Dear Anglebaby:
Thank you for reviving this thread.
Tupinnisnmo will definitely not be back, because his last login was 18 months ago.
But his original post is excellent.
It should be read, and it is a point definitely worth reviving.
We would like to give our opinion.
We totally disagree with Tupinisinmo's views.
In our experience, and after 30 years of Cuckolding, it has been the most beautiful experience for us as a couple.
None of those things has happened to us.
In fact it has strenghthened our marriage, made us incredibly happy and made us love each other more.
Nevertheless, what happened to Tupinisinmo will happen if a few simple rules are not observed.
We will mention the rules that we followed from the beginning, and that we now understand were the reason that everything turned out right.
We started Cuckolding when Alicia was 19, and these were our rules:
1) Cuckolding is all about love. It is not about sex, nor is it about simple physical pleasure.
(Though of course there is intense physical pleasure involved)
In other words, the couple must love each other deeply and think in terms of pleasing each other, but never think in terms of pleasing only the wife.
2) Alicia always chose her lovers. Always someone she liked, and who she felt comfortable with.
She particularily likes men that are gentle and kind, and they must abide by our rules. (Not by their own selfish rules).
3) Alicia would always do things at her pace. (Slowly)
She would never advance beyond the point where she was in control.
And if the lover was not following the rules, she would inmediately cut her relationship with him. (No matter how much she liked him physically).
4) Alicia will always respect her lover's feelings. In other words, she will always give him the best possible, and also be kind with his feelings.
5) In my case (Jorge) I always trust Alicia unconditionally, so that what she tells me is the truth to me.
And if once in a while she omits, some detail from her trysts, that is no reason for me to reprimand her, but rather is an expression of her humanity and her normal failings as a beautiful human being.
6) We plan everything together. (Sometimes things do not go exactly as planned) but no matter, this is also expected, and is no reason not to forgive each other and thus to love each other.
7) Every couple is different, so this must be explored together.
For example in our case, Alicia does not like me (Jorge) to have sex with other women, so I have accepted that.
8) Finally (But not least) we made a pact in the beggining.
That if Alicia ever fell in love with another man and left me.
I would still provide for her, for the rest of her life.
If things did not turn out right after she left me, I would accept her back.
If she never came back, no matter.
She would always be a part of me, and I would provide economically for her for the rest of her life.
So those are our rules.
We hope that they can help those that are undecided.
They have helped us during these 30 years.
And all we can say is that Cuckolding is the most beautiful of human experiences.
Best Regards:
Alicia and Jorge