My Journey into Wife-Sharing

Beyond Monogamy – Our First Book, Told from an Asian Husband’s Perspective

Beyond Monogamy is my first book—written from my perspective as an Asian husband navigating desire, trust, and a lifestyle few talk about openly in our part of the world.
It’s raw, provocative, and deeply personal. Download a free preview: Beyond Monogamy

Just a recent pic for ya'll to admire.

My wife and I were having a casual chat about this (see attachment) the other night. It's interesting - and frustrating - how society often celebrates men for being sexually active, labeling them as "studs," while criticizing women for the same behavior, calling them "sluts." Like… it’s literally the same behavior, but the standard is applied differently.

So, Why Am I Telling This Now?

I suppose the reasons are twofold: the rise of online AI tools, and the fact that I finally have the time - being between jobs - to reflect and write.

Let me begin with the tools. We’re living in a remarkable age where technology can be both a muse and a mentor. English has never been my first language, and writing stories or essays in it used to feel daunting. I’d often get stuck, constantly second-guessing my grammar or phrasing. The fear of being misunderstood - or worse, judged - was enough to stop me from even trying. And when the topics are as personal and intimate as the ones I want to write about, asking someone to proofread felt impossible.

But now, with AI-assisted writing tools, the barrier is much lower. I can pour my thoughts onto the page without stopping to worry whether the sentence structure is perfect. Even if what I write initially comes out messy or riddled with errors, I know I have something to help refine it - quietly, without judgment. These tools don’t tell my story for me; they simply help me tell it better. And no matter what critics may say, AI can never replicate lived experience. It can't feel what I’ve felt, or remember what I’ve lived through. That part - the soul of the story - can only come from me. For that, I’m grateful.

The second reason is a shift in my life circumstances. I’m now a full-time househusband. After losing my job during the COVID-19 pandemic, I struggled to find stable work. While that chapter was full of uncertainty, it also led to a new role - one I never imagined for myself - taking care of our two young children while my wife returned to the corporate world.

It’s a humbling and rewarding experience. My days are now filled with school runs, playtime, meals, and quiet moments during nap hours - precious pockets of time I can dedicate to writing. My wife has been incredibly supportive of this new chapter in my life. She believes in my journey and encourages me to write, to finally give voice to the stories I’ve carried for so long.

Men often dream of lovers who are playful, mysterious - full of mischief and charm. That kind of excitement feels thrilling. But when it comes to real life, to building something lasting, life often gives us a wife - someone steady, wise, and dependable. She may not always match that fantasy, but she’s what we need to grow, to feel grounded, and to build a life with.

But what if he gets both? A lover’s fire and a wife’s strength? That would be his dream come true - the best of both worlds in one soul.