BrokenWimp said:
I work abroad a lot, a couple of months at a time.
Sounds like trouble.
BrokenWimp said:
If she's been your GF for five years, congratulations.
BrokenWimp said:
.... has a very high sex drive, but has been faithful so far.
You think. If so, it sounds like she's also very patient.
BrokenWimp said:
Her BFF doesn't like me very much, as I kinda took her away from partying, drinking and men when we started dating. Recently, though, her BFF has been using my absence as an excuse to try and seduce my GF back to her old ways.
If your woman's best friend forever (BFF) is a man, as I gather he is, then yes.... I would think so.
BrokenWimp said:
Already some things have crept into our conversations: "What do you think of BDSM?", "do you think you could choke me and sit on my face?", "I'm going to buy this dildo...". It's slowly getting more intense.
These all sound like things you should respond to in positive ways. Tell her that BDSM sounds interesting. If you don't want to choke her and sit on her face, suggest she sit on your face and ride you to orgasm. For illustrations of how to do that, google "thumbzilla: woman riding man's face videos" (without the quotes).
BrokenWimp said:
It's slowly getting more intense. I'm vaguely vanilla and unsure what to do.
What you want to do is, give your woman sexual pleasure in whatever wayrs she wants. If she wants BDSM, give her BDSM. Otherwise, there.'s a good chance she will return permanently to her best friend forever (BFF, as you call him).
BrokenWimp said:
I'm really not dominant at all,.
That's OK. Lots of people aren't dominant. According to a survey (published elsewhere on a site that no longer exists, unfortunately), about 15 percent of men have dominant personalities. About 14 percent of women also have dominant personalities (statistically the same). Maybe you should suggest to your woman tthat the two of you move toward a female-dominant (Femdom) or female-led relationship where she is the dominant partner. Lots of men — probably lots more than you think — want, many of them secretly, to be in a relationship where the woman is the dominant partner and the man (you, in this case) is submissive. For a way to move toward a relationship of this nature, you might introduce your woman to the site:
Real Women Don't Do Housework, here:
Real Women Don't Do Housework
BrokenWimp said:
Don't worry about it. That's definitely a lot better than being a heavily-overweight white guy.