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Mid 30s couple guy here

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Hi all, introducing myself here to have a sorts of a diary. English is not my first language, apologies for any weird wording and such.

We're a couple, married with children, in our mid 30s living in a small town. We met when she was a 19yo virgin and I was a 21yo guy with some experience. We fell in love, studied, started working, bought a house, had a kid, had another kid. For most of the time I've had some interest in cuckolding, or should I say voyeurism or stag type of thing. I'm not interested in being a sissy, but I'd love my wife to play with other men too :p

I honestly consider her to be an exceptionally beautiful woman. She has long slim legs, nice round medium sized ass, thin waist for a 35yo mom of two, small firm breasts, pale skin, pretty face and long, brown hair. I'm sure there'd be plenty of men willing to try her out, but she's so picky I never understood how she ended up with me :D

Wife's been aware of this for several years and is pretty comfortable with the topic, but has not made any moves towards actually approaching other men with any such thoughts. She has said it's not completely impossible that she'd do it, but she's been unwilling to actively start looking for a lover/bull so nothing has happened.

I've recently managed to convince her to visit a sex/swinger club of sorts. It's a place not too far from where we live. There was maybe 30 other people around. Couples, men, women. She was wearing a slightly transparent dress and sexy panties. One middle eastern guy showed lot of interest towards her but she did not like it. The guy was a bit of a mood killer to be honest, hanging around us and sneaking around. We eventually ended up fucking in a remote corner, she was riding me and some people walked across the room and she was fine with that. One guy asked if it's OK to watch, I asked her if that's OK for her, and she had no issue with it. After we got home she said she still wants some and hasn't been this aroused for a long time so I fucked her on the couch and she was using a satisfyer and came hard :)

We've agreed to go to such parties again, but organizing it is not that simple. We don't have too many people around who are able to take care of the kids while we're away. There's all sorts of happenings, work, gardening, car and house repair, friend's weddings, kids are sick, relatives visiting and all that, so unfortunately having quality time as a couple for a long enough period to get into the mood and play around etc is a bit too rare. She seemed to be aroused about the party and what happened there, so apparently there is hope she opens up and may get into less vanilla things :)

Our sex life is currently a bit me wanting more than her, and we have sex maybe 2-3 times a month on average and she rarely suggests or makes the first move.

Looking forward to posting more, feel free to ask about us and our situation if there's anything you want to know :)
 
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A lot of people do not want to come out so boldly in the lifestyle like at parties. You may see someone you know there. Most here are lurking about in the shadows and I fully understand that as none of this mixes well with kids, careers and families.

I would try to find a willing couple or a married guy to chat with the both of you first. Share pics and then sexting. It is a slow process or should be as a lot can go wrong.
 
Wow sounds like you guys want to progress but as stated by surrender above you need to take it slow as it can go very wrong. I am a married bull and trust me some couple have tried to rush it and I have walked away as it’s gets really messy. Need to find the right person and go slow as it will happen if it’s meant to but rushing will causes issues for all concerned.
 
Yorks I saw how it can go wrong too - jealousy, denal, lying, uncertainty. I would say 4 of 5 times this LS brings out the worst in people at one time or the aother. I know porn movies don't show it and these sites don't either, but couples expect to see things in your spouse you have not seen before in normal everyday life.
 
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Yeah we certainly want to take it slow and also enjoy the travel, not just the destination.

Not much to report currently here. Sex life has been on hibernation a bit, but occationally some nice relatively vanilla sex. What I do enjoy is that she openly plays with our relatively big dildo as part of the foreplay and has absolutely no issues in me watching, it actually seems almost like she enjoys performing to some extent. Which makes me think she could put up quite a show with a suitable bull :p

We've also discussed going to a swinger/sex/open minded party again, but the schedules with all the work, hobbies, relatives etc have been a bit difficult to match so still nothing has been actually booked but she's open to going somewhere again. She has said her preference might be an open-minded party where anything can happen, but nothing is taken for granted and people know how to behave towards each other. We've discussed that she might be open to being seduced, but is not willing to actively start looking for men e.g. on Tinder.
 
What country you in ?


SmallTownGuy said:
Hi all, introducing myself here to have a sorts of a diary. English is not my first language, apologies for any weird wording and such.

We're a couple, married with children, in our mid 30s living in a small town. We met when she was a 19yo virgin and I was a 21yo guy with some experience. We fell in love, studied, started working, bought a house, had a kid, had another kid. For most of the time I've had some interest in cuckolding, or should I say voyeurism or stag type of thing. I'm not interested in being a sissy, but I'd love my wife to play with other men too :p

I honestly consider her to be an exceptionally beautiful woman. She has long slim legs, nice round medium sized ass, thin waist for a 35yo mom of two, small firm breasts, pale skin, pretty face and long, brown hair. I'm sure there'd be plenty of men willing to try her out, but she's so picky I never understood how she ended up with me :D

Wife's been aware of this for several years and is pretty comfortable with the topic, but has not made any moves towards actually approaching other men with any such thoughts. She has said it's not completely impossible that she'd do it, but she's been unwilling to actively start looking for a lover/bull so nothing has happened.

I've recently managed to convince her to visit a sex/swinger club of sorts. It's a place not too far from where we live. There was maybe 30 other people around. Couples, men, women. She was wearing a slightly transparent dress and sexy panties. One middle eastern guy showed lot of interest towards her but she did not like it. The guy was a bit of a mood killer to be honest, hanging around us and sneaking around. We eventually ended up fucking in a remote corner, she was riding me and some people walked across the room and she was fine with that. One guy asked if it's OK to watch, I asked her if that's OK for her, and she had no issue with it. After we got home she said she still wants some and hasn't been this aroused for a long time so I fucked her on the couch and she was using a satisfyer and came hard :)

We've agreed to go to such parties again, but organizing it is not that simple. We don't have too many people around who are able to take care of the kids while we're away. There's all sorts of happenings, work, gardening, car and house repair, friend's weddings, kids are sick, relatives visiting and all that, so unfortunately having quality time as a couple for a long enough period to get into the mood and play around etc is a bit too rare. She seemed to be aroused about the party and what happened there, so apparently there is hope she opens up and may get into less vanilla things :)

Our sex life is currently a bit me wanting more than her, and we have sex maybe 2-3 times a month on average and she rarely suggests or makes the first move.

Looking forward to posting more, feel free to ask about us and our situation if there's anything you want to know :)
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Some updates :)

Still no breakthrough. Sex life has been a bit more active lately, though I'm still the one to usually make the first move. It appears like she rarely is initially into it or actively wants it, but enjoys it nonetheless when she's not too tired or stressed out or anything like that. Also the dildo has seen frequent use as foreplay, or should I say the dildo often first gets her to the top and then it's my turn :)

We've been to a sex/swinger party twice now and ended up having sex on both times, just the two of us. She has gained some attention, which is not a surprise as she is a beautiful woman. The first one was a relatively quiet evening on a more S/Mish club than what we actually enjoy, but it was fun nonetheless. There was one guy who was lurking her a bit, and while I was away for a while let her know he's good at cunnilingus and offered that to her. When we were in a hot tub the guy also joined us and was a bit awkward and tried touching her legs under water which was a bit of a turn-off. Later the same guy was peeking through the door gap while we were having fun in one of the rooms with a closed door. We left the club after she had given me some head and she rode me in a remote room while some people were passing by on the other side of the room. Afterwards she was quite horny and wanted another round on the sofa when we got home.

The next party was a bit more nightclub like setting, but it was also a very quiet evening and we didn't communicate much with other people that night. We had some drinks, chatted, had sex and left.

We're going again to a party next month. I'm trying to gather courage to suggest her to wear an anklet and get her in the mood for looking for a guy to have fun with.
 
SmallTownGuy said:
Some updates :)

Still no breakthrough. Sex life has been a bit more active lately, though I'm still the one to usually make the first move. It appears like she rarely is initially into it or actively wants it, but enjoys it nonetheless when she's not too tired or stressed out or anything like that. Also the dildo has seen frequent use as foreplay, or should I say the dildo often first gets her to the top and then it's my turn :)

We've been to a sex/swinger party twice now and ended up having sex on both times, just the two of us. She has gained some attention, which is not a surprise as she is a beautiful woman. The first one was a relatively quiet evening on a more S/Mish club than what we actually enjoy, but it was fun nonetheless. There was one guy who was lurking her a bit, and while I was away for a while let her know he's good at cunnilingus and offered that to her. When we were in a hot tub the guy also joined us and was a bit awkward and tried touching her legs under water which was a bit of a turn-off. Later the same guy was peeking through the door gap while we were having fun in one of the rooms with a closed door. We left the club after she had given me some head and she rode me in a remote room while some people were passing by on the other side of the room. Afterwards she was quite horny and wanted another round on the sofa when we got home.

The next party was a bit more nightclub like setting, but it was also a very quiet evening and we didn't communicate much with other people that night. We had some drinks, chatted, had sex and left.

We're going again to a party next month. I'm trying to gather courage to suggest her to wear an anklet and get her in the mood for looking for a guy to have fun with.
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Where are you guys based and what clubs i would love to join you both
 
Sorry, not looking for a live meetup here :) Also far away from UK.
 
Hello and welcome to the forums.
Msg me if you ever want to just chat.
 
Not sure if this actually is anything, but seems like she has found a guy at work that she enjoys spending time with :) He is 21 years his senior, haven't met him but apparently a nice guy in good shape. They've went for a beer together after work once but there was someone else with them, though I kind of got the feeling my wife was primarily interested in his company. Let's call him Andy.

So we had the following discussion yesterday:
Wife: Do you have something scheduled for next Friday?
Me: Not really, I'm available all evening after work.
Wife: There's a company party coming... And Andy had asked me if I'd like to come to bar with him afterwards.
Me: Sure, go ahead, I can take care or the kids. You just have fun.
Wife: He's going to play a round of golf in the afternoon and then come, he said we could leave to the bar early instead of staying at the party. That sounds like me :)
Me: Sounds good, you just have fun, all good.

She also later said she'll have to ensure he actually offers her a ride as the party will be located at a somewhat remote location and she'll be going there with some other coworkers so she doesn't have a car. I said a gentleman probably will give the lady a ride if she's in need :)
 
Damn, the date (if it is a date, not sure) is in risk of being cancelled. The company party apparently was cancelled.

Me: Well, you could then just go with Andy
Wife: I have plenty of opportunities to go to bar with him.
Me: Yeah, but you already had agreed that for this Friday so no need to change the plans
Wife: I'd have to contact him to agree about that
Me: Then just do that
Wife: Let's see :)
 
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