I find it so hard to believe all the bs i read. I've been lurking here for years, not sure if and when I should actually say something. I get the fantasy....I understand why there are so many posts but unfortunately sooo many are false. I want it....I think I want it and I have talked about it with her...sometimes she panders to me other times she gets pissed. I know what that means......she is just as confused as I am. Why isn't there anything here that honestly describes or helps those of us that are struggling with why this is what we want. I guarantee that almost every post that says "oh yeah my wife blah blah blah is bullshit and some guys fantasy. I'm scared and confused and not afraid to admit it. Where the fuck do I get real direction that makes sense? I cant even tell if the wife pics, stories or vids are legit and my gut tells me they are not. I like them, don't get me wrong but where does the fantasy end and the reality start? I know i'm not alone in this quirk....it's rampant but how do i believe i can make it happen if everything out there is based on total BS. My wife has gone on the chat a few times......even she walks away thinking it was really not what it was portrayed to be and then she loses interest. I either need to figure this out or put it to rest. My fears and anxiety are blocking it I think but for fuck sake...how do I show her this site as a means to say "hey i'm not so different" when the truth is that everything here is bullshit?
I'm giving up.....
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iexport - do you and your wife watch porn or read Penthouse Letters magazines? When we first broached this subject now almost 16 years ago, my wife said she wasn't totally surprised at all as there were annual "Wife Watching" issues of Letters magazines as well as entire sections in the other issues devoted to the subject. I know long ago, we never assumed much of the stories were true, but now we think/know differently. Just as on this and other websites there are threads that show the more extremes - personally, until recently I'd assumed they were more fantasy than reality but my own most recent experiences have changed that.
But it doesn't matter if what you read or see is real or not - what matters is whether it arouses you and your wife - and whether you find that arousal strong enough to continue exploring. You don't go from reading stories to her with another guy overnight. It took us 10 years to go from the talk to the walk.
But it doesn't matter if what you read or see is real or not - what matters is whether it arouses you and your wife - and whether you find that arousal strong enough to continue exploring. You don't go from reading stories to her with another guy overnight. It took us 10 years to go from the talk to the walk.
My wife was opposed to me posting anything here. Her thought is we have our life, everybody else has their live, what we do is for us and only us and where we are is all by our choice. Sites like this is just mostly good erotica to read and sometimes gives you ideas that you discuss together.
Also STB good post on this...
Also STB good post on this...
Iexport...I agree with your statement and share your frustration and is why I have removed all of my photos/posts. I too get tired of guys posting fake pics of their "wife's" which just happen to be model quality and asking how to get a guy to fuck her. However, I haven't totally thrown out the baby with the bathwater. The site is ok, but needs a way to remove the posers by either some sort of cc verification or other way to verify users. I just haven't found a better site with a forum to share my fantasies.
