy on your girlfriend.

People, especially men, are subject to sexual obsessions, and I think the only thing that works (sometimes) is to taper off, and maybe find a different sexual obsession that works better for you and your girlfriend.

See if you can get her to talk about her fantasies. Maybe some of them are your fantasies, too.